Im too sad to do anything

[clamum]

Drinking heavily worked for me. Well... actually it didn't, but it was fun. Anyway, lotta good advice here. Good luck dude. :beer:

 

[markgm]

Rearrange your furniture, get a new bed set, you'd be amazed how a change of scenery changes your mood.

Get out and just drive around, explore where you live. Find out what's around and what could be a special place for the next person you meet.

You'll think about the person, you can't help that, just avoid anything stalking related. Being a technical forum it's not unrealistic to have passwords to email, websites, and voicemail. If you do, forget them and move on.

You'll find someone when you least expect it. Everyone... EVERYONE has hangups. You might think that someone won't like you because of your looks, but that hunk over there might think no one will like him because he has a weird laugh. Just be you and you'll find someone who wants: you.

Don't run from how you feel, sometimes analyzing it can help. You feel horrible, explore that feeling. You probably don't often feel it, so just recognize that it's your brain getting over a habit you've formed. A billion other people have gone through what you are going through, but that doesn't matter to you at this point! I think of the saying "you're unique, like everyone else."

The first thing I did the last time I was down in the dumps was to plan something to do every weekend. One of the side effects was visiting friends and going on road trips, both of which I like to do. Find something you like to do and go for it!

Edit: I'd suggest not drinking. Keep drinking associated with good times, and only drink when you're happy. There's no point in being an unhappy drunk.

 

[potoba]

wow, you guys are my new good friends...

 

[xtknight]

Originally posted by: apac
3) If you're having trouble getting through the day, drink caffeine. Someone told me it actually increases the dopamine released in your brain, literally making you happier.

I need to do this even if I haven't broken up with anyone.

The important thing is to try and make yourself realize that you weren't the problem. It may seem bigoted at first but it will help you get over the depression. View it this way: it is NEVER your problem. If somebody doesn't want to be with you, just make it their problem. It doesn't matter whose problem it is anyway, now does it? I'm sure you have other friends, and they don't think that you have any problems. Stay with those people.

I've been mighty depressed before (OCD+something big happening=bad). Still, I have not resorted to MAOIs or SSRIs (antidep drugs) due to possible worse side effects. These are the steps I take to make myself forget about. Emergency plan:

1. schnell, schnell! immediately, drink the coffee if you don't want to feel like hell the whole day [this is a commandment for me]
2. when you've reached your peak of happiness from the coffee/dopamine, turn it into a loop of happiness by doing other happy things.
3. the happiness will persist and when you start feeling down again maybe have a little wine then take a nap.
4. force yourself to exercise, and when I say 'force' yourself I mean it. act like by exercising you are saving somebody's life, that's how I have to think of it to force myself to do it. aerobic exercises not only refocuses your mind but releases more dopamine.
5. if you have bad feelings going through your head, write a book. you need to get the feelings out somehow (if your friends can tolerate it then talk to them about it).
6. listen to music, lots of it.
7. misery loves company, talk to people having the same problem. this provides good empathy and moral support for the both of you.
8. dissociate from what reminds you of the relationship, at least eventually. at first it will be clinically impossible.
9. don't be ashamed of your feelings, realize that everyone has them and everyone needs to get over them in different ways, be it caffeine like me or just by doing nothing special at all.
10. watch some horrible or despicable things to make yourself feel better about your own situation ("they are going through much worse than I am right now").
11. take a lot of walks outside, this will help you escape the constant hell that is everything around you (I couldn't have said that any nicer)

You tend to distrust your own conscience in these situations, as if everything you did was wrong. That's just how depression works, and you need to counteract that by having the polar opposite happen (more happiness, more feelings of adequacy). Make it your goal to simply be as happy as possible no matter what it takes. The longer you can stay happy on a daily basis the quicker the depression will go away.

Sometimes when I feel crappy I just do [perhaps overly] nice things for everyone else hoping they will do the same to me. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't but when it does it really helps me feel better about myself too. Sometimes they might just think you're a weirdo but whatever, I figure that's their problem if they don't want to be around nice people.

That's all that has worked for me. This post sounded a little crazy. I'm a little off/drowsy myself today.

 

[raildogg]

Yeah, girls can be very difficult; this can mean many different things. I'm having issues right now as well - not relationship issues, though, since I don't have a girlfriend. But there is a girl I like and I feel that there is something between us even though she denies it. Oh well. This sort of thing is on my mind a lot.

You must feel very depressed, not wanting to do anything and just staring at things and thinking. Maybe watch some videos on YouTube? Or take a nap or something? Sometimes when I'm feeling very down I just lay on the bed for a while and when I wake up or get up, I feel somewhat better sometimes. LOL, now that doesn't help a whole lot but things like that happen.

Maybe read a book or something. Visit your local library and pick out a nice book.

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: potoba
wow, you guys are my new good friends...

:laugh: and we're here 24 hours a day

(except for tomorrow....)

 

[mrrman]

get over it...thats life

 

[lyssword]

watch some comedy.. It helps fight depression

 

[iliopsoas]

Originally posted by: wahoyaho
stalk her

ahahahha

I almost choked on my spit.

we've all been through sh*t like this. In the past 8 years, I've been in 2 long relationships, the first for 4 years and the most recent for 2 yrs. Each break up has been difficult. I'm still getting over the recent one. Take it day by day.

And it *will* get better. That cliche is actually true.

 

[sponge008]

Take up MMA if you think you might enjoy that kind of thing.

 

[Boo Boo]

i'm still in love with the gal of my dreams for 17 years , just havent told her alcohol helps

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: potoba

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Think about how much money you'll save

We've been in a long distance relationship.

oh noes.

 

[potoba]

hehe, why are we still up?