I think I may have to dump my fiance

[ruffilb]

GD double post.

 

[Kalbi]

and you have a joint checking/savings account with her because?

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: Kalbi
and you have a joint checking/savings account with her because?

This, my friend, is a very, VERY good question.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?

She's still your fiance not your fvcking wife. She worked for the money and decided to send it to her family. Her money, her choice.

 

[richardycc]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

if she is going to work @6am, coming home around 9pm, and her paycheck is only showing 45hrs of work, she is not really working OT at the office, she is really doing some guy.

 

[Goosemaster]

your math sucks

 

[Adica]

I think her hard work and devotion to her family is a sure sign of a GOOD person. If this is your only complaint, you are a lucky man. If you end this relationship, soon you will be using the phrase, "Hindsight is 20/20".

 

[Engineer]

Originally posted by: suse920
at 90 hours a week come talk to me

You've got that right!

I had a 10 week span this year with over 850 hours (over 85 hours per week actually spent working)!!! Had 4 days off in that 10 week span! :shocked:

 

[Pliablemoose]

I crank out 50-70 per week.

She's not busting her ass at 90 hours every 2 weeks.

WTF is wrong with you?

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

LoL, thats barely working. try 120-140 with no such thing as overtime.

 

[Mill]

45 hours a week is a lot? I was pulling that in 3 days several times this summer. Sh1t, I'd have loved a 90 hour 2 week period, more like 120-130.

 

[kalster]

what is wrong with helping the family, getting engaged doesnt mean you have to cut off ties with parents/grand parents

 

[isasir]

Difference in lifestyles I guess, but I see nothing wrong with what your fiance is doing.

 

[BCYL]

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

Yeah, my job we are expected to work AT LEAST 45 hrs/week...

 

[Sphexi]

45 hours a week? I did that standing on my head, wish I had more hours. My wife is going to be doing that anyways, plus she wants to get a second job until I move over there with her.

 

[classy]

LOL, some guys on this board trip me out. You're going to dump her because she wants to help out someone? Please if your sorry @ss made more money maybe she wouldn't have to work 90+ hours. That tells me all I need to know about you. I just luv how tough some people on these boards are while posting on computer. What a joke. A lousy $120 and you act like your Julius Ceasar. You need to check your attitude.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?

You sound like a selfish bastard. You want your car paid off, while she wants to help her grandmother who is not as well off as you are. It's sad that you get no pleasure in helping less fortunate than yourself.

She probably didn't tell you because she knew you'd flip out and tell how many hundred strangers how stupid she is. Guess you proved her right, didn't you?

Maybe you two need to agree on an 'allowance' for each of you. You each would get to decide how to spend your share, that way if you want to spend it on your car loan, you'd be happy. She can send it to her grandmother, and she'd be happy. Or not.

 

[dethman]

wtf i work twice as much as that, 80 hrs/wk. gimme a break your fiance and you are pansies.

 

[dethman]

Originally posted by: richardycc

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

if she is going to work @6am, coming home around 9pm, and her paycheck is only showing 45hrs of work, she is not really working OT at the office, she is really doing some guy.

we have a weiner!

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: dethman

Originally posted by: richardycc

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

if she is going to work @6am, coming home around 9pm, and her paycheck is only showing 45hrs of work, she is not really working OT at the office, she is really doing some guy.

we have a weiner!

She's getting up at 6 AM, not arriving at work at that time...

Reading skills FTW!

 

[ktehmok]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

That's 15 hours a day bro: x 5 = 75 hours a week x 2 = 150 PPP. Even barring travel time, that's a load o' shiz. She's not working OT. That money went for a hotel room because the guy was short on cash.

Ask for proof that she sent the money to "your country". Then dump her.

 

[miri]

Do you all split the bills 50/50? How much does she make a month and how much do you make a month?

If she is paying her half of the bills then she is entitled to do with whatever she wants with the rest.

 

[SKORPI0]

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: dethman

Originally posted by: richardycc

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

if she is going to work @6am, coming home around 9pm, and her paycheck is only showing 45hrs of work, she is not really working OT at the office, she is really doing some guy.

we have a weiner!

She's getting up at 6 AM, not arriving at work at that time...

Reading skills FTW!

Let's do the math.

9 hours a day (5 days a week).

leave 6 am - home 9 pm = 15 hours (6 hours a day commute; 30 hours a week?) :Q

6 am - 9am (commute to work); 9am - 6pm (work) ; 6 pm - 9 pm (commute home).

 

[jadinolf]

Originally posted by: Orsorum
I don't see anything wrong with her sending the money. And 45 hours a week is not too much. 70 hours/week is too much.

168 hours is even worse.

 

[cavemanmoron]

Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?