is there a correlation between spending a lot on a wedding and having it be good?

[meltdown75]

helllllllllllll no

no correlation

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: gar3555
The only reason people go to weddings is for free food and free booze.

eh...... i actually enjoy going to the church and seeing them take their vows, the bride walk down the aisle, all of the ceremonial stuff. don't get me wrong, i love free food and booze... but i really do like to celebrate the marriage of whoever it is - usually it's good friends and / or family!

 

[Gunslinger08]

I'm getting married on Saturday. I definitely feel that an expensive wedding is a massive waste of money. It's one day of your life, compared to the next 50+ years. Spend the money to get decent food and free booze, but don't waste $10k on a "location fee" or over the top decorations or a designer dress.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I'm getting married on Saturday. I definitely feel that an expensive wedding is a massive waste of money. It's one day of your life, compared to the next 50+ years. Spend the money to get decent food and free booze, but don't waste $10k on a "location fee" or over the top decorations or a designer dress.

:thumbsup:

i'll be honest about my wedding... it was large and fairly extravagant... not really what i had in mind... but... i wanted whatever made the Mrs happy. she took the reins 100% and i agreed with whatever she wanted. i had a great time and it went really well... i guess my point is... it was all about her. "her" day, so to speak. i kind of wanted to go away to get married, somewhere tropical and have a small wedding party with us and immediate family only. i also wanted a starter home out in the county, something with character... we ended up building a new house in a subdivision. anyone seeing a pattern here?

 

[vi edit]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
I don't think you need to break the bank, but I think that in order to have a good wedding, you need to spend some big bucks.

First, you need good food, and thats not cheap. You need a good DJ/band. You need a good venue and decorations. These things arent cheap.

And the open bar.....

I guess it depends on your definition of a good wedding... DJ/band, decorations, and an open bar seem like unnecessary frills to me. Cheap/free venues seem pretty plentiful. Good food can be cheap, you've just got to make it yourself

No kidding. People make the wedding, not the venue or money spent. No money in the world will make a wedding fun or (good) memorable if the people there aren't having fun.

A reception in your backyard with a couple kegs, somebody manning a grill, and really good friends and a family that likes to fun can easily be more enjoyable than renting out a $10,000 elite venue and having a $25 a plate dinner catered in.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I'm getting married on Saturday. I definitely feel that an expensive wedding is a massive waste of money. It's one day of your life, compared to the next 50+ years. Spend the money to get decent food and free booze, but don't waste $10k on a "location fee" or over the top decorations or a designer dress.

:thumbsup:

i'll be honest about my wedding... it was large and fairly extravagant... not really what i had in mind... but... i wanted whatever made the Mrs happy. she took the reins 100% and i agreed with whatever she wanted. i had a great time and it went really well... i guess my point is... it was all about her. "her" day, so to speak. i kind of wanted to go away to get married, somewhere tropical and have a small wedding party with us and immediate family only. i also wanted a starter home out in the county, something with character... we ended up building a new house in a subdivision. anyone seeing a pattern here?

Your wife has you by the balls?

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I'm getting married on Saturday. I definitely feel that an expensive wedding is a massive waste of money. It's one day of your life, compared to the next 50+ years. Spend the money to get decent food and free booze, but don't waste $10k on a "location fee" or over the top decorations or a designer dress.

:thumbsup:

i'll be honest about my wedding... it was large and fairly extravagant... not really what i had in mind... but... i wanted whatever made the Mrs happy. she took the reins 100% and i agreed with whatever she wanted. i had a great time and it went really well... i guess my point is... it was all about her. "her" day, so to speak. i kind of wanted to go away to get married, somewhere tropical and have a small wedding party with us and immediate family only. i also wanted a starter home out in the county, something with character... we ended up building a new house in a subdivision. anyone seeing a pattern here?

Your wife has you by the balls?

she left me several months ago.

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: NFS4
We had an outdoor ceremony on June 20, DJ, caterer, photographer, nice cake, 150 guests for around $11,000. I think that's pretty reasonable and everyone had a great time.

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congrats mr. dailytech ace reporter

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: Babbles

Originally posted by: gar3555
The only reason people go to weddings is for free food and free booze.

As I was telling the wife, I have come to the conclusion that being in a wedding totally sucks balls. However being at a wedding is pretty sweet . . . free food and booze.

agree 100%

 

[Zee]

usually. more money means more things you can buy or hire.

 

[Wheezer]

I don't care how much you spend on the wedding....it's more important if you have an open bar.

 

[A5]

Originally posted by: Wheezer
I don't care how much you spend on the wedding....it's more important if you have an open bar.

But not a sissy "beer and wine only" open bar. That just makes people disappointed - if you're going to bother, get liquor!

 

[IceBergSLiM]

the difference between 40k and 100k prob not but 100k and 1 million........YES.

 

[Baked]

It has everything to do with how much an attention whore you are.

