NoVA is not a good place for a growing family? I was looking at places like Reston (or really anywhere in Fairfax county) considering there are supposed to be a lot of IT jobs there. I also am partial to DC (sports) so was hoping to find a good suburban place nearby without having to deal with high taxes associated with living just outside a big city. Beaches within driving distance? Any other good towns around there?
I wouldn't say so, but I was more talking about DC itself, Arlington, Alexandria, and PG/Montgomery Co -- the "close in" counties.
If you move farther out, like Reston, you will get more space for less money. The schools are good. The commute will be horrible to most places from Reston, though. Most of Fairfax Co is going to be on the 66, 267 toll road, or 395 corridor, commuting "in" to the city.
For what it's worth, I'm getting married in a few weeks, and we've decided we don't want to raise our kids here, but we live in Arlington.
I'm not sure what your budget is, but if you can afford McLean or some place way north in Arlington, it's not a bad family setup. I live on the metro (house) in North Arlington and it's just too busy, no one lets their kids play outside. Our base property tax rate is under 1% (about .86% this year) which is nice, considering that 500k+ is what you'd need for a decent size house and lot in N. Arlington. Public schools are great.
If you're raising kids, I would strongly suggest the following:
North Arlington (in the Yorktown or Washington-Lee HS districts)
McLean (anywhere)
Falls Church City (Zip Code 22046, not to be confused with Falls Church in Fairfax Co, for its access to the McLean school district)
Vienna (good balance of distance and metro access)
If you need more space to live a little bit cheaper, Alexandria is a decent place. I'd suggest outside of Alexandria City proper, on the Fairfax County side for slightly better schools.
EDIT: You asked about beaches. Not really. Ocean City, MD and Dewey/Lewes, DE are the more common destinations from here. Maybe 2 hrs. VA Beach is about 3 hrs away and isn't all that great, but maybe a little more family-oriented.
What type of IT do you do?