Making a move on a woman who has a boyfriend

[boomerang]

The only time it's not OK is when her boyfriend is a cop.

 

[MielkeHBP]

I dont think it matters, if two people are in love, you shouldnt get any success....unless you lie and use uncool tactics to break them up

 

[moshquerade]

i wonder what a poll would show here if it asked if any of you guys have actually pursued a girl you know was taken and happy in the relationship versus those who never came close to doing such a thing.

i'm thinking those who tried to get with a girl who had a boyfriend would outnumber those that didn't.

i know i've had many shameless attempts even when the guy knew i was in a good relationship.

 

[Bill Brasky]

Originally posted by: DougK62
Is it morally wrong to make a move on a woman when you know that she has been with her boyfriend for a fair amount of time (say 2 years), and appears to be reasonably happy?

Yes, it is wrong, and yes, you'll get shot down. The best thing thing you can do is be nice to her and become friends. If/When they break up you'll be there for the rebound.

 

[undeclared]

I share the view of probably the majority of people in here saying that you shouldn't do it.

I have a friend though, who has an interesting opinion, and I find it an interesting argument he puts out.

If the girl is going to cheat, she's going to cheat anyway, and it doesn't matter if it's you, or Joe Blow off the street, you're just taking away your opportunities..

^- I think it's probably true, but I wouldn't do it nonetheless myself

 

[Roguestar]

The true hallmark of a worthless thread is if you see the thread title/description in the forum index, and can answer it with a single word. Then the only other content is based on resisting the urge to insult the OP.

 

[b0mbrman]

Originally posted by: DougK62
Is it morally wrong to make a move on a woman when you know that she has been with her boyfriend for a fair amount of time (say 2 years), and appears to be reasonably happy?

You just need to ask yourself, "How would you feel if it happened to you?"

 

[Lalakai]

Gotta go with "No", it's not wrong.

If she's happy with her current relationship, she'll take it as compliment that she's attractive, but won't respond and that will end it. the guy might be a bit jealous but also has to realize that if he was attracted to her in the first place, then it's logical that others would also be attracted to her. he should have enough confidence in their relationship that it won't threaten him.

do i get jealous when others hit on my wife? No. She likes the compliment, I'm not worried that she's looking elsewhere for something she's not getting in our relationship.

But if you make your intention known, and you get flatline response, then it's time to drop the issue and move on.

 

[Gdepp519]

heres my rule.. if you're willing to break them up.. and get with her.. while she has another bf.. then..


you have to make sure.. that if she did it once.. she may do it again with you... and leave you for another guy that could come along
somewhere down the line..

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: bignateyk
uhh yes.

The only time I would even consider it is if she had only been dating the guy for a few months, and she wasnt very happy.

 

[orion23]

It is wrong, but I must admit that it is very hard to like someone (possible love), who is either married or in a relationship and not do anything about it, specially when the feelings are mutual!

 

[mrrman]

Originally posted by: purbeast0
what a stupid question ... you already know the answer to it.

 

[ballmode]

GOD YES