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Zysoclaplem

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Example:
A friend of mine was throwing a BBQ party type thing yesterday evening, and although I was not planning on staying to eat, I was going to hang around with my friend for a bit before I left.

People begin to show up, and everyone says their hellos, I meet a new person, we shake hands. That is the last word said to me by anyone until the time I left.

The entire time I cannot stop thinking about how much I want to leave. I don't dislike anyone there, everyone is having fun, except me. I just feel a huge need to be away from everyone. I felt very nervous and anxious.

So I just said I am going to leave and I walked out.
I can't help thinking it was very rude for me to just leave. I said a very short and to the point goodbye.
I don't think anyone there liked me anyway.
I can't go to parties, I cannot have fun with groups of people. It happens all the time.
It's very disheartening.

Sorry. Thanks for listening.


 
Aikouka

Aikouka

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It happens... there are a lot of people that don't feel comfortable around others at times. The sooner you accept it, the better it will be overall.

I'm the same way. I have good friends, but I'm not the kind of person that hangs out often. I attribute my dislike of social situations to being related to my dislike of people. People simply tend to annoy me more than they overjoy me and since I usually think fairly logical... why would I want to be in an annoying situation? I wouldn't. Therefore why would I want to be around people?
 
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I just can't help talking to people, esp after a few drinks :eek:

I still can't tolerate idiots, but i relish a clash of intellects, and i'm a complete sucker for human company ;)
 
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alcohol would help but be careful not to get hooked on it and use it only as a cruch.

I would just keep forching yourself into those situations and eventually you might learn to like it.
 
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imported_nerve

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How old are you?


Social Disorder... Could take some anxiety medication... or alcohol


I used to be the same way.. only when im around new people. If I am hanging with friends and having a great time... as soon as someone I dont know shows up Im quiet and not talkative...

it sucks. you leave the party and you just ask yourself wtf cant i talk to people?
 
Demon-Xanth

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Originally posted by: nerve
How old are you?


Social Disorder... Could take some anxiety medication... or alcohol


I used to be the same way.. only when im around new people. If I am hanging with friends and having a great time... as soon as someone I dont know shows up Im quiet and not talkative...

it sucks. you leave the party and you just ask yourself wtf cant i talk to people?
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I'm getting close to 30 and have always felt like that. I'm not sure if geeks feel that ways because they're geeks, or people are geeks because they feel that way.
 
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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Example:
A friend of mine was throwing a BBQ party type thing yesterday evening, and although I was not planning on staying to eat, I was going to hang around with my friend for a bit before I left.

People begin to show up, and everyone says their hellos, I meet a new person, we shake hands. That is the last word said to me by anyone until the time I left.

The entire time I cannot stop thinking about how much I want to leave. I don't dislike anyone there, everyone is having fun, except me. I just feel a huge need to be away from everyone. I felt very nervous and anxious.

So I just said I am going to leave and I walked out.
I can't help thinking it was very rude for me to just leave. I said a very short and to the point goodbye.
I don't think anyone there liked me anyway.
I can't go to parties, I cannot have fun with groups of people. It happens all the time.
It's very disheartening.

Sorry. Thanks for listening.
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I think that's your problem, there. You're anti-social because you think that people don't like you and people may not like you because you're anti-social.
 
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I have no problem talking to people, I just have more interesting things to do, so I do those instead :)
 
Demon-Xanth

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OP: are you like me, where you can be in the middle of a crowd and feel alone. But with one friend in an empty room, you don't?
 
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Next time, how about you throw the party and invite only people you're comfortable with. I find that if I already know more than half the people at a party I have a much better time.
 
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imported_nerve

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Originally posted by: Estrella
Originally posted by: leftyman
Drink heavily, you will become the life of the party. I promise.
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QFT
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Very true.....

I went to a wedding and brought alcohol. Drinking in the bathroom.
After the wedding people I didnt know were coming up to me saying they want to come to my wedding because I was having a blast

 
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I'm the same way. I hate being around large groups of people and the same thing always happens to me. People will talk with me for a few minutes, things die off, and I'm so bored all I can think about is leaving. Yet I'm forced to go to these kinds of things at least once a month. It's easier once you're married, but it still sucks.

Meanwhile, everyone is gathering around the guy with the 1000 lawncare and vacation tales that make me want to stick a fork in my eye.

What happen to college parties where women would take their tops off after 30 minutes :|
 
Aikouka

Aikouka

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Originally posted by: Fritzo
What happen to college parties where women would take their tops off after 30 minutes :|
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The loss of beer goggles is what happened...
 
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I am just as anti-social and don't like it but I just accept it as a fact of life. The way I see it, it's just who I am and taking a drug for that is like taking a drug for being taller than other people. We can't all be charismatic socially adept.

For me when I am around alot of new people I just don't have the arsenal of "chit chat" alot of people seem to carry around. Things like sports, American Idol, celebrity gossip, current music... I don't pay attention to any of that stuff and I really don't care to so when I meet new people who like to talk about those things I have just nothing to say to them.
 
Aikouka

Aikouka

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Originally posted by: nerve
what if there were wow players in the house =/
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I could talk for hours! It's like the one Circuit City employee who stopped me while I was wearing my "Original Gankstas" shirt so he could talk to me about WoW. :p
 
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nonameo

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Originally posted by: Fritzo
I'm the same way. I hate being around large groups of people and the same thing always happens to me. People will talk with me for a few minutes, things die off, and I'm so bored all I can think about is leaving. Yet I'm forced to go to these kinds of things at least once a month. It's easier once you're married, but it still sucks.

Meanwhile, everyone is gathering around the guy with the 1000 lawncare and vacation tales that make me want to stick a fork in my eye.

What happen to college parties where women would take their tops off after 30 minutes :|
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They found religion.
 
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imported_nerve

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Originally posted by: Aikouka
Originally posted by: nerve
what if there were wow players in the house =/
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I could talk for hours! It's like the one Circuit City employee who stopped me while I was wearing my "Original Gankstas" shirt so he could talk to me about WoW. :p
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hahahah

I knew it!
 
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Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: Demon-Xanth
OP: are you like me, where you can be in the middle of a crowd and feel alone. But with one friend in an empty room, you don't?
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Yes. One on one, I am confident, cool, and I can talk you ear off.
Get a bunch of people together, and I clam up.
I don't like it at all.
 
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Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: DougK62
I was like you - booze turned me around.
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I drink plenty...lol. Trust me I don't need any more booze.
I just think there is something wrong with me. I am sure I have more than one thing malfunctioning up in the old noggin.
 
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