if you're white, would you date a girl who has dated a black man?

[zixxer]

this is a serious poll. I always considered myself not racist... I don't (or try not to) judge people when I meet them, etc etc... but there's this girl who I found out date(d) a black guy... and for some reason I was immediately turned off by it...

Edit:
There is a difference between me CHOOSING not to date her, and me JUST NOT LIKING HER.

This thread has evolved into a flame war.

 

[Migroo]

I don't think it would make a difference.

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: armatron
this is a serious poll. I always considered myself not racist... I don't (or try not to) judge people when I meet them, etc etc... but there's this girl who I found out date(d) a black guy... and for some reason I was immediately turned off by it...

I hope you're not serious.

 

[Pepsei]

That means you have an innate racial avoidence that is going to be very hard to change.

would it make any difference if you found out she dated Peter North?

 

[spaceman]

it begs to be posted

 

[SeminoleMarine]

Originally posted by: armatron
I always considered myself not racist...


I don't (or try not to) judge people when I meet them, etc etc...


but there's this girl who I found out date(d) a black guy...


and for some reason I was immediately turned off by it...

Read what you wrote, then read the first line again. Now read the second line again. Now read the third line again. Now read the fourth line again. Now tell me you still believe the first line.

 

[CTrain]

Personally I wouldn't and it has occur twice for me.

My buddy's cousin, she a really pretty girl but we tend to make fun of her because she dates mostly black guys.
One night, we were out drinking and afterward she invited me to crash at her place, I declined. Insercurity on my part I guess.

Also, this employee of mine, her roomate was this cute Asian girl.
She had set us up for a date and everything and when I found out her ex was black, I never went on that date.

Not a racist, just a preference. Its like me chosing not to date an ugly girl.

 

[Zim Hosein]

<-- Patiently waits for the 1st penis joke!

 

[Specop 007]

I personally would have no worries. Most white men would of course.
However, once they've rode the white stallion known as Spec, a woman never goes black.

 

[endscape]

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein
<-- Patiently waits for the 1st penis joke!

You dont know how hard its been not to make that joke.



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[Aves]

Originally posted by: Migroo
I don't think it would make a difference.

 

[ribbon13]

How the hell can you hold something she did before she even met you against her???

Originally posted by: SeminoleMarine
Read what you wrote, then read the first line again. Now read the second line again. Now read the third line again. Now read the fourth line again. Now tell me you still believe the first line.

People are naturally prone to bigotry... as are animals. There is nothing wrong with being honest about how you feel. Perhaps he has a conscious and is contemplating the origins of these feelings?

 

[Specop 007]

8 pages

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: SynthDude2001

Originally posted by: armatron
this is a serious poll. I always considered myself not racist... I don't (or try not to) judge people when I meet them, etc etc... but there's this girl who I found out date(d) a black guy... and for some reason I was immediately turned off by it...

I hope you're not serious.

Ditto.

And you POST THIS ON A PUBLIC FORUM?! Are you fvcking nuts?!

A girls past doesn't bother me as long as she is a good enough person and not the type of personality that doesn't mix with me. Her past makes her what she is NOW.

BUT if she had dated an American that would p!ss me off

Koing

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: ribbon13
How the hell can you hold something she did before she even met you against her???

Originally posted by: SeminoleMarine
Read what you wrote, then read the first line again. Now read the second line again. Now read the third line again. Now read the fourth line again. Now tell me you still believe the first line.

People are naturally prone to bigotry... as are animals. There is nothing wrong with being honest about how you feel. Perhaps he has a conscious and is contemplating the origins of these feelings?

This is the correct assessment.

Personally, I would probably agree with the OP for the most part. If you don't find black women atrractive, or even if you find them repulsive, it's a natural progression that you would probably have second thoughts about a girl who didn't feel the same way about black men. And it is not racist to feel this way, just personal preference.

That said, for me I'd say it would depend on who the black guy was that the girl dated before. If he was some scum-of-the-earth wannabe gangsta/pimp-type dude, then I'd definitely pass.
Why? Because that speaks volums about the character of the girl.
No different than if I passed her up because she dated some dude that looked like Fat Bastard.

 

[JackStorm]

Why is this even an issue? A girl is a girl. Who cares who she dated or what 'race' she or some guy she dated might have been.

 

[Geekbabe]

What is wrong with you ?

 

[Pepsei]

Right right, I think you'd be a homosexual if you did not find Tiger Woods' wife attractive.

 

[yhelothar]

Once ya go black, ya never go back.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Too many variables...

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: armatron
this is a serious poll. I always considered myself not racist... I don't (or try not to) judge people when I meet them, etc etc... but there's this girl who I found out date(d) a black guy... and for some reason I was immediately turned off by it...

then you are racist.. it's plainly obvious.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: ribbon13
How the hell can you hold something she did before she even met you against her???

Originally posted by: SeminoleMarine
Read what you wrote, then read the first line again. Now read the second line again. Now read the third line again. Now read the fourth line again. Now tell me you still believe the first line.

People are naturally prone to bigotry... as are animals. There is nothing wrong with being honest about how you feel. Perhaps he has a conscious and is contemplating the origins of these feelings?

This is the correct assessment.

Personally, I would probably agree with the OP for the most part. If you don't find black women atrractive, or even if you find them repulsive, it's a natural progression that you would probably have second thoughts about a girl who didn't feel the same way about black men. And it is not racist to feel this way, just personal preference.

That said, for me I'd say it would depend on who the black guy was that the girl dated before. If he was some scum-of-the-earth wannabe gangsta/pimp-type dude, then I'd definitely pass.
Why? Because that speaks volums about the character of the girl.
No different than if I passed her up because she dated some dude that looked like Fat Bastard.

I think you may be right.


I knew people would scream 'racist' but I swear.. I am not racist. I am friends with/work with/work under many black people... and it doesn't bother me in the least. It's almost like a natural thing inside me.. that just totally turned me off. I mean we hadn't even dated, I didn't even really know her that well.. and once I found out about it I was instantly turned off.

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What is wrong with you ?

Nothing's wrong with him.
He's entitled to his own beliefs and opinions.
What is wrong with you.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: isekii

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What is wrong with you ?

Nothing's wrong with him.
He's entitled to his own beliefs and opinions.
What is wrong with you.

Because some of the questions posted here totally blow my mind.This is 2005
not 1805. I'd be more concerned with how somebody conducted themselves within and while exiting their prior relationships and what they felt they'd learned from those experiences than anything else.Worrying over the skin tone of a prospective date's prior partners ? wow!

 

[Specop 007]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Too many variables...

Well, for this example we'll pretend that she does actually show some interest in you.
Rare I know, but we can make an exception for this example.