Translation:
I'm waiting patiently for this girl my sister works with to break up with her @$$hole boyfriend so that we can stop stop flirting and telling my sister that each other is really cute.
Better?ups
Translation:
I'm waiting patiently for this girl my sister works with to break up with her @$$hole boyfriend so that we can stop stop flirting and telling my sister that each other is really cute.
Better?ups
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: moonshinemadness
Oh sh!t stop it your killing me!!.....routes around for Bl00dNinja scripts
Rhinos dont mess around, they charge your ass.
Aight, I put on my robe and wizard hat.
Nitemare
Lifer
- Feb 8, 2001
- 35,461
- 4
- 81
Originally posted by: OulOat
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: moonshinemadness
Oh sh!t stop it your killing me!!.....routes around for Bl00dNinja scripts
Rhinos dont mess around, they charge your ass.
Aight, I put on my robe and wizard hat.
I spend my mana reserves to cast Mighty F*ck of the Beyondness.
alkemyst
No Lifer
- Feb 13, 2001
- 83,769
- 19
- 81
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: OulOat
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: moonshinemadness
Oh sh!t stop it your killing me!!.....routes around for Bl00dNinja scripts
Rhinos dont mess around, they charge your ass.
Aight, I put on my robe and wizard hat.
I spend my mana reserves to cast Mighty F*ck of the Beyondness.
Don't f*ck with me bitch, I'm the mightiest sorcerer of the lands.
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: upsciLLion
Sorry guys. Unfortunately after we broke up I threw away the huge archive of XXX home made movies she and I made.
hmm did he hold the camera for you guys? Maybe he has some copies...
Oops. Looks like I forgot to throw </sarcasm> in there.
I wish I had someone stalking me. All I had was a girl who really wanted me to be her intellectual whore.
Originally posted by: upsciLLion
I still don't understand how I need to grow up. I am honest with her, upfront with her, and I have not resorted to :beer: as an escape. So um, I guess maybe the fact that I'm only 21 is why I need to grow up?
ups
You claim you're being honest with her, but how can that be when you aren't being honest
with yourself?
You had enough trouble breaking up with her, your want to stay broken up with her, but
you still engage in chat with her "sister" because you can't find it in yourself to just turn AIM off?
WTH?
And (I'm assuming from your 1st post) she has blocked you in her IM, but she's okay with
you chatting with her "sister"? WTH!?
You've gotten past falling for her hysterical collapses, but its still okay for her to show up at your
workplace unannounced? WTH!!?
I know what you're trying to do... You're trying to be a "nice guy" about this. Well fark that; speaking
from experience, being a nice guy in a situation like that is the perfect invitation for people to walk
all over you. And it becomes really hard to keep being a nice guy when specific people make you
feel like day-old crap for being yourself.
Nobody is saying you have to turn into an complete a**hole, but you have to set some ground
rules for your own behaviour, and stick with them, or else you will never get her out of your
business. And you owe it to yourself to not let her take up more of your time.
#1. No more IM chats with "sister", period.
Just say "I can't chat with you". You are under no obligation to give a reason.
If you want to be "nice" about it, tell her you've got a special project taking up your
chat time, and give her an email address (make a new one up in hotmail) to write to you at.
If you feel like replying to the emails, keep it short, and don't let here drag you into TMI
(Too Much Information) about your ex-girlfriends life now, or about what is going on in your life.
If she's doing well, then say "I'm glad she's doing well"; if she's not doing well, then say "I'm sorry
to hear that, I hope she can get help soon". (Notice you are not the one offering help).
#2. Make it perfectly clear to everyone else that you are getting on with your life. Don't let
yourself dwell on what happened in the past, that's the past. And don't let other people
drag you into dwelling on it either. You have better things to do with your time.
#3. Send her a "nice" letter, explaining that you would rather not have her visit you at your job
anymore. It is disruptive to your work, and may have a negative impact on your boss if it keeps
up. (Even if you don't think that is true, and the boss seems cool about it, it will have a disruptive
influence if you let this continue.)
I don't think telling you to "grow up" is right, since you are still young (and should be allowed to
experience being young while you can) but you need to realize that being young is a lot more
fun when you are not letting people use you as an emotional doormat.
Originally posted by: CQuinn
Originally posted by: upsciLLion
I still don't understand how I need to grow up. I am honest with her, upfront with her, and I have not resorted to :beer: as an escape. So um, I guess maybe the fact that I'm only 21 is why I need to grow up?
ups
You claim you're being honest with her, but how can that be when you aren't being honest
with yourself?
You had enough trouble breaking up with her, your want to stay broken up with her, but
you still engage in chat with her "sister" because you can't find it in yourself to just turn AIM off?
WTH?
And (I'm assuming from your 1st post) she has blocked you in her IM, but she's okay with
you chatting with her "sister"? WTH!?
You've gotten past falling for her hysterical collapses, but its still okay for her to show up at your
workplace unannounced? WTH!!?
I know what you're trying to do... You're trying to be a "nice guy" about this. Well fark that; speaking
from experience, being a nice guy in a situation like that is the perfect invitation for people to walk
all over you. And it becomes really hard to keep being a nice guy when specific people make you
feel like day-old crap for being yourself.
Nobody is saying you have to turn into an complete a**hole, but you have to set some ground
rules for your own behaviour, and stick with them, or else you will never get her out of your
business. And you owe it to yourself to not let her take up more of your time.
#1. No more IM chats with "sister", period.
Just say "I can't chat with you". You are under no obligation to give a reason.
If you want to be "nice" about it, tell her you've got a special project taking up your
chat time, and give her an email address (make a new one up in hotmail) to write to you at.
If you feel like replying to the emails, keep it short, and don't let here drag you into TMI
(Too Much Information) about your ex-girlfriends life now, or about what is going on in your life.
If she's doing well, then say "I'm glad she's doing well"; if she's not doing well, then say "I'm sorry
to hear that, I hope she can get help soon". (Notice you are not the one offering help).
#2. Make it perfectly clear to everyone else that you are getting on with your life. Don't let
yourself dwell on what happened in the past, that's the past. And don't let other people
drag you into dwelling on it either. You have better things to do with your time.
#3. Send her a "nice" letter, explaining that you would rather not have her visit you at your job
anymore. It is disruptive to your work, and may have a negative impact on your boss if it keeps
up. (Even if you don't think that is true, and the boss seems cool about it, it will have a disruptive
influence if you let this continue.)
I don't think telling you to "grow up" is right, since you are still young (and should be allowed to
experience being young while you can) but you need to realize that being young is a lot more
fun when you are not letting people use you as an emotional doormat.
Wow. I only had to wait for 62 replies until I finally received some good advice.
Much :heart:On a side note, I like how so many people that probably have never had a long term relationship in their lives feel that their lack of romantic turbulence means they have the ever-burning obligation to tell me that I am immature, stupid, deceitful, and psycho-dramatic. All of this because I hooked an obvious Ms. Wrong.
No wonder some of you have so many posts. My goodness. ups
notice the irony? you assume that the people responding have no relationship experience, and are angry that they are making assumptions about you...
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: OulOat
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: moonshinemadness
Oh sh!t stop it your killing me!!.....routes around for Bl00dNinja scripts
Rhinos dont mess around, they charge your ass.
Aight, I put on my robe and wizard hat.
I spend my mana reserves to cast Mighty F*ck of the Beyondness.
Don't f*ck with me bitch, I'm the mightiest sorcerer of the lands.
I touch you on your lettuce, you massage my spinach... sexily.
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