Mind you that 45+ hours a week isnt killer.... some people with a commute spend more than that amount of time away from the home easily (for example, 60 hours)
Mind you that 45+ hours a week isnt killer.... some people with a commute spend more than that amount of time away from the home easily (for example, 60 hours)
slag
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Originally posted by: MichaelD
Hell yeah!
My work week is 10 hours per day/50 hours per week right off the bat. I leave the building for lunch maybe once a week.
Typically, I work 11-12 hours a day and often get called in on the weekends. I am mgmt and on salary; I don't get overtime, incentives, bonus pay or anyting else.
Your GF needs a boot in the ass and smack from the hand of reality. She doesn't know what working hard is yet.
most of us dont live to work. There are many more important things in life than putting in a 45+ hour work week. Its too short to be working all the damn time instead of enjoying life.
MmmSkyscraper
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SMOGZINN
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I have to agree here. I work 60+ hours a week, and have been for the last 2 years. As for the $120, it is her money. She should spend it on what makes her happy. If you are seriously considering leaving her over something like this, my advice to you is leave immediately. You obviously do not have a good relationship.
Saint Nick
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I'm sorry, but if you can't handle your fiance` helping out family, and working more to do so when she is willing to do it, and it is within your means, there is no help for you, and you are going to have a miserable relationship. And I feel sorry for your fiance`.
Tas.
Tas.
LOL @ dumping someone for working 45 hours a week.
That's only an hour extra a day, enough for the after-work quickies she's getting from her boyfriend on the side.
That's only an hour extra a day, enough for the after-work quickies she's getting from her boyfriend on the side.
um. she's working hard for her money. if she wants to give some to her family let her. you sound like a penis.
Dude, I agree. I feel like everyone responding here is a fvcking college student that has never been in a relationship. THIS IS THE SH1T THAT HAPPENS IN EVERY MARRIAGE! If you cannot understand this, you will sit there alone for your entire life or you will get married thinking otherwise and end up another divorce statistic. $120 isn't much. And it's not like she ran out and bought $120 worth of designer socks.
When you agree to marry and merge your finances, you set restrictions. You make sure both parties know that money needs to go to this or that first. You tell eachother when you spend more money that a preset amount. This is what you need to consider. Perhaps if you are so quick to run, you should, save her some headaches.
I guess everybody is not seeing the bigger problem...
She took out 120 bucks out of a JOINT account without talking to him first.
That's a big no-no in my book and IMHO a big red flag of things to come.
She took out 120 bucks out of a JOINT account without talking to him first.
That's a big no-no in my book and IMHO a big red flag of things to come.
BlueWeasel
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This does happen in every marriage, but saying that you should leave you fiance because of this is screwed up. No and's or but's about it. Most of my friends are married and they are always ranting about their wives and their spending, but they don't say they are going to leave them because of it (especially when it is $120 for your grandmother). One of my close friends gets a little annoyed with the same issue, but he doesn't say he is going to leave his wife because of it. It seems to me that the girl deserves someone who is a little more committed.
Money is always an issue in marriage, but the way he states the problem makes it seem like she is neglecting him for working a 45+ hour week and spending an exhorbent amount of money on frivolous things. 45+ hours a week is a normal schedule. I still am asking where the $1800 bills are coming from. Is he in debt for some good reason or is that just living expenses, because that is a normal amount for a mid class family.
I get up at 5:30 and don't get home untill 10 on thursdays when I have school. I wish I could just work 45 hours a week and be done with it.
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Moreso to the point, if you have to post here, instead of talking to your fiance` about it. If you can't come to a conclusive conversation about that, how in the hell are you going to handle other stuff in your marriage??
Tas.
Tas.
Working with school is hard, but very, very different than having a steady salary job outside of school and pulling overtime. Sorry but that is the truth.
jlee
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She's working 5 hours/week overtime - unless she's making under $10/hr, the $120 she's allegedly sending to family is covered by her overtime. What's the problem?
The OP is pissed because his fiancee is:
1) working overtime
2) using money from said overtime to help her family
3) not using the money from said overtime to help him by paying the car off (incidentally, which name is the car in?)
Or am I missing something?
If the OP's fiancee's job paid straight salary, I doubt she'd be working overtime for the money..since there wouldn't be extra.
I worked ~85hrs in a two-week pay period for several months, and I've also taken four classes and worked 30+ hours/week. I prefer straight-up work..
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