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I'm 24. I've had one girlfriend. for 6 weeks. 4 years ago.

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I'm 24 (25 on Saturday, whoopee!) and I've had one serious girlfriend for about 9 months. I don't look for women to date because I'm not happy myself yet, so I can't expect to be happy with someone else. Also, I don't know too many women who'd be interested in dating a 25 year old unemployed student who lives with his parents again. 🙂 The time will come... I'm in no hurry.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I think I'm going from lonely to desperately lonely. I am so sick of meeting girls having one good date and then it unravels within a week. If it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all. My ability to pick up girls almost at will is completely vexed by my INability to get to even a lousy 2nd or 3rd date. It's going on 4 years since I went out with Crystal, and to date she was my only real girlfriend I suppose. 24 years. 1 real girlfriend. 0 girls ever loved me. This is not going well. It's not a problem of MEETING girls, as I go out all the time in a variety of social settings and hit it off well with females of all persuasions. It's not even the first date that clobbers me. Those go well, the girls generally have a nice time, and then within 2 weeks I'm not even talking to them anymore. I don't smother them, I don't act aloof, but if it's not one thing, it's another. Lately (as in the last 4 girls I've gone on a date with) it's been that there's some other guy they've known longer and end up getting back with, or starting something with, or devoting themselves to that person instead. It's like I'm a test subject lately to see what it's like to be with another guy, and once they've hung out with me, they feel better about deciding to be with some other guy.
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sorry dude. best of luck to ya
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I think I'm going from lonely to desperately lonely. I am so sick of meeting girls having one good date and then it unravels within a week. If it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all. My ability to pick up girls almost at will is completely vexed by my INability to get to even a lousy 2nd or 3rd date. It's going on 4 years since I went out with Crystal, and to date she was my only real girlfriend I suppose. 24 years. 1 real girlfriend. 0 girls ever loved me. This is not going well. It's not a problem of MEETING girls, as I go out all the time in a variety of social settings and hit it off well with females of all persuasions. It's not even the first date that clobbers me. Those go well, the girls generally have a nice time, and then within 2 weeks I'm not even talking to them anymore. I don't smother them, I don't act aloof, but if it's not one thing, it's another. Lately (as in the last 4 girls I've gone on a date with) it's been that there's some other guy they've known longer and end up getting back with, or starting something with, or devoting themselves to that person instead. It's like I'm a test subject lately to see what it's like to be with another guy, and once they've hung out with me, they feel better about deciding to be with some other guy.
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Patience. Tell yourself you're just having bad luck (you totally are).
 
Originally posted by: LoKe
Has everyone dated a slut named crystal? Everyone I know had a slutty girlfriend named Crystal at one point. Except me, of course.
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havent dated a crystal but know of one, and man she was a $lut
 
here's something i just got from david deangelo, i think there are some good tips in there...

Here are a few common problems that lead to
"BORING DATE":

1. Playing it "safe". Following her lead, not saying anything that you think will upset her and
making sure that you're "proper".

2. Talking about BORING things. Like jobs, family, weather, etc., because it's "what people talk about to get to know each other."

3. Being boring.


PLAYING IT SAFE

I can remember when I thought that the proper way to act on a date was to talk about socially
acceptable topics, act sterile and quiet, and generally try to make sure that she got whatever
she wanted. Oh, was this a huge mistake.

Generally speaking, women are BORED TO DEATH BY THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR.

When you meet a girl for a cup of tea or go out to dinner, it's time to have FUN, not to be her
personal ass kisser!

Playing it safe and kissing up to her is a sure way to get either an expensive relationship or a
woman who won't call you back.

TALKING ABOUT BORING THINGS

Don't talk about your job and your family!

BORING!

Guys who are trying to convince women that they're "nice", talk about their families (If you
really want to be a loser, carry pictures around with you and show them off).

Talking about families is "courtship" behavior, and it will put her into the old "this guy is
boring" frame of mind. Unless you're related to John F. Kennedy or someone even more interesting, keep the family history to yourself!


BEING BORING

So, what does a "boring" guy act like?

Well, for starters he acts like he's NOT COMFORTABLE in the situation...

Nervous smiles. Apologizing. Agreeing with her opinions all the time. Asking her what she'd like to do. Holding your body in an unsure, insecure way.

That's a good start.

Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and you've got the makings for her running as fast as she can and changing her phone number to save herself from another one of your boring calls!

So, what's the answer? What's the secret to making her feel attracted to you and not BORED
OUT OF HER SKULL?

Here are a few ideas for starters:

1. Take her somewhere that has a lot going on...somewhere that has interesting conversation
built in. I like funky areas that have lots of eclectic, artsy, trendy shops. You can't walk
through one of these areas without having an interesting conversation.

