Growing up, I had undiagnosed ADHD, and alternated my time between "staring out the window" & just being really frustrated because I didn't learn like the other kids. Things didn't click educationally for me until the middle of college, which is when I took a different approach to learning & flipped my results from mostly D's & F's to almost straight A's across the board.
I don't want to say this the wrong way, but I don't know how much I really learned from grade school. I basically have mild dyscalculia & can't do math without writing it down or using a calculator, I remember like zero history, no grammar rules, my handwriting is terrible, etc. I think a big part of school is simply crowd control...having a place for the children to go where they're not getting in trouble at home or on the streets, and giving the parents a chance to go to work & keep the economy moving.
It sounds like you really needed some assisted learning or -- and I know this gets taken negatively by most -- special education. On that note, I think we do apply a bit too negative of a viewpoint to special education. The idea is to help kids that have problems learning, which can be mental issues, or just learning difficulties. Although, funding for these programs can be sparse. My little brother is mentally challenged, and he had to attend a different school district than the rest of us due to our district having no facilities to support special education students. (We did have assisted learning though.)
I do think that school serves as a bit of a baby sitter at time, and to some degree, so do extra-curricular activities. Some schools even have after-school programs, which literally serve as services to watch the kids. This probably stems a lot from our society though as we've gone more from producers to consumers over the past century or so. (Wisecrack made a good video on this recently where they talked about the shift in advertisement over the years.) We're in a situation where single-worker households aren't common unless one worker is a high performer or certain sacrifices are made.
I also wonder if children have far too few responsibilities these days. Honestly, looking back on my own childhood, I wish that I would've had more as I do think that the lack of responsibility enforcing structure lead to an overall stunted growth that I've had to overcome. Challenges, adversity and responsibility are aspects in life that allow us to learn, evolve and grow, but when children aren't given these opportunities, they wallow in the ignorance of youth. I think some take this as meaning kids can't have any fun, but that's certainly
NOT the idea. Of course, there will be some kids that don't need this as much as others, and then you get those that flounder in college due to the lack of structure.
I do think school is incredibly valuable, of course. You do learn stuff, and you learn how to socially interact with other kids & how to deal with various situation. But for me, learning-wise, man did I miss out on a bunch of information simply because I was a space cadet (i.e. off in la-la land, or just constantly struggling with simple things) throughout most of it, lol. So I don't know how much of an actual loss it is with kids not learning as well as they should have, vs. just being exposed to things on a regular basis, because my learning experience growing up was pretty poor simply because I didn't learn in the same way as everyone else & didn't know how to study properly, but I turned out alright, I think! Haha.
Honestly, I'm probably a bit more disenfranchised with school than you are. My biggest problem is that with the push for college preparatory education, I think schools often fail at teaching skills that are life preparatory. I've brought this one up before, but how many kids graduating from high school can solve this problem: "If you buy a game console for $400 on a credit card with a 24% APR and only make the minimum payments of $25 a month, how long would it take to pay it off?" I'd be fine if someone couldn't solve that in their head (but could explain it) since it requires compounding the interest, but I think that's far more important than being able to solve an integral. (To be honest, I'd just use Excel to solve it.)
Plus, school is kind of slanted towards the middle of the crowd. The bright kids zip through it & the kids who struggle have to really work to keep up. So doing it at home is kind of a hit or miss experience based on how a particular child is & how invested the parents are in helping out.
Yeah, I mentioned similar sentiments above. Schools tend to be more effective with good educators with a low student-to-educator ratio, because the teachers can afford to put more effort into each student.
My SIL ended up doing homeschooling for her kids & has switched them over to full-time homeschooling post-lockdown just to keep them on track, and they pretty much finish a whole day's work in like two hours lol. I suspect personalized attention & working at each kid's individual acquisition speed per subject has a LOT to do with how much progress they make on a daily basis, which unfortunately isn't available when you're in a class with 20 or 30 kids!
I'm still kind of mixed as to whether the difference in time spent truly deems one as an inferior method. One thing that came to mind a while ago is that homeschooling often means the lack of group activities, or even worse, curricula that may not be possible at home (wood shop, metal shop, athletics, etc.) I think it also depends on how well the parent/teacher can actually teach as well as how well they can pick up on deficiencies in the child's learning. Along those lines, I think I've spotted a few areas that need work, and given that I've tutored courses in college, I'm used to dealing with questions and leading people to answers. However, I'm not teaching anyone because I'm typically at work.
As our technology grows (especially big data & AI type of stuff), I'm really curious to see what the statistics on learning are & what actually has effective impacts in personal education.
It seems like the most effective course would be using computers to aid in pinpointing learning methods for individual kids. Given that the lessons tend to be presented through sites/apps, it would be interesting if they switch around the learning method randomly (for a little bit) to see how the student performs with each one.