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I'm 24. I've had one girlfriend. for 6 weeks. 4 years ago.

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Accipiter22

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I think I'm going from lonely to desperately lonely. I am so sick of meeting girls having one good date and then it unravels within a week. If it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all. My ability to pick up girls almost at will is completely vexed by my INability to get to even a lousy 2nd or 3rd date. It's going on 4 years since I went out with Crystal, and to date she was my only real girlfriend I suppose. 24 years. 1 real girlfriend. 0 girls ever loved me. This is not going well. It's not a problem of MEETING girls, as I go out all the time in a variety of social settings and hit it off well with females of all persuasions. It's not even the first date that clobbers me. Those go well, the girls generally have a nice time, and then within 2 weeks I'm not even talking to them anymore. I don't smother them, I don't act aloof, but if it's not one thing, it's another. Lately (as in the last 4 girls I've gone on a date with) it's been that there's some other guy they've known longer and end up getting back with, or starting something with, or devoting themselves to that person instead. It's like I'm a test subject lately to see what it's like to be with another guy, and once they've hung out with me, they feel better about deciding to be with some other guy.
 
Originally posted by: LoKe
Has everyone dated a slut named crystal? Everyone I know had a slutty girlfriend named Crystal at one point. Except me, of course.
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I have not dated a Crystal but I have dated sluts.
 
Originally posted by: z0mb13
No offense but crystal sounds like a pron star or a stripper
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The porn name would be spelled "KRYSTAL" like KRYSTAL STEAL, the porn star and COH MMORPG addict(so she claims)
 
that's interesting. you're doing something very wrong consistantly. maybe you're trying too hard?
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I think I'm going from lonely to desperately lonely. I am so sick of meeting girls having one good date and then it unravels within a week. If it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all. My ability to pick up girls almost at will is completely vexed by my INability to get to even a lousy 2nd or 3rd date. It's going on 4 years since I went out with Crystal, and to date she was my only real girlfriend I suppose. 24 years. 1 real girlfriend. 0 girls ever loved me. This is not going well. It's not a problem of MEETING girls, as I go out all the time in a variety of social settings and hit it off well with females of all persuasions. It's not even the first date that clobbers me. Those go well, the girls generally have a nice time, and then within 2 weeks I'm not even talking to them anymore. I don't smother them, I don't act aloof, but if it's not one thing, it's another. Lately (as in the last 4 girls I've gone on a date with) it's been that there's some other guy they've known longer and end up getting back with, or starting something with, or devoting themselves to that person instead. It's like I'm a test subject lately to see what it's like to be with another guy, and once they've hung out with me, they feel better about deciding to be with some other guy.
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No woman is going to want someone so emotionally dependant that they can't keep it together past the first date.

At least your getting dates... alot of guys can't say that.

Stop feeling so gawdamn sorry for yourself.


 
There is perhaps something wrong in the way your pursue things? The way you speak, it doesn't sound like you smother them, so I don't really know how you act. But let me tell you one thing. The best relationships are often discovered with just strictly getting to know that person, whether as a friend or as a potential girlfriend. You have to let that person be themselves because, as of a week ago, you weren't even in her life. As time goes on, you can do things, and just go for it. But the one thing I've seen that turns girls away faster than anything is neediness.

EDIT: For background, I've had probably 10-15 girlfriends. Two that really affected me. Longest was for three years, and we just broke up a couple of months ago. The thing that tore her away: neediness. You learn a lot as you grow and such, and as you move on, take the lesson and move on. I've learned that to love someone else, you have to first be able to love yourself. That confidence gives you the ability to love your woman right. With this new knowledge, me and her are currently talking about working things out.
 
meh...until I met my wife, I had two relationships last three months and that was the longest. Everything else was one or two dates and it was over. The first got annoyingly possessive and the second turned into a drug abusing cheater.

I met my wife while doing an internship in Atlanta. She was just someone to hang out with for the summer when I wasn't working but it turned into more by the end.
 
I'm 21, no girlfriends. 1 girl who led me on for a few weeks, 1 girl who I would've married in a heartbeat if she lived closer than 300 miles.
 
Hey, don't cheat yourself and think that you're destined as 'transition boy'.

As my 5th grade math teacher said, "Patience is a virtue. Seldom found in woman, always found in man." He rocked!!!

I'm 36 and still single, btw.

Good luck!
 
My slutty g/f was named Elizabeth, not Crystal, so I guess I break the rule. She was the one who tried to get a FFFM going with a couple of her friends... no need to call shens - like a true ATer I screwed it up.

Anyway, as far as the OP's problem, body language is LOUD dude. Louder than if you screamed "I'M LONELY!!!" in someone's ear. Most anyone will tell you people only show interest in them when they have a s/o, and you probably do it yourself, as most of us do, subconciously finding women who are "taken", so to speak, more attractive because of the body language they're giving off.

That was my insight for 2006, now back to my regularly scheduled stupidity for another year.
 
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