is it normal to be referred by your last name at work?

[skim milk]

This happens over and over again in a workplace setting.
My last name is a common female first name. This person SHOULD know my first name by now, by just using their brain a little. She just emailed me and it says Hi Lastname

Does this happen to you, too?

If you're last name is Miller, do people call you Hi Miller?

 

[d33pt]

happens to me all the time.

 

[jlee]

It has, yes. Doesn't happen too often, though.

 

[bigrash]

Nope doesn't happen to me.

Is your last name Kim?

 

[herm0016]

people use to call me my last name or a variation of it "herm" all the time. some still do.

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: d33pt
happens to me all the time.

okay...but it still bothers me that she can't just use my first name

 

[xochi]

Yes it is common.

Even moreso when the person is ex-military or was involved in sports.

 

[jlee]

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: d33pt
happens to me all the time.

okay...but it still bothers me that she can't just use my first name

Tell her? 😕

 

[BassBomb]

Never happened to me, but I could see it happening in the corporate world.

Mine would sound really odd ... "Mian, did you get that report done?"

 

[nageov3t]

everyone called everyone else by their last name's in high school.

I went to an all-boys jesuit school. I'm pretty sure half of my class' first names were Michael/Mike.

it's never happened to me at work, though. have you tried just telling her you prefer to be called by your first name?

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: JLee

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: d33pt
happens to me all the time.

okay...but it still bothers me that she can't just use my first name

Tell her? 😕

I'm emailing her back with a response but in the end, I will write

Thanks,
FIRST NAME

 

[sjwaste]

Originally posted by: fritolays
This happens over and over again in a workplace setting.
My last name is a common female first name. This person SHOULD know my first name by now, by just using their brain a little. She just emailed me and it says Hi Lastname

Does this happen to you, too?

If you're last name is Miller, do people call you Hi Miller?

You're in consulting, right? Yeah, it happens. At least at my firm we have a fair number of ex-military folks. They mostly go by their last name, and call me by mine. Just a different custom, I don't really mind it. I'm not ex-military, but it doesn't bother me at all, so I do the same when I am around them.

Now, if the lady doesn't actually know your name, thats a different story. We all know each others' first and last names, it'd be disrespectful otherwise, imho.

 

[BlahBlahYouToo]

first time in america?
this happens all the time and not just at work. happens at school, among friends, etc.

so what's your last name?

 

[tfinch2]

I get called "Finch" all the time. 😕

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: JLee

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: d33pt
happens to me all the time.

okay...but it still bothers me that she can't just use my first name

Tell her? 😕

I'm emailing her back with a response but in the end, I will write

Thanks,
FIRST NAME

Yeah that'll show her :roll:

What is up with the passive aggressive approach?

 

[paulxcook]

Nope. First name.

 

[jlee]

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: JLee

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: d33pt
happens to me all the time.

okay...but it still bothers me that she can't just use my first name

Tell her? 😕

I'm emailing her back with a response but in the end, I will write

Thanks,
FIRST NAME

That may not even be noticed..

Is it really that hard to say 'I'd rather you call me by my first name'..? 😕

 

[Schfifty Five]

BTW, just consider it like as a nick name.

I mean I get called my first, shortened first name, and last name by different people. Makes not a lick of difference to me.

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: sjwaste

Originally posted by: fritolays
This happens over and over again in a workplace setting.
My last name is a common female first name. This person SHOULD know my first name by now, by just using their brain a little. She just emailed me and it says Hi Lastname

Does this happen to you, too?

If you're last name is Miller, do people call you Hi Miller?

You're in consulting, right? Yeah, it happens. At least at my firm we have a fair number of ex-military folks. They mostly go by their last name, and call me by mine. Just a different custom, I don't really mind it. I'm not ex-military, but it doesn't bother me at all, so I do the same when I am around them.

Now, if the lady doesn't actually know your name, thats a different story. We all know each others' first and last names, it'd be disrespectful otherwise, imho.

the lady should know my name... she's my "engagement representative"
I find it disrespectful to be honest
I wouldn't mind if she did it to everyone, but I'm fairly certain she's not

 

[alkemyst]

you sure she doesn't think you are a little girl?

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: fritolays

the lady should know my name... she's my "engagement representative"
I find it disrespectful to be honest
I wouldn't mind if she did it to everyone, but I'm fairly certain she's not

have you asked her to call you by your first name?

 

[theeedude]

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: JLee

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: d33pt
happens to me all the time.

okay...but it still bothers me that she can't just use my first name

Tell her? 😕

I'm emailing her back with a response but in the end, I will write

Thanks,
FIRST NAME

And in beginning, you should write "Hi, <her last name>"
see how she likes it.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: fritolays
This happens over and over again in a workplace setting.
My last name is a common female first name. This person SHOULD know my first name by now, by just using their brain a little. She just emailed me and it says Hi Lastname

Does this happen to you, too?

If you're last name is Miller, do people call you Hi Miller?

no. it never happens to me, and if you don't like to be referred to by your last name just speak up.

 

[spidey07]

Yes, completely normal. Not disrespectful.

It's you, it's your hangup and weird problem.

 

[KeithTalent]

Guys here do it all the time (I'm a big offender actually) and now more of the women are starting to do it.

Fortunately any stick I may have had up my butt fell out a lo9g time ago so I really couldn't care less whether peaople call me by my first name, last name, or even some other nickname. Who gives a crap.

KT