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I think I'm breaking up a long distance relationship

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Originally posted by: preslove
I knew she had a boyfriend in northern california, but she never mentions him.
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You're a fvcking slimeball for doing anything other than just being a friend from a distance if you knew she had a boyfriend.

She's a worthless slutty whore for accepting your invitation while being involved with someone else at the same time.

I say the two of you go off together and let the guy in California find a real woman... one who ISN'T a fvcking SLUT.
 
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.

 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
My thoughts are I'd hit it and too bad, so sad for her lameo boyfriend out in Cali.
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What if your wife started nailing some other guy while you were away at work every day?

Yeah, too bad for her lame-o husband, huh :roll:
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: preslove
I knew she had a boyfriend in northern california, but she never mentions him.
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You're a fvcking slimeball for doing anything other than just being a friend from a distance if you knew she had a boyfriend.

She's a worthless slutty whore for accepting your invitation while being involved with someone else at the same time.

I say the two of you go off together and let the guy in California find a real woman... one who ISN'T a fvcking SLUT.
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that was beautiful...seriously :beer:
 
You're a fvcking slimeball for doing anything other than just being a friend from a distance if you knew she had a boyfriend.

She's a worthless slutty whore for accepting your invitation while being involved with someone else at the same time.
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Your first statement is false. It's between her and her lamo boyfriend. If she likes the OP, why should he give a sh*t about some guy who's obviously not adequate for this girl?

Your second statement I agree with. She is a slutty ho for playing two guys at once.
 
Originally posted by: preslove

When we walk through the crowds she holds my hand, but doesn't take it away after we get through. We walk back to my house, eventually holding hands. We kiss in my house, but she is a little reluctant. Next day, she was like, "that was pretty weird." I'm like "I don't want to push your bounderies, blah blah." She replies, softly and without much conviction, "I wish it didn't happen."

She says it is complicated and that this dude broke up her real bad relationship with a live in boyfriend because the live-in guy was jealous of having this northern cali guy visit her. The northern cali guy told her he loved her by mail and for the past six months they've been having this ldr with visits around every 2 months.

we've been spending a lot of time together and fooling around, but nothing too serious. Last night we walk to get some take-out and she starts on about how she is trying to figure out how she got herself in this awkward mess. She says that she loves this guy, but not as much as he does her, and not in the same way. She says that he is much less experienced than she, and doesn't know how to handle the feelings that he has for her.

I really like this girl and could definitely see us having a long term relationship.
thoughts?
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Seriously, from the info you've already given, can't you see that this girl has loyalty issues? She couldn't be trusted. She broke up with boyfriend #1 because she's seeing guy #2, and now she's cheating on guy #2 with you, guy #3.

There is no potential for a long term relationship here. Unless, of course, you don't mind your girl backdooring you.
 
Originally posted by: yllus
Originally posted by: MaverickBP
ya i just went through a similar experience except i was the guy in northern cali, and my girl was getting her head filled with thoughts from guys like you. DIAR/DIAF :| :|
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Blame your ex, not the guy. I'd say 95% of the time it's the girl is looking for a lil somethin'-somethin', not the guy fscking her until she loves him or something equally as illogical as that.
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It takes two to be douche bags!
 
Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Seriously, from the info you've already given, can't you see that this girl has loyalty issues? She couldn't be trusted. She broke up with boyfriend #1 because she's seeing guy #2, and now she's cheating on guy #2 with you, guy #3.

There is no potential for a long term relationship here. Unless, of course, you don't mind your girl backdooring you.
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That too.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: yllus
Originally posted by: MaverickBP
ya i just went through a similar experience except i was the guy in northern cali, and my girl was getting her head filled with thoughts from guys like you. DIAR/DIAF :| :|
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Blame your ex, not the guy. I'd say 95% of the time it's the girl is looking for a lil somethin'-somethin', not the guy fscking her until she loves him or something equally as illogical as that.
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It takes two to be douche bags!
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we need to change this mans user name to wiseone
 
i think she's problematic. i would remain friends for a while before crossing that boundary and really making a mess of things. you're in a sticky situation
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
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Very likely. I do still think he should pursue things just to get his rocks off, but if he's thinking of marrying her he needs to realize she's a two-timing bizzle!

 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
You're a fvcking slimeball for doing anything other than just being a friend from a distance if you knew she had a boyfriend.

She's a worthless slutty whore for accepting your invitation while being involved with someone else at the same time.
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Your first statement is false. It's between her and her lamo boyfriend. If she likes the OP, why should he give a sh*t about some guy who's obviously not adequate for this girl?

Your second statement I agree with. She is a slutty ho for playing two guys at once.
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Uh... No, my first statement is fvcking bullseye dead on. If you know someone has a siginifcant other, stay the fvck away if you've got feelings for them. It's only going to make the situation worse and by NOT staying away, you're encouraging her to be unfaithful which is, in my book, just as bad as being unfaithful.
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
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I agree. I'm saying that the OP shouldn't feel guilty about the girl being in an LDR because she's obviously not into the relationship anyway.

 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
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Very likely. I do still think he should pursue things just to get his rocks off, but if he's thinking of marrying her he needs to realize she's a two-timing bizzle!
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It's called "self control." If someone can't freaking control themselves, they're not worth becoming involved with. If your balls ache THAT MUCH, then pull pork or something. Don't be a party to fvcking up someone else's relationship if it's that fragile.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
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I agree. I'm saying that the OP shouldn't feel guilty about the girl being in an LDR because she's obviously not into the relationship anyway.
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That's a moot point. She's still in it.
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: yllus
Originally posted by: MaverickBP
ya i just went through a similar experience except i was the guy in northern cali, and my girl was getting her head filled with thoughts from guys like you. DIAR/DIAF :| :|
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Blame your ex, not the guy. I'd say 95% of the time it's the girl is looking for a lil somethin'-somethin', not the guy fscking her until she loves him or something equally as illogical as that.
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It takes two to be douche bags!
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Funny thing, Nik, up until maybe a year ago I agreed with you. Maybe I've become distant or cold or something, but I guess I just see this as a matter of choice on the woman's part. Now, that doesn't mean this guy is completely without fault - he knows that the girl has a bf and he's still pursuing her.

