Is my situation normal considering that I'm from an upper-middle class family?

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My parents are upper-middle class. I'm 22 years old and I'll be graduating from college with my B.A. in a few months. In my field, there aren't really any jobs I can get right away that pay a ton. I'll have to start with a lower-paying job and work my way up towards a higher-paying job. The thing is, the jobs I'll start out with won't pay enough for me to support myself. Therefore, I'll probably be living with my parents for at-least a year after I've graduated and they'll be financially supporting me during that time as well. Is it normal for someone from an upper middle class family to still be financially dependent on their parents even after graduating from college? What if I lived with roommates and my parents helped with my apartment expenses? Would that be normal considering my parents are upper middle class?

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BoomerD

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Most of the kiddies on here will tell you that it's fine...and perfectly normal.

Me on the other hand, i'll tell you that no one ever promised you that life would be easy...if they did, they lied to you. IMO, your parents don't owe you their financial support past 18, ( or high school graduation) qnd that it's on YOU to figure out how to make life work for you once you graduate. You're new to the working world, (at least in whatever field your degree is in) and you SHOULD be starting at the bottom...and struggling is normal. MAYBE get a roommate or two...maybe get an apartment in an outlying area...whatever it takes.

Don't continue to sponge off your parents.
 
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Can I ask what your major is? My son is going to college in a few years and I'd rather avoid this situation if at all possible.
 
SKORPI0

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So OP thinks that they are entitled to a "high paying job" with a useless college degree/probably no experience right after graduating? o_O:confused:
 
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SKORPI0 said:
So OP thinks that they are entitled to a "high paying job" with a useless college degree/probably no experience right after graduating? o_O:confused:
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I have accepted that I can't a high-paying job. I don't feel the slightest bit of entitlement. All I'm asking is if I'll be in good company if I'm still financially dependent on my parents.
 
MrSquished

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I think at this point you need more posts and to stop telling folks you'll not answer relevant questions before you will get some answers.
 
BoomerD

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stician said:
I have accepted that I can't a high-paying job. I don't feel the slightest bit of entitlement. All I'm asking is if I'll be in good company if I'm still financially dependent on my parents.
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Sure...lots of slackers out there...visit almost any Starbucks...they'll be serving your coffee.
 
drinkmorejava

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IMO if you're upper middle class, you had plenty of resources to help you make good decisions. You selected a career where you can't support yourself. There's actually a word for this. It's called a hobby.
You're SOL at this point. Learn from it, be happy you don't have student loans, and make better long term decisions.
 
pcgeek11

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No it is not normal and should not be accepted as OK to continue on your parents dime after they paid for your upbringing and way through college.

Find some roommates and rough it for a few years. It will get better eventually and you will have a better perspective of what life is really all about.

** Hint: Peanut Butter and Bread will support life. Protip to vary your diet rotate brands of peanut butter.

Your parents will also respect you.
 
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pcgeek11 said:
No it is not normal and should not be accepted as OK to continue on your parents dime after they paid for your upbringing and way through college.

Find some roommates and rough it for a few years. It will get better eventually and you will have a better perspective of what life is really all about.

** Hint: Peanut Butter and Bread will support life. Protip to vary your diet rotate brands of peanut butter.

Your parents will also respect you.
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What if it were just for a year. Would that be normal? I think some people are under the impression that I plan to depend on my parents for several more years, when in reality, all I need is one.
 
dave_the_nerd

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stician said:
I'd also like to request that none of the users post anything that doesn't answer the question I asked.
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Can't answer the question without knowing what you mean by "lower-paying" "my field" "enough for me to support myself" "upper middle class" "financially dependent" and "normal."

Some information on your location - job market, cost of living, etc., would also be helpful. As well as your current expenses, and your anticipated standard of living.

I mean, honestly, the best thing you can do is talk this through with your parents.

What makes you think you're only going to need to live with your parents for exactly a year?

You're not in an uncommon situation. That's why this law was enacted, among other things.
 
Red Squirrel

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It's normal especially in this economy. Costs of living keep going up, salaries stay the same, and job numbers keep going down. Companies are constantly looking for ways to cut, don't replace staff that are retiring etc.

I got lucky that I found a decent job right out of college and ended up staying with my parents for a few years until I bought my house. I saved enough for a decent down payment and all the upfront costs (furniture, kitchen stuff etc....) then moved out at 23. If you live in an area where it's stupid crazy expensive to live, before you commit to a job you could consider looking at getting a job out of town and moving there as well. Easier to make that decision now than once you're settled.

Also don't expect to get your dream job right away, you might have to apply at a company at a lower end job, then move up. That's what I ended up doing. My first job was help desk, then moved to server, then NOC.
 
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