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just had the last fight with my wife

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blodhi74

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its been going downhill since last 4 months and today my wife decides that we should move in with my in-laws ( their house is paid for ) so she can pay the insane debt she has accumulated on the credit cards that are under her name ( main reason for a lot of fights in the last 4 months ) . I make decent money to support the family ( got a 7 year old ) .
She worked ( till 6 months ago ) and had her own account for her shopping needs and all the bills are paid by me and I had no issue with it since it was her own money and if she wanted to buy a $300 purse, it was ok. since it did not effect the house budget.
So after I said no to her "request" ... she went blistic and lot of harmful words were exchanged ..... come monday I'm file for divorce and will try to get costody of my son ...... sh1t ... i need a drink..... spent the last 30 mins just driving around to clear my head and this is the only conclusion I have came up with


fvck .... where did I go wrong ????


cant understand what her mindset is or WTF is she thinking ..... aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh
 
She's a woman, SHE doesn't even know what she's thinking.

If you decide to go for custody, don't puss around....absolutely go for the throat from the start. That's the best shot the man has in a divorce situation. The legal system is heavily weighted toward her.
 
I personally think some folks give up too early in marriage.

It appears to be that the motto for a lot of people is....fall in love, get married, if they run into a few fights, get divorced.

 
Originally posted by: Jero
I personally think some folks give up too early in marriage.

It appears to be that the motto for a lot of people is....fall in love, get married, if they run into a few fights, get divorced.
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This is true. Too easy to split up these days. People forget that the vows say "for better or FOR WORSE".

That being said, he still needs to go for the throat from the start if he's really going to do it.

 
Originally posted by: Jero
I personally think some folks give up too early in marriage.

It appears to be that the motto for a lot of people is....fall in love, get married, if they run into a few fights, get divorced.
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Agreed.
 
Originally posted by: blodhi74
its been going downhill since last 4 months and today my wife decides that we should move in with my in-laws ( their house is paid for ) so she can pay the insane debt she has accumulated on the credit cards that are under her name ( main reason for a lot of fights in the last 4 months ) . I make decent money to support the family ( got a 7 year old ) .
She worked ( till 6 months ago ) and had her own account for her shopping needs and all the bills are paid by me and I had no issue with it since it was her own money and if she wanted to buy a $300 purse, it was ok. since it did not effect the house budget.
So after I said no to her "request" ... she went blistic and lot of harmful words were exchanged ..... come monday I'm file for divorce and will try to get costody of my son ...... sh1t ... i need a drink..... spent the last 30 mins just driving around to clear my head and this is the only conclusion I have came up with


fvck .... where did I go wrong ????


cant understand what her mindset is or WTF is she thinking ..... aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh
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You got married.

I am being serious. People should really get to know their potential spouse before making that big step.
 
Originally posted by: Jero
I personally think some folks give up too early in marriage.

It appears to be that the motto for a lot of people is....fall in love, get married, if they run into a few fights, get divorced.
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Tell that B!tch that if she wants the kind of lifestyle where she can drop $300 on a purse that her a$$ needs to get a jobby job.

 
Dude, 4 months? That's pussy sh1t. My parents have been at odds a lot of times and have exchanged some harsh words, but they've been together 20 years now I think. Stick it out and you'll realize it's worth it.
 
If you both really love each other, but feel pressured by financial problems...
Why not give counseling a try before you pull the plug?

Things can get skewed in the "fog of war". As long as you both really care about each other and your child there's hope.

From my experience people don't really work on A plan if they have a "Plan B".

I've been there... 23 years and still going. 😉
 
Originally posted by: ironcrotch
Originally posted by: Jero
I personally think some folks give up too early in marriage.

It appears to be that the motto for a lot of people is....fall in love, get married, if they run into a few fights, get divorced.
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Agreed.
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You can't always run away from hard times. Finances are a major issue that can cause lots of problems unless you get them under control.
 
Originally posted by: Jero
I personally think some folks give up too early in marriage.

It appears to be that the motto for a lot of people is....fall in love, get married, if they run into a few fights, get divorced.
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QFT
 
Is she "high maintenance"? If so, she will never be satisfied with the average lifestyle you can provide her. You need to figure out something else for her to focus attention on besides shopping/spending money.
 
How long did you know each other/date before marriage?

Sorry to hear man...it's things like this that make it scary...I'm 21 and have been dating for almost 4 months. I don't plan to get married for a long time, even if this girl is the one.

Anyways, don't mean to steal your thunder...don't give in so easily! Whoever said marriage was easy? You're going to have fights, you're going to get pissed off at one another eventually. Like the above posts, try counseling for a while. Give it time for you and your wife to absorb the situation and take into consideration what consequences your 7 year old will have to face, too.

At any rate, good luck with everything!
 
Originally posted by: faZZter
To all guys:

Please do not get married before you're at least 30.

Thank you.
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No, then you'll be too old for your kids. It eats balls having old parents, let me tell you.
 
Originally posted by: faZZter
To all guys:

Please do not get married before you're at least 30.

Thank you.
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in my case, I don't think that's a problem.

i need to find the right lady though...

that's the most challenging part ever!

 
Originally posted by: Pacfanweb
She's a woman, SHE doesn't even know what she's thinking.

If you decide to go for custody, don't puss around....absolutely go for the throat from the start. That's the best shot the man has in a divorce situation. The legal system is heavily weighted toward her.
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well put
 
Been there and done all that crap.....never again....just keep your head clear and try to stay focused...
 
Originally posted by: blodhi74
its been going downhill since last 4 months and today my wife decides that we should move in with my in-laws ( their house is paid for ) so she can pay the insane debt she has accumulated on the credit cards that are under her name ( main reason for a lot of fights in the last 4 months ) . I make decent money to support the family ( got a 7 year old ) .
She worked ( till 6 months ago ) and had her own account for her shopping needs and all the bills are paid by me and I had no issue with it since it was her own money and if she wanted to buy a $300 purse, it was ok. since it did not effect the house budget.
So after I said no to her "request" ... she went blistic and lot of harmful words were exchanged ..... come monday I'm file for divorce and will try to get costody of my son ...... sh1t ... i need a drink..... spent the last 30 mins just driving around to clear my head and this is the only conclusion I have came up with


fvck .... where did I go wrong ????


cant understand what her mindset is or WTF is she thinking ..... aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh
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No mention of consuling (sic) or anything designed to get the help you both need.
People give up too easily. And another child has to bear the brunt of it.

 
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