Well ppl,
Maybe u remember were things were at with me a few weeks ago. basically I've been at college for 6-7 weeks now, and I have had a hell of a hard time, and have been really persevering to go on even though i want to drop out.
basically I've been hit with loads and loads of stress, depression, and anxiety attacks, and all of this has distracted me from maintaining my diet/workout/sleep patterns, homework routine, spiritual energy, etc
pretty much i've felt worse than i ever have before and i've wanted to leave this place, but i've just been trying to hang it out.
Another moster sized problem: was back in high school i had a horrible time with things socially, and was a shy guy who didnt really talk to anyone. was too afraid too, etc.
i had always hoped that when i got to college this would be a magical flip around, a cinderella story, where i could finally have my deepest desire: a social life.
well, unfortunately here's the deal: because of my hectic time here, i've missed out on a lot of social opportunity, was also put on a floor with very few ppl, and finally got to switch to a new floor 6 weeks into things.
however here's the problem: my anxiety attacks have been killing me socially. when they happen, I attend to avoid ppl completely during them (they last about a couple days) and even a couple more days afterwards.
when I am stable I can do a lot better socially but its still a lot of work to get me to do things right, and Im no where near a prodigy at it yet. For example, I cant just go up and sit by ppl in the cafeteria that i dont know and start talkin to them.
granted its possible to break into floor cliques, even 6 weeks into the year, but u gotta be strong to do it, a genuine extrovert, a social expertise.
u know, on top of things its ironic that i care so much about having a floor w/ ppl, because what i really need is quality friends who care about the same beliefs as me, etc, christian friends.
fortunately a week ago i found out about a cool christian group here called IVCF, that I joined, where they meet as a whole (60-75 awesome kids) once a week, and also have small group meetings 2 times a week as well. I went to the retreat last weekend, got a lot out of it spiritually but unforunately also had an anxiety attack during it, so socially it was a failure,
anyways, back to the problem:
how do you guys suggest I talk to ppl and make friends here? from both my floor and that IVCF group i joined. Im in desperate need of some ppl to hang out with/ trust, and its really lonely up here,
yet making friends is so hard.
especially on a new floor where u feel estranged from everyone, and its 6 weeks into things.
so can you guys give me some pointers?
like i wanna just go down to ppls rooms and start talkin to them but its so hard to do.
why is it always so hard to do whats right?
agggggg......
*cries for help another time*
Maybe u remember were things were at with me a few weeks ago. basically I've been at college for 6-7 weeks now, and I have had a hell of a hard time, and have been really persevering to go on even though i want to drop out.
basically I've been hit with loads and loads of stress, depression, and anxiety attacks, and all of this has distracted me from maintaining my diet/workout/sleep patterns, homework routine, spiritual energy, etc
pretty much i've felt worse than i ever have before and i've wanted to leave this place, but i've just been trying to hang it out.
Another moster sized problem: was back in high school i had a horrible time with things socially, and was a shy guy who didnt really talk to anyone. was too afraid too, etc.
i had always hoped that when i got to college this would be a magical flip around, a cinderella story, where i could finally have my deepest desire: a social life.
well, unfortunately here's the deal: because of my hectic time here, i've missed out on a lot of social opportunity, was also put on a floor with very few ppl, and finally got to switch to a new floor 6 weeks into things.
however here's the problem: my anxiety attacks have been killing me socially. when they happen, I attend to avoid ppl completely during them (they last about a couple days) and even a couple more days afterwards.
when I am stable I can do a lot better socially but its still a lot of work to get me to do things right, and Im no where near a prodigy at it yet. For example, I cant just go up and sit by ppl in the cafeteria that i dont know and start talkin to them.
granted its possible to break into floor cliques, even 6 weeks into the year, but u gotta be strong to do it, a genuine extrovert, a social expertise.
u know, on top of things its ironic that i care so much about having a floor w/ ppl, because what i really need is quality friends who care about the same beliefs as me, etc, christian friends.
fortunately a week ago i found out about a cool christian group here called IVCF, that I joined, where they meet as a whole (60-75 awesome kids) once a week, and also have small group meetings 2 times a week as well. I went to the retreat last weekend, got a lot out of it spiritually but unforunately also had an anxiety attack during it, so socially it was a failure,
anyways, back to the problem:
how do you guys suggest I talk to ppl and make friends here? from both my floor and that IVCF group i joined. Im in desperate need of some ppl to hang out with/ trust, and its really lonely up here,
yet making friends is so hard.
especially on a new floor where u feel estranged from everyone, and its 6 weeks into things.
so can you guys give me some pointers?
like i wanna just go down to ppls rooms and start talkin to them but its so hard to do.
why is it always so hard to do whats right?
agggggg......
*cries for help another time*
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