I think I'm breaking up a long distance relationship

[VirtualLarry]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Well your judgement is clearly flawed because you actually think this girl is worthy of a long term serious relationship. Based on just what you've told me, she's clearly only good for a fvck buddy.

She cheated on her first boyfriend with some internet dude and now she's cheating on internet dude with you.

What was the common thread with those two relationships?

Sounds like she's basically a slut. Do her, if you feel like it, and move on.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: MaverickBP

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: MaverickBP
seems your WAY off. even the strongest and most commited person has their breaking point. There's a word...its called regret. which means doing something and having realization of it later on. you ever yell at ur partner, and realize u didnt mean it? anyone in a emotional state can be taken advantage of especially if the op is telling her how she doesnt need that guy, and making himself seem like a knight in shining armor (not accusing u op just for relevance) shes gonna do what she "thinks" is appropriate. considering her emotional state shes not equipped to make such decisions and the op should realize that and back off.

If this is what you really think then I truly feel sorry for you. You've obviously never been with any quality women. :beer:

id like to hear your explanation on that because im lost. what i said is true..we're human so therefore vulnerable.

You must be young. What you write is true of most young people - they're vulnerable, easily swayed, impressionable, etc. When you get older you'll find quality women that are not like this. There are TONS of relationships out there where there is NO WAY that you'll be able to sway the woman away - they have no "breaking point" like you say. They love their partner. You'll see...

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

LOL - I can picture someone walking around with a full body dress and only an eye hole - that's pure comedy.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: VirtualLarry

Originally posted by: Drakkon
ummm....your trying to steal another man's girl and trying to justify it? yeah your a jerk...let em sort things out before taking it any further...

Regarding that - I've seen similar sentiments expressed, always by guys, that aren't part of the actual relationship at hand. But at the same time, I've seen (and experienced) that sometimes, women are too insecure to make up their own minds, or at least be willing to make a strong statement, about dropping their current BF and spending more time with the "new guy." Yet they'll drop mad hints about disliking their current BF. It's like, they want you to make the move, and "steal" them away from their current BF, whom they are unhappy with, but in such a way that they don't have to go out on a limb in terms of responsibilities of dumping their "old" BF, and at the same time, they also don't want to potentially expose themselves to the possibility of having no current BF. For some women, they consider that a fate worse than death, apparently, and will be in a relationship with a guy, nearly any guy, only just to be in a relationship. (Seems kind of insecure to me, but I guess 99% of women are.)

So in truth, if the woman wants the switch to be made, then the new guy is a "jerk" for not making/letting it happen. The women will likely eventually break up with her current BF at some future point if she is unhappy with him, and then the "new guy" will have lost his only chance to be with the woman, because she won't want to talk to him again either.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has observed this trend. Once I got older and wiser I realized those women weren't worth the effort. And that they were clearly weak, as they defined themselves by their relationship status...not as an individual.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

Don't be stupid. However, if she's approached, she'd better damn well tell the guy off and move on instead of keeping him around and entertaining the idea of being with him or "we" are not going to be "we" much longer.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: preslove
Don't you guys think that the fact that he told her he loves her BY MAIL and after 3 years of friendship is pretty weird? One flaw in her that I see is that she accepted this instead of telling him he needs to grow up.

Who the fvck are you to judge their relationship?

 

[VirtualLarry]

Originally posted by: DougK62
You are WAY off. If your girl is into you then other guys coming onto her won't make ANY difference in your relationship - because she'll still want to be with you. I like it when guys come onto the girl that I'm with - then I can see what she's really made of.

Now that is manly confidence. :thumbsup: You've earned your man card for the day.
This woman is just quite simply confused, or horribly conniving, one of the two. (In the first case, she can't decide between the two - clearly, she's not as committed to her original BF as she originally might have thought, if she were accepting "romantic" dates with another guy locally. In the second, she might intentionally be leading the new guy on, in the hopes that it will make her original LD BF, "love her more". Neither case really suggests that she is capable of having a solid, long-term, committed relationship, at least not at this point in time. Perhaps she just needs to grow up some more, and learn what she really wants?)

