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Just got back from my cousin's wedding.

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lol so they live in a shack and drive a mediocre european mini-SUV? I bet the debt-equity ratio is very high.
 
Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny
Originally posted by: axelfox
Are you sure they're not drowning in debt?
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Oh yeah. 100% positive.
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I would not to be too sure, just like the other thread with the Asst. US prosecutor being a child molestor, most everything is different under the first level
 
Fuzzy, happiness is a state of mind. You have to learn now to not process your parents' statements. Just filter it. It will increase your happiness.

Plus, do what you love. If you do what you love (i.e. photography) and you are great at it, the success will naturally follow.
 
Lucky for me, my own parent's stopped doing what Fuzzy's parents did fairly quickly. They're smart/loving enough to know to stop the idiocy. Then again, compared to my other cousins, I'm probably the most successful, since almost all of them are still in PRC. It's drat near impossible to make a fair comparison. Their occasional questioning of my major (on my 4th year) gets me irritated quite often though. Computer Science isn't that bad! Dad and Mom! Gah.

That's the least of my worries though. Every single family member (including my younger sis) has decided to focus on my lack of female companion. Thanks guys, I really appreciate the pressure knowing that I go to a complete sausage fest known as engineering school. It's not enough to be already envious of couples around campus, but to get nagged by your own family... (Did I mention the fact that I'm the last male to pass down the family name? Yeah, stupid Chinese bull crap).


Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny

My parents now think of her as some kind of failure. Or course, this doesn't help me at all because I'm no where near finding a spouse myself. They look at her and roll their eyes and look at me and do the same.
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You know... we could both solve one of our own problems easily...😉:heart:
I'd love to know more about taking good pics 😀

 
Originally posted by: tyler811
Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny
Originally posted by: axelfox
Are you sure they're not drowning in debt?
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Oh yeah. 100% positive.
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I would not to be too sure, just like the other thread with the Asst. US prosecutor being a child molestor, most everything is different under the first level
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QFT...

It's impossible to know whether someone is genuinely happy and trouble-free. Key point is to not focus on other's, but yourself. Too bad I fail miserably at my own advice.
 
what has eating out 5 nights a week to do with being successful ?

That is just stupid and unhealthy. I get sick of eating out after 2 days forget doing it everyday.
 
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
I dunno, living that large is pretty stupid if you ask me...

The richest person I know is making about $20K/year less than I do and she's in Myanmar working with people that could live for a month with what we spend on a visit to Starbucks.

Guess I measure success on a different scale than most.
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Bingo! You have the right of it.
 
Originally posted by: Zombie
what has eating out 5 nights a week to do with being successful ?

That is just stupid and unhealthy. I get sick of eating out after 2 days forget doing it everyday.
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ditto...

I trust the food that I make, you don't know what kind of sh!t they put in your food, not to mention most of them don't wash their hands after they wipe...so no thanks 😛
 
Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny
Originally posted by: bonkers325
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny
The icing on the cake is that my parents are just outright envious, and the first thing they did was ask "why can't you be more like your cousin?"

*sigh*
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no way. did your parents actually come out and say that to you? craptastic parents if they did.
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most asian parents are like that. but there is something lost in translation, because they don't really mean "why cant you be more like your cousin". its more along the lines of "you could take a lesson from your cousin". the point is, they want you to absorb the good qualities of said person 😛
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This depends on the parents. My parents are outright scornful, and this is obvious in their tone and facial expressions. It is obvious that they are disappointed at me whenever they say such things, and their aim is to sow some stupid kind of competitive nature inside of me that arises out of feeling angry and inadequate.

This is not your wise man "learn from the success of others" kind of thing.

I will say that my parents are certainly not the norm even within Asian parents. All my Asian relatives around my age have noted that my parents are consistently more screwed up than their parents ever were, to the point where they can say "this is NOT how Asian parents are supposed to be."
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Your parents sound just like mine. But my parents attitude changed when I got a job and moved out.
 
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
Originally posted by: Zombie
what has eating out 5 nights a week to do with being successful ?