 

[Alienwho]

I got married over a year ago and we had a pretty inexpensive reception. It was at a friends backyard mansion for free (waterfalls and gardens and stuff). My wife found somebody to do the decorations who did an excellent job and was very inexpensive. The food was tasty and easy to snack on appetizers and deserts. What really made it awesome was that my best friend/best man is a musician/drummer and headed the band. He is very funny and was in charge of the microphone (think adam sandler in the wedding singer) and played the drums with a small band consisting of a saxaphone, bass guitar and female singer. I still get compliments about how memorable the experience was.

 

[shopbruin]

Originally posted by: A5

Originally posted by: Wheezer
I don't care how much you spend on the wedding....it's more important if you have an open bar.

But not a sissy "beer and wine only" open bar. That just makes people disappointed - if you're going to bother, get liquor!

Do you know how much premium alcohol is?!

Beer and wine - maybe an extra 7-10 per person
Premium alcohol - easily at least 20 per person for a few hours.

This is already on top of what they charge you for catering (depending on food/venue, anywhere from 50/person to easily 100/person and up.)

Plus you have to pay a bartender fee (usually about 100 bucks/bartender, and they want one bartender per 100 guests, some want one per 75 guests.)

Then the service charge on top of that, plus tax, plus tips.

It's not an insignificant cost. Plus many venues (let's say a hotel) do not allow you to bring in your own liquor unless you pay a corkage fee, then the cost is almost the same.

Hence why we went with the Chinese restaurant - no corkage fee. Bring your own booze. Pay a certain amount in cash, and the sodas are free.

 

[SunnyD]

My first wedding (heh, yeah I was married twice - to the same woman!) cost me all of... um... nothing. A friend's dad (pastor) did the ceremony in his gorgeous new home, we had some cake, went home and got it on.

My second wedding cost a little, my dad chipped in. Reason for this one was that my wife always wanted a "real" wedding, and it benefit my dad's traditional ways being a catholic marriage. No alcohol was involved, no reception, very small and informal (maybe 25 people tops). Probably cost maybe $1000/$1500 in total. We enjoyed it!

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: vi edit

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
I don't think you need to break the bank, but I think that in order to have a good wedding, you need to spend some big bucks.

First, you need good food, and thats not cheap. You need a good DJ/band. You need a good venue and decorations. These things arent cheap.

And the open bar.....

I guess it depends on your definition of a good wedding... DJ/band, decorations, and an open bar seem like unnecessary frills to me. Cheap/free venues seem pretty plentiful. Good food can be cheap, you've just got to make it yourself

No kidding. People make the wedding, not the venue or money spent. No money in the world will make a wedding fun or (good) memorable if the people there aren't having fun.

A reception in your backyard with a couple kegs, somebody manning a grill, and really good friends and a family that likes to fun can easily be more enjoyable than renting out a $10,000 elite venue and having a $25 a plate dinner catered in.

I agree somewhat with this; we went to a wedding last year. The couple had the wedding at the Raven Ravens stadium. It was one of the most boring weddings ever.

I still think theres a fine line between a cookout and a wedding reception. You can pull a few friends toegther and bbq in the backyard and have a great time. But I think a wedding deserves a bit more than that

 

[purbeast0]

i think we spent like 22k total on ours or something close, after all said and done for 150 guests.

while it was tough to save and be cheap while saving for the wedding, we did not put anything on credit cards, and we do not regret one penny we spent on our wedding.

 

[phoenix79]

Originally posted by: SunnyD


My second wedding cost a little, my dad chipped in. Reason for this one was that my wife always wanted a "real" wedding, and it benefit my dad's traditional ways being a catholic marriage. No alcohol was involved, no reception, very small and informal (maybe 25 people tops). Probably cost maybe $1000/$1500 in total. We enjoyed it!

This makes me confused..

 

[SP33Demon]

$200,000 White Trash Wedding - ROFL!

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
$200,000 White Trash Wedding - ROFL!

wow!
father (the one who paid for it) lives in a trailer and finishes driveways for a living!?!

 

[JS80]

The only thing required at a good wedding is open bar and your best friends.

 

[DT4K]

Originally posted by: PowerEngineer

Originally posted by: 0roo0roo
i'd rather see the correlation with divorce rate.

I don't remember who made this claim, but the essense was that having a "big wedding" helped reinforce the live-changing importance (and hopefully uniqueness) of the marriage to the couple, and that this sense of importance would persist through the years and help keep the couple focused on preserving their relationship.

I believe a similar claim was made for funerals: that a "big funeral" acknowledges the importance of the person's passing to those who attend and helps them better cope with their feelings.

Seems reasonable (at least to me)

My wife and I have 5 kids and have been married for 15 years.

We spent about $700 on our wedding and honeymoon.
$200 for 2 plane tickets to Vegas
$120 for 3 nights at the Excalibur
$150 for marriage license and ceremony at Silver Bells Wedding Chapel
$200 for food and gambling

 

[zinfamous]

I believe that largest correlation between expense and weddings is the increase in headaches and potential disaster.