There are all kinds of interesting things from tattoo artists to funky hat shops to ultra-trendy
clothing stores. Most cities have an area like this, and I'd suggest you go check it out.

2. Talk about something that isn't BORING. One of my favorite things to do is to get her to talk
about her life.

YOU: "So, tell me something interesting."
HER: "Like what?"
YOU: "What, you can't think of even ONE interesting thing about yourself or your life? I think I need to go before this gets any worse..."

3. If there is a silence, NEVER let it be uncomfortable. I think that it's great to stop talking when you're first getting to know a woman. But don't do it in a way that sends chills up her
spine.

If the conversation goes cold for a few moments, just pay attention to something else for
a minute. Think about something funny to say and laugh to yourself. She'll say "What? What are you laughing about?"... which is a great lead in for about 1,000 different funny answers.

If the conversation stops, be cool. Just act like you're with a friend, act totally casual, and
pick it back up later. Just don't ACT nervous and uncomfortable!

4. DON'T BE PREDICTABLE. There is an area of the human brain called "Broca's Region" that is
constantly anticipating what is about to happen, then discounting the predictable. In other words, the more predicable you are, the faster you will be considered BORING.

Learn to say random things. Disagree with her... (without sounding like a whiny little girl). Tell her that you think Britney Spears looks like a dog...

If youre boring, read a couple of books on how to tell stories. Or get a book on comedy to learn how to be funny and tell jokes. You can't pretend to be funny, you have to become one.

Women don't want BORING. A woman would rather be with an interesting, fun guy than with a RICH,HANDSOME, PREDICTABLE, BORING one (and the women who want the rich boring guy are often boring themselves...).
 
Maybe you were too serious about the relationship after that 1st date, and they were thinking like, hey we're not THAT close yet!?!?!

there are also 100 other possibilities....
 
I'm 21, I've had 5 girlfriends...two of them were serious enough to think about engagement and I've slept with 10 girls and made out with 50+...and I'm jealous of you because you don't have the reputation I do.
 
Until I was 20 I never dated anybody. I didn't even go to Senior Ball or Prom or anything. Periodically, I'd have a girl throw herself at me, but I just wanted to wait for the one so I'd ignore them.

Once I knew I'd found the one, I decided to give it a shot and if it didn't work out I was going to be single the rest of my life.
 
Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
Until I was 20 I never dated anybody. I didn't even go to Senior Ball or Prom or anything. Periodically, I'd have a girl throw herself at me, but I just wanted to wait for the one so I'd ignore them.

Once I knew I'd found the one, I decided to give it a shot and if it didn't work out I was going to be single the rest of my life.
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TRANSLATION: They were fat.
 
I am going through the same thing. It's called dating for a reason. You have to go through a bunch of hoodrats before you find someone you can connect with AND have you be interested in them and them interested in you.

I recently went out on a date with a pretty cute chick and we connected really well (too well) and I ended up in the friend zone. Like Pepsei tells me, go have coffee on the first date then end it short on a high note and pick it up on the 2nd date. I think the mistake we're both making is giving off the wrong vibe on the first date. If you think it went too well, it probably didn't.

After that, I don't know, I'm still trying to figure it out. 😱
 
women are all crazy

Just find one who's crazyness you can deal with.

Trust me they are ALL insane but the benefits are nice.
 
Holy commitment batman....all these 20somethings with 15+ girlfriends? I mean, I've been with a lot of girls but I'm way too scared of commitment, especially in my college days (I had one gf freshman year, that's it). In my life I've had...let's see...4 serious girlfriends (as serious as you can consider a middle school/hs relationship) and a couple girls that I've kind of been "with" in college but never really got serious with.

15+ girlfriends at the age of 20? wtf? thats 2 serious girlfriends per year?? What qualifies as a gf?
 
Originally posted by: LoKe
Has everyone dated a slut named crystal? Everyone I know had a slutty girlfriend named Crystal at one point. Except me, of course.
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I dated a girl named Bunny once - and by "dated" I mean "woke up in a panic with a screaming hangover next to".😱
 
One thing I've learned, as perplexing as it is:

great first date = bad or no relationship

Try purposely having a mediocre first date and see how that works out for you.
 
Originally posted by: Dragoon42
Originally posted by: LoKe
Has everyone dated a slut named crystal? Everyone I know had a slutty girlfriend named Crystal at one point. Except me, of course.
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havent dated a crystal but know of one, and man she was a $lut
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Yeah, I knew a few slutty crystals myself now that I think about it.
 
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