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It's Over... and Goodbye.

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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
:Q 😕 🙁

... what can I say?

I can't say "don't go" because you will not listen.
I can't say "go" because you will.

All I can say is good luck. And we'll miss you.

- M4H
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My cohort has spokensayonara Isla 🙁🙂
 
I've not spoken to you before, and I regret that I won't be able to in the future.

My mother has just come out the right side of a wrong marraige (her 2nd marraige, 8 yrs after splitting up from my father), and she is much better for it. Stick with your kids, they are what matter.

I hope for their sake you and the kid's father can remain civil, i know that is the best thing for a kid, as I have experienced this myself, it is nice to have parents who can still talk...remember at some stage you did have feelings for each other, enough to want kids together.


I just have one more thing to say:


You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave


The door will be open and the lights left on for you.


Take care in your new beginning


Garry
(Confused)
 
Isla the Defeated
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You have not been defeated. A new chapter in life is a new beginning, not a defeat. Just because change is in the wind doesn't mean that change in itself is bad. Chin up, and good luck in your journeys.
 
Just read this as the last few weeks have been quite a whirlwind for me with graduation, b-day, Christmas, etc. I will miss you, Isla, and I wish you and your kids all the best.

Don't forget to trust in the Lord always. May His grace shine upon you and give you peace.

-Wood
 
Originally posted by: Confused
I've not spoken to you before, and I regret that I won't be able to in the future.
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Same here, we've never spoken. Best of luck. This shouldn't be Goodbye, only so long.

 
Good luck in your future endevours. You will be missed here.

Should you have any legal questions about divorce/custody/support/equitable distribution, feel free to drop me an e-mail.
 
Just saw this . . . my mom's in the hospital (since Saturday) and I am here more occasionally. 🙁

I do remember you made this announcement of leaving ATOT once before. Please don't ever say 'never'. Speaking for myself (and many others here), we do enjoy your posts and hope you 'drop-in' from time-to-time.

I know you are not defeated and am confident you will do well in the future.

Aloha,
Mark
aka apoppin
 
The End is a new beginning of another chapter!!! Have hope and life will be much more joyful! I know you can do it!! Good luck!!!
 
We'll miss you! Come back soon! 🙁

Edit: If she indeed logged off for the last time after her posting this, she won't be able to see your messages here, so don't forget to mail too!
 
Hope you find whatever you need for a happy life. We can't go on meeting like this. People will talk. Especially if you come on back (and I hope you do). 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Isla
Over the years, I have come and gone on this message board. I've made a lot of good friends and learned some surprising and occasionally important things. 😀 I have also bared my soul... I've been very emotionally naked and honest here.

I've talked a lot about my marriage and how my husband and I have struggled to make what essentially was a mistake to begin with work. We've been going to a counselor, I've been going to an individual therapist, but my husband doesn't really think there is any need for him to go to an individual counselor. Our session today made it pretty clear to me that there is no hope for our marriage (barring some kind of miracle) and that my life is going to change in a very big way soon.

I will be ok... I've grown and I've got a great support system. I even have an excellent job waiting for me after the new year, it is just a matter of paperwork. My husband and I will continue to go to the counselor for some time because we have children to think of, and a domestic nuclear war is not in their best interests.

For all you bitter men who have been screwed over by women in the past, don't worry about the Mister. I have no desire to screw him over. We will work out a fair settlement, and he will be free to find happiness without the baggage of a vindictive ex-spouse. I have never been that way and won't suddenly start now.

For all of you who have encouraged me to stand up for myself and be strong, Thank You. I did that and apparently it was a deal killer for the marriage, but hey, I feel much better about myself than I have in years. And THAT is the best thing I can give to my kids.

The reason why I am saying goodbye is threefold. 1) I tend to disclose to much of my private life, and I can't do that any longer. 2) I won't have time to post anymore... being a working professional and a single mom will take all of my time and then some. 3) It is a way of me closing a chapter in my life and moving on. It's a symbolic thing.

I wish each and every one of you well. I won't be logging on again so don't PM me. If you really want to stay in touch, I check This E-Mail on a regular basis so you can give me a holler there.

Be Blessed and Be Well~

Isla the Defeated
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Yeah, i have been screwed over, but i judge THAT women, not anyone else...

It seems you have done your best, sorry it didn't work out the way you hoped it would, but hey, you have a life in front of you... don't forget that...

You will make it, you will find happiness... at least i hope you will... for whatever that is worth...

Don't give up Isla, you have the world on your side... breaking up is a hard thing to do, but sometimes, it just has to be done.... if you don't have trust, you got nothing... times will change, tides will turn, and one day, far from this day, you will find yourself happy and wondering what all that fuss was really about...

Sad to see you leave this forum though...
 
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