However, he's just doing what's in his interest. It's the girl's responsibility to either tell him to back off or to break it off with her bf. It's her choice. At least he's wondering about the ethical ramifications, that shows some conscience.
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
Click to expand...
Very likely. I do still think he should pursue things just to get his rocks off, but if he's thinking of marrying her he needs to realize she's a two-timing bizzle!
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It's called "self control." If someone can't freaking control themselves, they're not worth becoming involved in. If your balls ache THAT MUCH, then pull pork or something. Don't be a party to fvcking up someone else's relationship if it's that fragile.
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Nik, you always manage to lighten up every thread😉
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Skoorb
You're a fvcking slimeball for doing anything other than just being a friend from a distance if you knew she had a boyfriend.

She's a worthless slutty whore for accepting your invitation while being involved with someone else at the same time.
Click to expand...
Your first statement is false. It's between her and her lamo boyfriend. If she likes the OP, why should he give a sh*t about some guy who's obviously not adequate for this girl?

Your second statement I agree with. She is a slutty ho for playing two guys at once.
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Uh... No, my first statement is fvcking bullseye dead on. If you know someone has a siginifcant other, stay the fvck away if you've got feelings for them. It's only going to make the situation worse and by NOT staying away, you're encouraging her to be unfaithful which is, in my book, just as bad as being unfaithful.
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You are WAY off. If your girl is into you then other guys coming onto her won't make ANY difference in your relationship - because she'll still want to be with you. I like it when guys come onto the girl that I'm with - then I can see what she's really made of.

 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
It's not your problem. Her cheating on her LDR has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. If you want it, then go for it.
Click to expand...

Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll do it to you too.
Click to expand...
Very likely. I do still think he should pursue things just to get his rocks off, but if he's thinking of marrying her he needs to realize she's a two-timing bizzle!
Click to expand...

It's called "self control." If someone can't freaking control themselves, they're not worth becoming involved in. If your balls ache THAT MUCH, then pull pork or something. Don't be a party to fvcking up someone else's relationship if it's that fragile.
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maybe because i was just in this situation an week ago that its hitting me hard but i would not try and break them up. do unto others as you would like others to do unto you. even once they broke up...give her space man...let her clear her head. your an ass for taking advantage of her when shes in an emotional state. either that or shes a slut and you dont need to doubledip that. put urself in their positions and realize its wrong. what they got is "love" im assuming. what you got is a woody. which is more important?
 
Originally posted by: Orsorum
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: yllus
Originally posted by: MaverickBP
ya i just went through a similar experience except i was the guy in northern cali, and my girl was getting her head filled with thoughts from guys like you. DIAR/DIAF :| :|
Click to expand...
Blame your ex, not the guy. I'd say 95% of the time it's the girl is looking for a lil somethin'-somethin', not the guy fscking her until she loves him or something equally as illogical as that.
Click to expand...

It takes two to be douche bags!
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Funny thing, Nik, up until maybe a year ago I agreed with you. Maybe I've become distant or cold or something, but I guess I just see this as a matter of choice on the woman's part. Now, that doesn't mean this guy is completely without fault - he knows that the girl has a bf and he's still pursuing her.

However, he's just doing what's in his interest. It's the girl's responsibility to either tell him to back off or to break it off with her bf. It's her choice. At least he's wondering about the ethical ramifications, that shows some conscience.
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It's that very question of doubt that should ring loud and true in the OP's head. It's wrong and he knows it.

Orsorum, I've become one hell of a cold, hateful, spiteful, bitter bastard and I still know the difference between right and wrong. This is wrong and everyone knows it --well, that is, everyone who has any sense of morals or ethics.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Skoorb
You're a fvcking slimeball for doing anything other than just being a friend from a distance if you knew she had a boyfriend.

She's a worthless slutty whore for accepting your invitation while being involved with someone else at the same time.
Click to expand...
Your first statement is false. It's between her and her lamo boyfriend. If she likes the OP, why should he give a sh*t about some guy who's obviously not adequate for this girl?

Your second statement I agree with. She is a slutty ho for playing two guys at once.
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Uh... No, my first statement is fvcking bullseye dead on. If you know someone has a siginifcant other, stay the fvck away if you've got feelings for them. It's only going to make the situation worse and by NOT staying away, you're encouraging her to be unfaithful which is, in my book, just as bad as being unfaithful.
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You are WAY off. If your girl is into you then other guys coming onto her won't make ANY difference in your relationship - because she'll still want to be with you. I like it when guys come onto the girl that I'm with - then I can see what she's really made of.
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Okay, put yourself in the boyfriend's shoes. What if this certain guy keeps persuing her when she's not interested? You don't find that douche-bag-ish?
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
You are WAY off. If your girl is into you then other guys coming onto her won't make ANY difference in your relationship - because she'll still want to be with you. I like it when guys come onto the girl that I'm with - then I can see what she's really made of.
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Precisely my thoughts as well. 🙂
 
Your world, as I see it:

1. You're screwed. She knows where you live.
2. This girl has problems, which you've only begun to discover.
3. You/her will/won't attempt to kill future babies in a plastic bag the size of your wang.
4. She is going to be a drain on you emotionally and possibly financially some time soon.
5. The probability of you getting drama from this is independent of your decision to fill her full of sweet sweet baby juice
 
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