I think my friend my be addicted

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Jeff7

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Sorry... looking at a lot of porn is not considered "normal" to some folks.
Pornography can become a serious addicition and can lead to the end of realtionships and even sometimes jobs. To be honest, if folks view enough porn, i feel it can lead to false views of sex and sexuality that can in turn give a false idea of what a good wife/gf should or can be.

What is normal can differ from one person to the next, but i would say, OP, if porn is consuming your friends life, perhaps you should consider gently talking with him about it.
If you do chose to do so, be non-threatening and truly care about your friends feelings.

So, like many things in life, too much of something can be bad, as can irresponsible use. People must understand that porn does not represent a realistic manner of sexual behavior, just as movies or reality TV does not accurately reflect the real world.
And, as one Futurama said at the beginning, "Not a substitute for human interaction." I guess that's almost accurate. Porn can in fact be a substitute for human interaction. Just not a very good one. It's like substituting real food with sticks of butter. It's a substitute for real food, but it's really not a very good one.

I find your use of butter intriguing... because so many things taste better with butter.

 

[krunchykrome]

When he starts paying for porn, then it's a problem.

 

[Ilikepiedoyou]

it sounds like your friend is lucky to have you smartazz, your judgement thus far has served you well, maybe trust it as you approach your friend and talk with them?

 

[Quasmo]

Atleast it's not your dad.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Create your own porn, with you in it, and then put it on his computer...then when he opens it, he'll be scarred for life and never watch porn again.

that plan can definitely backfire

 

[eakers]

does he truely have a problem? like he skips school/work and social outtings to look at it?

if so, then yes.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
Is it actually affecting his life in a negative way or do you just want to stick your nose into it?

Thats a gross visual...

 

[Smartazz]

Originally posted by: Quasmo
Atleast it's not your dad.

Wasn't there a post about that on the forums not too long ago?

 

[sundev]

No, there is nothing you can do about it. No, you should not confront him about his "problem". No, he is not addicted.

 

[wheresmybacon]

Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Create your own porn, with you in it, and then put it on his computer...then when he opens it, he'll be scarred for life and never watch porn again.

ROFL

:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

 

[DrPizza]

Originally posted by: Jeff7

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Sorry... looking at a lot of porn is not considered "normal" to some folks.
Pornography can become a serious addicition and can lead to the end of realtionships and even sometimes jobs. To be honest, if folks view enough porn, i feel it can lead to false views of sex and sexuality that can in turn give a false idea of what a good wife/gf should or can be.

What is normal can differ from one person to the next, but i would say, OP, if porn is consuming your friends life, perhaps you should consider gently talking with him about it.
If you do chose to do so, be non-threatening and truly care about your friends feelings.

So, like many things in life, too much of something can be bad, as can irresponsible use. People must understand that porn does not represent a realistic manner of sexual behavior, just as movies or reality TV does not accurately reflect the real world.
And, as one Futurama said at the beginning, "Not a substitute for human interaction." I guess that's almost accurate. Porn can in fact be a substitute for human interaction. Just not a very good one. It's like substituting real food with sticks of butter. It's a substitute for real food, but it's really not a very good one.

From another recent thread:

If you guys live in (West) LA you've definitely heard of 4play. It's the best strip club I've ever been to and has the most beautiful women. In fact, I can't go to any other ones because they suck so bad compared to this one (maybe Spearmint Rhino). And because I've been there so many times, my perspective on women have been completely shot and I don't know if I can ever settle for anyone too far below the caliber of these women.

Hmmm.... I think Lola has a very valid point. People may think that they realize that porn doesn't represent realistic expectations, but gradually, their perception of what realistic expectations are becomes a bit skewed.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Molondo
I can't see the problem.

me either....there is nothing wrong with "MOST" porn other than "MOST" of society not accepting it as the norm.

Now child pornography and the like is definitely wrong IMHO.

I can't speak for everyone, but a child has no idea even if they are consenting to what they are really getting themselves into. Unfortunately a lot of pigs can pay a child a small fortune compared to the life they live....

Porn though is as big a genre as artwork.

 

[ohtwell]

I don't see a problem with him letting one loose every now and then in the comfort of his own home! Who is he hurting?


