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Ladies with kids would you be offended by the comment.

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I have found at work its much better to not be a smartass.
You can very easily go over the line and make someone mad. You may not even realize you did it at the time. An hour later someone else might come by and have to tell you why it was bad.
Or you could not cross the line and simply piss someone off because they're too sensitive or took it the wrong way. And you'll still look like the asshole.


Having said all that:
She should get over herself. Women need to understand they are NOT the center of the universe simply because they had kids. It takes very little work to get impregnated and squirt out a baby.
It takes enormous amounts of work to raise that baby correctly.

But I dont think I've ever heard a woman brag or be complemented on her mom skills. Most women seem to get loads of kudos and satisfaction simply for breeding.
Along those lines, you didnt insult her as a mom. You actually insulted her mothering skills, and I can see why she'd be upset.
Dont insult the kids directly, that reflects on the mom.
Dont insult the mom skills.

In fact since you now have a tenuous relationship, dont make any more jokes at her expense. From this point on she will take almost anything as offensive. And last time I checked, companies dont have a statute of limitations.
Something could happen between you two several years from now and she could still bring it up as a history of anti-social behavior.
 
It depends on the tone you said it in. The statement by itself, would get a laugh out of most of the people I know. Now if you said it with a serious tone, then yes it would be offensive to most people. OTOH if you say it while you are smiling and laughing, then no it shouldn't offend her because it was obviously a joke.

Then again it's better to just not talk at all to coworkers so you don't have this issue 🙂
 
Eh...it could've been worse. You could've said:

"Maybe he enjoys being molested by the camp counselor."

Now that would've put a crawl in her ass for sure.
 
was it over the line? sure to many it is.

i would have laughed and said No i want to get away from them!
 
Pfffffttt.... that's pretty funny and not over the line. It's very possible that it's true that he likes getting away from them, but not in the bad way that she is probably thinking. Maybe he really does like exploring his "independence" a bit.


Not over the line: "Maybe he enjoys getting away from you"

Over the line: "Maybe he likes it that the counselors don't beat him like you do."
 
Tone is everything in that situation, but also familiarity. If she doesn't know you well or you have had friction(non-sexual 😉) between you in the past, she may have taken it the wrong way.
 
I would not have laughed because it just isn't funny whether it is true or not. Why risk upsetting someone like that at work? So pointless.
 
are you on joking terms with her? You should really have a rapport with people you make sarcastic insults to, and make sure that they can handle them.
 
Originally posted by: ICRS
Coworker "My son wants to go to a summer camp this year for a few weeks"
Me "Why"
Her "He said he enoys the outdoors and fresh air, he really enjoyed the week long school camping trip this year"
Me "Are you sure that is the reason, or maybe he enjoys getting away from you"
Her (Hurtful look)
Me "Oh I am only joking, I am sorry don't be offended"
Her (Half ass akward smile)

So was my comment really over the line about her son wanting to get away from her.

lady needs to lighten the fuck up.
 
Many women (mothers in this case) take those sorts of comments/jokes personally.

Had it been a father you were talking to this wouldn't have even been an issue.
 
I actually am a lady with kids, so here's my response.

Would I be offended? Nope - because I know it's true, and also that I am equally thrilled to get rid of the kid for a while. But that's just me.

Is it over the line? Yes, because a lot of moms would be offended, and you don't know which ones. Best to tread carefully.

 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: ICRS
Coworker "My son wants to go to a summer camp this year for a few weeks"
Me "Why"
Her "He said he enoys the outdoors and fresh air, he really enjoyed the week long school camping trip this year"
Me "Are you sure that is the reason, or maybe he enjoys getting away from you"
Her (Hurtful look)
Me "Oh I am only joking, I am sorry don't be offended"
Her (Half ass akward smile)

So was my comment really over the line about her son wanting to get away from her.

lady needs to lighten the fuck up.

Everyone has a few weaknesses involving certain subjects which they are more sensitive about. It's not fair to blame her for hers any more than it is to you to blame me for mine or someone else blaming you for yours. That's just part of life.
 
Maybe it depended on your tone, too. If you say it with the wrong emphasis, it might come off as an intentionally offensive remark.

But seriously, hey, people like vacations, and sometimes you do need to spend some time away from family.

 
Originally posted by: ICRS
Coworker "My son wants to go to a summer camp this year for a few weeks"
Me "Why"
Her "He said he enoys the outdoors and fresh air, he really enjoyed the week long school camping trip this year"
Me "Are you sure that is the reason, or maybe he enjoys getting away from you"
Her (Hurtful look)
Me "Oh I am only joking, I am sorry don't be offended"
Her (Half ass akward smile)

So was my comment really over the line about her son wanting to get away from her.

You get this from the Two and a Half men rerun just on?
 
Originally posted by: Xavier434
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: ICRS
Coworker "My son wants to go to a summer camp this year for a few weeks"
Me "Why"
Her "He said he enoys the outdoors and fresh air, he really enjoyed the week long school camping trip this year"
Me "Are you sure that is the reason, or maybe he enjoys getting away from you"
Her (Hurtful look)
Me "Oh I am only joking, I am sorry don't be offended"
Her (Half ass akward smile)

So was my comment really over the line about her son wanting to get away from her.

lady needs to lighten the fuck up.

Everyone has a few weaknesses involving certain subjects which they are more sensitive about. It's not fair to blame her for hers any more than it is to you to blame me for mine or someone else blaming you for yours. That's just part of life.
lady still needs to lighten the fuck up.
 
Originally posted by: ICRS
Coworker "My son wants to go to a summer camp this year for a few weeks"
Me "Why"
Her "He said he enoys the outdoors and fresh air, he really enjoyed the week long school camping trip this year"
Me "Are you sure that is the reason, or maybe he enjoys getting away from you"
Her (Hurtful look)
Me "Oh I am only joking, I am sorry don't be offended"
Her (Half ass akward smile)

So was my comment really over the line about her son wanting to get away from her.

She will probably come to the proper conclusion after she thinks about it.

You're parents sucked and touched you as a child. Now you are projecting your hatred for your parents onto someone else instead of dealing with you secrure attachment. :beer:

 
The way you phrased it is a bit odd, but your coworkers are a bunch of fucking babies if that's all it takes to upset them.
 
If you were funnier it wouldn't have been offensive. The problem is that you sounded like a jackass, not a comedian.
 
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