Im too sad to do anything
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Hang out with your friends in your free time (Please tell me you didn't alienate your friends when you started seeing her). Don't talk about the girl.
YOyoYOhowsDAjello
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I just spent 3 months getting over my first real gf (and fiancee) of 4.5 years.After totally giving up on her and starting to do things with friends and go out with a new girl, I'm feeling about 1 million times better.
Good luck dude :thumbsup:
Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
After totally giving up on her and starting to do things with friends and go out with a new girl, I'm feeling about 1 million times better.
Good luck dude :thumbsup:
Yeah, this is my fiancee as well. We were together for 6 years and I just proposed last valentine...
YOyoYOhowsDAjello
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Originally posted by: potoba
Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
After totally giving up on her and starting to do things with friends and go out with a new girl, I'm feeling about 1 million times better.
Good luck dude :thumbsup:
Yeah, this is my fiancee as well. We were together for 6 years and I just proposed last valentine...
Bummer
Mine ended right about Valentine's Day this year (back and forth a few times before she made up her mind for sure). I'm happier now than I've been in a LONG time though. People kept telling me things would get better and I was really sick of hearing it and didn't believe it... but now I've seen the light
P.S. Things will get better
i just broke with my girl after 2 years. ive never felt better. i get to see all my friends again, im happy. its kinda lonely, especially since most of the furniture was hers. but ill get some roommates to move into my house with me and things will be grand
Originally posted by: potoba
Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
After totally giving up on her and starting to do things with friends and go out with a new girl, I'm feeling about 1 million times better.
Good luck dude :thumbsup:
Yeah, this is my fiancee as well. We were together for 6 years and I just proposed last valentine...
Take it day-to-day... it'll be a roller coaster but what kept me sane was remembering that every day you make it is one more day closer to getting past it. A few things I HIGHLY recommend:
1) Find a new best friend. She has probably been yours, and you'll need someone to fill that void.
2) Go to the gym, ideally with that best friend. At first it'll feel like you're dragging yourself there, but after a while you'll find it's what you look forward to doing during the week. The endorphins will make you feel 100 times better too.
3) If you're having trouble getting through the day, drink caffeine. Someone told me it actually increases the dopamine released in your brain, literally making you happier.
thanks Yoyo... it's not easy for me to date another girl, though. I just moved here and haven't met many people yet... I'm not physically attractive to girls, anyway.
It'll be tough and I'm not sure I'm prepared for this at this time.
It'll be tough and I'm not sure I'm prepared for this at this time.
Originally posted by: apac
Originally posted by: potoba
Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
After totally giving up on her and starting to do things with friends and go out with a new girl, I'm feeling about 1 million times better.
Good luck dude :thumbsup:
Yeah, this is my fiancee as well. We were together for 6 years and I just proposed last valentine...
Take it day-to-day... it'll be a roller coaster but what kept me sane was remembering that every day you make it is one more day closer to getting past it. A few things I HIGHLY recommend:
1) Find a new best friend. She has probably been yours, and you'll need someone to fill that void.
2) Go to the gym, ideally with that best friend. At first it'll feel like you're dragging yourself there, but after a while you'll find it's what you look forward to doing during the week. The endorphins will make you feel 100 times better too.
3) If you're having trouble getting through the day, drink caffeine. Someone told me it actually increases the dopamine released in your brain, literally making you happier.
Thanks much apac.
Sorry to hear it bud, especially a relationship that seems to have been a while.
Number one priority right now... GET A HOBBY IMMEDIATELY. You need to keep your mind occupied with something else and feel productive doing so. I suggest a hobby you haven't done before or something you've never had the chance to do before in your life.
Don't meet other girls either, not for now.
Number one priority right now... GET A HOBBY IMMEDIATELY. You need to keep your mind occupied with something else and feel productive doing so. I suggest a hobby you haven't done before or something you've never had the chance to do before in your life.
Don't meet other girls either, not for now.
Here is the one thing that always keeps me motivated. Always keeps me from giving up. Always make me feel a little better. "This too shall pass"
Its a simple phrase with a lot of meaning behind. Keep your head up, because one day, This too shall pass
CJ
Its a simple phrase with a lot of meaning behind. Keep your head up, because one day, This too shall pass
CJ
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I was feeling pretty down in the dumps for quite a while myself and didn't really plan on being ready to date anyone for quite a while... it just sort of happened. I was totally ready to marry this girl so I couldn't even think about someone else for a while without feeling sick to my stomach.
Keeping busy is what helped me out the most at first though. Going to class, meetings, and work helped me keep my mind off things. Weekends were the worst part for me since I didn't have anything I was required to do. I should have made more of an effort to plan stuff for those off days.
Pfft that's a state of mind. Women are attracted to confidence, not looks. All the more reason to go to the gym, if only so one day you look at yourself in the mirror and go "damn! that sh!t IS paying off!"
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Quit that sh|t RIGHT NOW
Just get out there and mix it up. You'll be surprised at the results that can be had when you drop the negativity and let yourself relax and just have fun.
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Hey my post-relationship plants are doing great
https://mywebspace.wisc.edu/spmclaughlin/web/Random/Plants.JPG
Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
Hey my post-relationship plants are doing great
<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="https://mywebspace.wisc.edu/spmclaughlin/web/Random/Plants.JPG">https://mywebspace.wisc.edu/spmclaughlin/web/Random/Plants.JPG</a>
did it work for you psychologically?
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