It seems like you're way too all over the place and you're confused on what to do and when to do it. Stop. You're over analyzing some things here that shouldn't even be considered at this stage.
Now that you have a program in mind that you will use, stick to it, test it out and record your gains/losses. No one can tell you otherwise unless you give 100%, and I do mean you actually give it your best. You half ass it, you get half assed results. There's plenty of cats out there squatting "heavy" weight a quarter of the way down, if their lucky.
My advice to you is, food will be your full time job, gym is where you get to build the monster you want.
Food wise, at 220lbs for example, my goal would be to consume 275 to 300 grams of protein, call me crazy but this is minimal for gratifying results. Consume no more than 2 shakes a day, food is there for a reason. You're giving your body something it has to break down over time, burn calories and consume it. Here's my idea for you to lose weight when it comes to a "diet":
Meal 1 - 8-10 egg whites, 1 cup of oatmeal
Meal 2 - 2 Scoops of Protein - ~ 50 g protein + 1/2 cup oatmeal
Meal 3 - 8-10oz of Chicken/Steak/Tuna, 1 Sweet Potato, 1-2 Cups of Veggies or Large Salad
Meal 4 - 2 Scoops of Protein - ~ 50 g protein + 1/2 cup oatmeal
Meal 5 - 8-10oz of Chicken/Steak/Tuna, 1 Sweet Potato, 1-2 Cups of Veggies or Large Salad
--Notice a pattern yet?
Meal 6 - 8 egg whites, large salad
Approx Times:
Meal 1 - 8:00 AM
Meal 2 - 10:30 AM
Meal 3 - 1:00 PM
Meal 4 - 3:30 PM
Meal 5 - 6:00 PM
Meal 6 - 8:30 PM
-- I add more food by gauging how my body reacts. For example, I measure my bodyweight once a week and track my daily food intake. By the end of the 7th day, I weigh in and I record my weight loss/gain. If I'm losing MORE than 2.0LBS a week, (initially this is normal to lose from 4-12lbs within 2 weeks)...I add a little bit more....basically I'm the test dummy and I feed myself based on what my body tells me.
I started with that diet and played around with it, guess what it works.
Also keep in mind, after a few weeks your body will get used to (aka adapt) to whatever you put in. So the removal of extra carbs or exchange of carbs (- 1/2 cup oatmeal) will continue your progressive weight loss.
Eating alone will contribute to 80% of your weight loss success....not a typo. (80%)
Calories are calories whether you don't eat them (3 minutes of eating) or burn them off in the gym (45 minutes of running).
To get strong follow that program, log your workouts ( i know, more shit to log) but this way you know what you did last week and there's no way you can not try to beat your goals. You got 100lbs for 10 reps last week, try to get 11, shit, go for 15 if you got the kohones
If you apply yourself, you will get there. No shortcuts...believe me.