Duddy
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yhelothar
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Maybe that's a good thing? Maybe you shouldn't be with her if she doesn't like you that much anyways?
Would you rather have a relationship where your partner is depressed because she feels tied to you while she likes someone else?
Fvck that. Just let her leave.
alkemyst
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- Feb 13, 2001
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It's fair game. Most of the time it's those that are insecure in their own relationships that worry about this.
Even a married person shouldn't be off-limits to a single person if they think they would be great for them.
The chick (or guy) can simply say no thanks. If they decide to persue it; it has nothing to do with the single person asking...there is more going on there.
Go right ahead and do it. It's not right or wrong, but you're opening up a whole new world of problems by going into that type of relationship. If she'll cheat to be with you then she'll cheat on you etc...
Lure her out of her current relationship and then drop her on her head like a bag of quickie store ice. Nothing like knowing you are in total control of both yourself and others.
Xstatic1
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it's pretty much a given that average to good-looking women (who are both happy & unhappy) will get hit on by single guys AND married guys. it's just the way the world works. to ask if it's wrong, even morally, is kinda ludicrous because women are gonna be wooed regardless.
Wow I am surprised that so many guys voted yes. Anyone who is saying that a guy who hits on a "taken" girl is fairly opening themselves to a beat down is out of their mind. Sorry guys, just because a girl is your "girlfriend" doesn't mean she is your property.
1) Often guys don't know that a girl has a boyfriend (yes I know that this scenario is off-topic from the original post)
2) Girls with boyfriends put out the vibe all the time - trust me I bet 50% of your girlfriends flirt when you're not around.
1) Often guys don't know that a girl has a boyfriend (yes I know that this scenario is off-topic from the original post)
2) Girls with boyfriends put out the vibe all the time - trust me I bet 50% of your girlfriends flirt when you're not around.
Beev
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I'm coming into this topic very, very late, but I have first hand experience with this type of situation.
Don't do it. I did and I regret it to this day. I was a horrible, horrible person and deserved to have my ass beat, although it never happened. Now, if she breaks up with him of her own free will then by all means make a move, but don't do anything to make her breakup with him. Let her decide that on her own.
Don't do it. I did and I regret it to this day. I was a horrible, horrible person and deserved to have my ass beat, although it never happened. Now, if she breaks up with him of her own free will then by all means make a move, but don't do anything to make her breakup with him. Let her decide that on her own.
AbAbber2k
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My current GF had a BF when I first started dating her. 
She didn't tell me until about a week in. I knew something was wrong because she was being REALLY reserved as far as being physical with me (not talking about sex, just general stuff like kissing, touching, hand-holding, etc). Anyway, after she told me, we talked for a while and she said she didn't know what to do but she really liked me. I told her I didn't want her to do anything she'd regret and then changed the subject. It wasn't much later that I had my tongue down her throat. Then a week later she broke up with her BF.
Would I have acted differently if I'd know ahead of time? Probably not. The only difference would have been that the context of our initial encounters would have been different. Instead of going out on "dates" I would have just been around her with my friends hanging out and flirting in public, and eventually we would have ended up in the same place.
Oh, and I didn't feel the least bit guilty about it.
She didn't tell me until about a week in. I knew something was wrong because she was being REALLY reserved as far as being physical with me (not talking about sex, just general stuff like kissing, touching, hand-holding, etc). Anyway, after she told me, we talked for a while and she said she didn't know what to do but she really liked me. I told her I didn't want her to do anything she'd regret and then changed the subject. It wasn't much later that I had my tongue down her throat. Then a week later she broke up with her BF.Would I have acted differently if I'd know ahead of time? Probably not. The only difference would have been that the context of our initial encounters would have been different. Instead of going out on "dates" I would have just been around her with my friends hanging out and flirting in public, and eventually we would have ended up in the same place.
Oh, and I didn't feel the least bit guilty about it.
Wrong or not, why would you want to do it? Sure, you like her, she is with someone else, you offer her more (money maybe, a nice car, who knows)... Now you are the one stuck with the constant doubt of wondering how soon another guy comes along and she dumps you for him.
Actually, this would be a very good test (although it would only show you distrust your girlfriend). Have a guy hit on her and see what happens. If she seems amenable to it, then you might have a problem. Of course the second she finds out you faked this, she would dump your ass anyways.
Incidently, even if you ask this question to yourself about your girlfriend (what would she do?), it is a sign that trust is lacking in the relationship. If you can tell yourself 'I know for certain she would say no', then you are in a safe place.
Actually, this would be a very good test (although it would only show you distrust your girlfriend). Have a guy hit on her and see what happens. If she seems amenable to it, then you might have a problem. Of course the second she finds out you faked this, she would dump your ass anyways.
Incidently, even if you ask this question to yourself about your girlfriend (what would she do?), it is a sign that trust is lacking in the relationship. If you can tell yourself 'I know for certain she would say no', then you are in a safe place.
DivideBYZero
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Fingolfin269
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moshquerade
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Guys like you that even have a doubt like that in your mind need to go to hell and die and leave other's personal relationships in peace. Without a doubt it is wrong to hit on someone else's girlfriend ESPECIALLY if she seems happy and has been with him for something like 2 years. Seriously I hope if you ever try that on some girl I hope her boyfriend is man enough to whoop your ass and teach you a proper less because apparently your parents didn't teach you anything about respect.
Read this thread and see what happens when you mess with a guys girlfriend.
http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview...atid=38&threadid=2038543&enterthread=y
So it is okay for your girlfriend to go sleep around as long as she doesn't tell anyone about you? Great logic.
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