And I've replaced a lot of stuff. All the basics, fences, retaining walls, patio cover and landscaping. Then the wear out stuff, roof and all new windows. Totally remodeled the kitchen, cabinets, tops, back splash and appliances. Corrected a couple of flaws in the original design. Did both baths as well. All new interior doors and trim, granite entry floor and bamboo everywhere else, scraped all of that miserable popcorn off of all the ceilings and skimmed them smooth. Obviously complete interior and exterior paint. Also built an entertainment center across the end of my family room, maybe fifteen feet wide. Cabinets, shelving, and a space that fits the TV without a single wire showing. Even did a little niche for the sound bar below the tv. Came out really good. Replaced the heat and AC, put drywall in the garage and epoxied the floor. Made the living room into an awesome home office. Twenty feet of granite counter, cabinets, floating shelves with LED strip lighting, and recessed ceiling lights.You are doing it right. Do your kitchen the way you want if and enjoy.
People get waaaaaay too hung up on resale value and that is close to irrelevant. You will never predict what a buyer wants, never.
Upgrade or repair as you see fit and what works for you.
Also don’t do all this stuff immediately before selling, do stuff so you can enjoy it.
Only stuff you should do for selling is fix anything that is broken and definitely something that is unsafe (steps, railings, your broken deck board) and price accordingly. Fixing or upgrading stuff in your home before sale is almost always a loss, unless you are like @Greenman and can replace stuff at cost.
I think that's all the big stuff. Might have missed some odds and ends. I have no idea how many weekends I've spent working on this place.