However, I also question the ethics of having an "exclusive" LD-based relationship, or trying to from afar, in the first place.

 

[preslove]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: preslove
Don't you guys think that the fact that he told her he loves her BY MAIL and after 3 years of friendship is pretty weird? One flaw in her that I see is that she accepted this instead of telling him he needs to grow up.

Who the fvck are you to judge their relationship?

I am preslove, you are nik. Is this the right forum?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: preslove

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: preslove
Don't you guys think that the fact that he told her he loves her BY MAIL and after 3 years of friendship is pretty weird? One flaw in her that I see is that she accepted this instead of telling him he needs to grow up.

Who the fvck are you to judge their relationship?

I am preslove, you are nik. Is this the right forum?

no

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

Don't be stupid. However, if she's approached, she'd better damn well tell the guy off and move on instead of keeping him around and entertaining the idea of being with him or "we" are not going to be "we" much longer.

Exactly. So what would you think of the people involved if a guy hit on your girl and she received his advances? Would you be mad at the guy? The guy just saw a good looking girl that he wanted to talk to. Or would you be mad at the girl? The girl that obviously doesn't have strong feelings for you and was just waiting for an opportunity out. Would you rather that the guy DIDN'T approach your girl? Then you'd be left in a relationship with someone that's only half-hearted into it.

What I'm saying is that if you BOTH want to be together then you'll be together. If one of you doesn't want to be in the relationship then it'll end. Outside parties really don't have sh!t to do with it...they just help it along the path.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

Don't be stupid. However, if she's approached, she'd better damn well tell the guy off and move on instead of keeping him around and entertaining the idea of being with him or "we" are not going to be "we" much longer.

Ok...so wait the power to deny advances is all under her control now?

Who cares about this other guy? Its about you are her. And she either wants to be with you only, or she doesn't. If the relationship is secure, how is this guy a threat? Why is he even worth getting so worked up over?

 

[Gibson486]

Originally posted by: preslove

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: preslove
Don't you guys think that the fact that he told her he loves her BY MAIL and after 3 years of friendship is pretty weird? One flaw in her that I see is that she accepted this instead of telling him he needs to grow up.

Who the fvck are you to judge their relationship?

I am preslove, you are nik. Is this the right forum?

you are just trying to find anything that will give you the green light and fvck her like a bunny rabbit. It's obvious that you want to do it, so just do it. Who cares what the ramifications or the ethics behind it are? Because you don't seem to care for it, they do not really matter.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

Don't be stupid. However, if she's approached, she'd better damn well tell the guy off and move on instead of keeping him around and entertaining the idea of being with him or "we" are not going to be "we" much longer.

Ok...so wait the power to deny advances is all under her control now?

Who cares about this other guy? Its about you are her. And she either wants to be with you only, or she doesn't. If the relationship is secure, how is this guy a threat? Why is he even worth getting so worked up over?

Jesus christ you fvcking morons. Guy approaches chick he knows is taken, he's a douche bag. Chick either accepts the idea of becoming unfaithful, keeps the guy around and becomes a slut, or rejects the idea, sends the guy away, and remains unslutty. What the fvck is so goddamn hard to understand about that? :roll:

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

Don't be stupid. However, if she's approached, she'd better damn well tell the guy off and move on instead of keeping him around and entertaining the idea of being with him or "we" are not going to be "we" much longer.

Exactly. So what would you think of the people involved if a guy hit on your girl and she received his advances? Would you be mad at the guy? The guy just saw a good looking girl that he wanted to talk to. Or would you be mad at the girl? The girl that obviously doesn't have strong feelings for you and was just waiting for an opportunity out. Would you rather that the guy DIDN'T approach your girl? Then you'd be left in a relationship with someone that's only half-hearted into it.