: ) Amanda

 

[cherrytwist]

Originally posted by: DrPizza

Originally posted by: Jeff7

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Sorry... looking at a lot of porn is not considered "normal" to some folks.
Pornography can become a serious addicition and can lead to the end of realtionships and even sometimes jobs. To be honest, if folks view enough porn, i feel it can lead to false views of sex and sexuality that can in turn give a false idea of what a good wife/gf should or can be.

What is normal can differ from one person to the next, but i would say, OP, if porn is consuming your friends life, perhaps you should consider gently talking with him about it.
If you do chose to do so, be non-threatening and truly care about your friends feelings.

So, like many things in life, too much of something can be bad, as can irresponsible use. People must understand that porn does not represent a realistic manner of sexual behavior, just as movies or reality TV does not accurately reflect the real world.
And, as one Futurama said at the beginning, "Not a substitute for human interaction." I guess that's almost accurate. Porn can in fact be a substitute for human interaction. Just not a very good one. It's like substituting real food with sticks of butter. It's a substitute for real food, but it's really not a very good one.

From another recent thread:

If you guys live in (West) LA you've definitely heard of 4play. It's the best strip club I've ever been to and has the most beautiful women. In fact, I can't go to any other ones because they suck so bad compared to this one (maybe Spearmint Rhino). And because I've been there so many times, my perspective on women have been completely shot and I don't know if I can ever settle for anyone too far below the caliber of these women.

Hmmm.... I think Lola has a very valid point. People may think that they realize that porn doesn't represent realistic expectations, but gradually, their perception of what realistic expectations are becomes a bit skewed.

The idea that "realistic expectaions become a bit skewed" is bunk. Men (for the most part) want sex pretty much all the time (which is unrealistic). Porn is a form of FANTASY to "curb" that desire. Then again, I married a stripper so maybe I'm a poor example

Sorry Lola, but you sound like the same sort of person that blames video games and rap music for the violence in our society. Am I right? Isn't that the same logic?

Pornography is a multi-billion dollar industry. It's like anything else American..it's got an ugly side to it (See Steroids in MLB, Crime in the NBA, NFL) but people are obviously buying into it...they just don't like to admit it.

 

[topslop1]

4x a day keeps the hard-ons away....

 

[HardcoreRobot]

i think you have no clue what you are talking about

 

[aphex]

You act as if 1am is late.

 

[Randum]

get a life ,and leave him alone

 

[Aftermath]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: Smartazz
He sits at his computer almost every day until around 1am and his computer is filled with this stuff. Is there anything we can do about it? Should we seriously confront him about his problem? Do you think he might be addicted? Thanks.

Yes, you can mind your own fvcking business.

-------------------------
President of the Anti-SUV Brigade

 

[meltdown75]

Rub one out.

 

[xaeniac]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Sorry... looking at a lot of porn is not considered "normal" to some folks.
Pornography can become a serious addicition and can lead to the end of realtionships and even sometimes jobs. To be honest, if folks view enough porn, i feel it can lead to false views of sex and sexuality that can in turn give a false idea of what a good wife/gf should or can be.

What is normal can differ from one person to the next, but i would say, OP, if porn is consuming your friends life, perhaps you should consider gently talking with him about it.
If you do chose to do so, be non-threatening and truly care about your friends feelings.

Very good point

 

[JS80]

at least he's not addicted to strip clubs

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: xaeniac

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Sorry... looking at a lot of porn is not considered "normal" to some folks.
Pornography can become a serious addicition and can lead to the end of realtionships and even sometimes jobs. To be honest, if folks view enough porn, i feel it can lead to false views of sex and sexuality that can in turn give a false idea of what a good wife/gf should or can be.

What is normal can differ from one person to the next, but i would say, OP, if porn is consuming your friends life, perhaps you should consider gently talking with him about it.
If you do chose to do so, be non-threatening and truly care about your friends feelings.

Very good point

To each their own though, some wouldn't consider marrying in a non-open relationship. Some require active sex....

I don't know why so many want their wives to be more of a helper in life than a soulmate. If I wanted a helper I'd be still living at home.

 

[thomsbrain]

I think my friend my be addicted

i think the OP "my" be 12 years old. and therefore shouldn't worry about it so much.

 

[necine]

I have 30 gigs of porn and i'm not addicted. I just have the space and like variety. there's nothing wrong with your friend.