That is just stupid and unhealthy. I get sick of eating out after 2 days forget doing it everyday.
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ditto...

I trust the food that I make, you don't know what kind of sh!t they put in your food, not to mention most of them don't wash their hands after they wipe...so no thanks 😛
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time time time time time time

and you can buy healthy premade food you know...
 
You have a gift when it comes to your photography that no amount of their money can obtain.

Happiness is all in your perception.

If you're not happy with your current state, then do something about to change it.

 
Originally posted by: razor2025
Lucky for me, my own parent's stopped doing what Fuzzy's parents did fairly quickly. They're smart/loving enough to know to stop the idiocy. Then again, compared to my other cousins, I'm probably the most successful, since almost all of them are still in PRC. It's drat near impossible to make a fair comparison. Their occasional questioning of my major (on my 4th year) gets me irritated quite often though. Computer Science isn't that bad! Dad and Mom! Gah.

That's the least of my worries though. Every single family member (including my younger sis) has decided to focus on my lack of female companion. Thanks guys, I really appreciate the pressure knowing that I go to a complete sausage fest known as engineering school. It's not enough to be already envious of couples around campus, but to get nagged by your own family... (Did I mention the fact that I'm the last male to pass down the family name? Yeah, stupid Chinese bull crap).


Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny

My parents now think of her as some kind of failure. Or course, this doesn't help me at all because I'm no where near finding a spouse myself. They look at her and roll their eyes and look at me and do the same.
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You know... we could both solve one of our own problems easily...😉:heart:
I'd love to know more about taking good pics 😀
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i hope you're a woman
 
Originally posted by: lokiju
You have a gift when it comes to your photography that no amount of their money can obtain.

Happiness is all in your perception.

If you're not happy with your current state, then do something about to change it.
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which means he can bank off his talent!
 
Originally posted by: LegendKiller
Just wait till that house is worth 800k and they're drowning in debt. Then think it's going to take it another 2 decades to recover it's value, laugh your ass off at this fact of life.
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/thread
 
Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny
The icing on the cake is that my parents are just outright envious, and the first thing they did was ask "why can't you be more like your cousin?"

*sigh*

Now I'm back home in bumblefuck Ohio preparing to hand my craptastic resume out to employers who probably won't even give me a second look at the career fair on Wednesday. *cries*
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You got to be positive and you got to want it enough. Work hard and you'll get lucky.

I went to a good Uni and didn't so great and the top companies wouldn't touch me. I got a job, worked hard for 14 months, moved to a better job and ow I should be pretty set after 3yrs. Not rich but I'll be doing well for myself.

People may have more £££ then me but you'll never out lift me without an obscene amount of training. NO amount of money can get you success on the competition platform 🙂. You got to earn it the good old fashion way.

My asian parents are cool and never pressured any of us to anything like this. They encouraged us to study and to work hard and do what we could do. We are all doing well. They are very proud of all our weightlifting skills.

Koing
 
Originally posted by: dreadpiratedoug
Next time any of y'alls parents say, "Why can't you be more like xxxx?" Say, "Because I got the shitty end of your genes."
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Or in the OP's case "Why couldn't you be more like Aunt and Uncle xxxx? Why weren't you capable of raising a highly successful child like they did" Give them a taste of their own medicine, see how they like it.

Just out of curiosity OP, what do you think about your aunt and uncle compared to your parents? Parenting styles could very well make the difference (in my case, I think my parents did a good job of raising me as a child but never adapted past that and taught me nothing of stuff I'd need in the real world during my teens and just put me on a conveyor belt to college without thinking, while I feel my cousins were taught better about the options they had in life. though I'm doing ok)
 
The problem seems to be that both parties have self-esteem/confidence issues. Their issues present themselves via their constant bragging and voyueristic displays of excess. Yours presents through your feelings of inferiority to them.
 
dude a 1.4 million dollar house in silicon valley is like a 300,000 house in Bumblefsck, Ohio. You are well on your way!
 
Just keep observing and documernting life from behind your camera lens.

As talented as you are and as nice,you should be celebrating yourself,not denigrating your achivements.
 
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