What I'm saying is that if you BOTH want to be together then you'll be together. If one of you doesn't want to be in the relationship then it'll end. Outside parties really don't have sh!t to do with it...they just help it along the path.

I wouldn't take offense if the guy didn't know she was taken. If he DID know she was taken and made the advances anyway, I'd get fvcking pissed (wouldn't do anything about it at this point of the game, though). If she accepted his advance, I'd kick her whore-bag slutty ass over to him since she's more interested in being a slut and he's interested in banging one. If she rejected his advance, I'd smile, feel that much more secure in the relationship, and move on. If he persisted and she keeps saying no, I'd step in.

 

[preslove]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I'm curious, do you lock your girlfriend in the basement all day or make her wear one of those dresses with just an eyehole in it?

Don't be stupid. However, if she's approached, she'd better damn well tell the guy off and move on instead of keeping him around and entertaining the idea of being with him or "we" are not going to be "we" much longer.

Exactly. So what would you think of the people involved if a guy hit on your girl and she received his advances? Would you be mad at the guy? The guy just saw a good looking girl that he wanted to talk to. Or would you be mad at the girl? The girl that obviously doesn't have strong feelings for you and was just waiting for an opportunity out. Would you rather that the guy DIDN'T approach your girl? Then you'd be left in a relationship with someone that's only half-hearted into it.

What I'm saying is that if you BOTH want to be together then you'll be together. If one of you doesn't want to be in the relationship then it'll end. Outside parties really don't have sh!t to do with it...they just help it along the path.

I wouldn't take offense if the guy didn't know she was taken. If he DID know she was taken and made the advances anyway, I'd get fvcking pissed (wouldn't do anything about it at this point of the game, though). If she accepted his advance, I'd kick her whore-bag slutty ass over to him since she's more interested in being a slut and he's interested in banging one. If she rejected his advance, I'd smile, feel that much more secure in the relationship, and move on. If he persisted and she keeps saying no, I'd step in.

How old are you, dude? You sure like to use "whore" and "slut" a lot.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: preslove
How old are you, dude? You sure like to use "whore" and "slut" a lot.

It's not a matter of age or maturity. It's a matter of I'm still mind-bogglingly bitter and spiteful from it happening to me. I was dead set against this kind of thing before it happened and now that it HAS happened, seeing it happen to others puts me in a blind fit of rage.

 

[brigden]

Why do so many on these forums assume sex, love, and relationships are cut and dry? Life is messy.

 

[MaverickBP]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: MaverickBP

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: MaverickBP
seems your WAY off. even the strongest and most commited person has their breaking point. There's a word...its called regret. which means doing something and having realization of it later on. you ever yell at ur partner, and realize u didnt mean it? anyone in a emotional state can be taken advantage of especially if the op is telling her how she doesnt need that guy, and making himself seem like a knight in shining armor (not accusing u op just for relevance) shes gonna do what she "thinks" is appropriate. considering her emotional state shes not equipped to make such decisions and the op should realize that and back off.

If this is what you really think then I truly feel sorry for you. You've obviously never been with any quality women. :beer:

id like to hear your explanation on that because im lost. what i said is true..we're human so therefore vulnerable.

You must be young. What you write is true of most young people - they're vulnerable, easily swayed, impressionable, etc. When you get older you'll find quality women that are not like this. There are TONS of relationships out there where there is NO WAY that you'll be able to sway the woman away - they have no "breaking point" like you say. They love their partner. You'll see...

for one im not young. not old either. but am wise enough to know that age doesnt determine vulnerability as much as you think. mentality is another but doesnt necessarily increase with age. seems youve got a misunderstanding about women and the human race. we are human which means not perfect..can be swayed no matter the age

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: brigden
Why do so many on these forums assume sex, love, and relationships are cut and dry? Life is messy.

Life is messy, yes; however, much of life IS cut and dry. There are things that you simply do or do not do. This is one of them.