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I think I may have to dump my fiance

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Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?
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First off: Why are people saying that the fiancee needs to chill? Nowhere in the OP did I notice her complaining about anything.

$120 isn't even 10% of your monthly bills -- and it's her money, is it not?

45hr/week isn't much, btw..how much do you work? How about you start working extra to pay off the car, since you seem so concerned about it..
 
What's the real issue here?

Working 45 hours a week? C'mon, that's below trivial. Really, it is.

Being gone from home for 15 hours a day while working 9 hours? Sounds like a commuting issue and not something you can be upset about. If she only worked a 40 hour week she'd be home at 8pm. Is that one hour really the difference between bliss and unhappiness?

Not telling you about the $120 and where it went? I suspect that's what it really is.

Finances are the number one reason for divorce, so you need to resolve it now. If neither of you have money to spend as you wish, change that.
 
Wait...
You found a woman that is willing to work hard to earn money and uses that money to help pay the bills you share and helps her family..

...

and you want to dump her? are you INSANE?

If so, dump her and let a guy that would appreciate that have her while you go play with the lazy golddiggers... i.e. 99% of women.
 
I think we need more details.

I think we need more details.

I think we need more details.

1. She works 45 hours a week so how much money does she pull down a year ?

2. Buy smaller cars maybe ?

3. Don't have a joint bank account it only starts trouble ?


I think we need more details.
 
Originally posted by: lilcam
Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!
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The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.
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Thats not 90 hours every two weeks moron. If it is, then she's not working every day.

If she works EVERYDAY for that period it's 150 hours every 2 working weeks.
 
Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?
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you're an idiot, sorry
 
You're going to dump your fiance for working 45 hours a week, and giving her family $120?

You might be doing her a favor, lol.
 
Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: lilcam
Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!
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The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.
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Thats not 90 hours every two weeks moron. If it is, then she's not working every day.

If she works EVERYDAY for that period it's 150 hours every 2 working weeks.
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hey moron, go back and read your first post. it was you who said 90+ every 2 weeks
 
Originally posted by: s0ssos
Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: lilcam
Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!
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The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.
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Thats not 90 hours every two weeks moron. If it is, then she's not working every day.

If she works EVERYDAY for that period it's 150 hours every 2 working weeks.
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hey moron, go back and read your first post. it was you who said 90+ every 2 weeks
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READ HIS FIRST FVCKING SENTENCE.

Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks.
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Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: s0ssos
Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: lilcam
Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!
Click to expand...

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.
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Thats not 90 hours every two weeks moron. If it is, then she's not working every day.

If she works EVERYDAY for that period it's 150 hours every 2 working weeks.
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hey moron, go back and read your first post. it was you who said 90+ every 2 weeks
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READ HIS FIRST FVCKING SENTENCE.

Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks.
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She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!
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so, 90+ hours every 2 weeks. that means, um, 90+ hours every 1 week, according to ryan.
and pay period? hmm, pay periods are usually 2 weeks, as far as i know. or a month, if company's slower.

how do you get 90+ hours every 2 weeks to mean 90+ hours every week?
 
Originally posted by: richardycc
Originally posted by: lilcam
Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!
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The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.
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if she is going to work @6am, coming home around 9pm, and her paycheck is only showing 45hrs of work, she is not really working OT at the office, she is really doing some guy.
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BINGO!

You are being played... don't worry, it happens to nice guys too. 🙁

:beer:



 
Originally posted by: Orsorum
I don't see anything wrong with her sending the money. And 45 hours a week is not too much. 70 hours/week is too much.
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Yeah for real, I'm a full time student and work 45 hours a week.
 
Originally posted by: lilcam
She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?
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This is a serious problem. They say that money is the biggest problem married couples have. If your fiancee is spending money without telling you and doing it knowing that you're not comfortable with it, then you have a recipe for disaster.
 
Ok shes working a little overtime... she uses basically the money shes getting from overtime to use on something she wants... LOL sad. She's working extra which would cover that little bit of money and your bitching?
 
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