I received an invitation to a Baptism for my cousin

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: paulxcook

Learn anything new? What do you mean?

I guess that is my question. I've never been to one, I don't know what to expect. I don't know if it is worth my time.

Originally posted by: moshquerade

if it were my cousin i would go whether i was a religious person or not.

I don't have a problem going because of religious beliefs, I'm just curious what it entails and if it is worth attending.

Originally posted by: ATLien247
Which religion?

One of those christian types... I didn't ask.

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
What a stupid question, IMO.

If you like and respect your cousin, go to support her. If you are (or she is) a douchebag, then don't. WTF do you think you own personal religious preferences should make a hill of beans in this decision?

If your cousin was starring in a Broadway musical and invited you to see her debut performance, would you make your decision based on what play she was performing? You are doing it for her sake, not your own.

I DON'T think my religious preference has anything to do with it. I have just never been to a baptism and I don't know if it is something I should go to or not... regardless of belief

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: f4phantom2500

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: paulxcook
Do you like your cousin? Would it make her happy if you were there? More important, would she be upset if you didn't go? If so, put aside your religious non-convictions and just go.

I usually like her. We disagree a lot and she is extremely sensitive and moody. I don't think she would be upset if I wasn't there, most of her immediate family will be. I just wonder if I will learn anything new by going.

Well, let me add on to what I previously said. While I still agree with what I said, if you not going will really affect your relations with that side of the family then it's probably better to just go, even if it's just to not piss them off. I mean you have to choose your battles, and even though it would be going against what you believe if they will get really pissed about it then you may want to go for that reason. If you really want to you could argue your point to them about how she doesn't seem to live the lifestyle, but I doubt that'll go over to well, so you have to decide if not going is worth it. But I do agree with you, if she did practiced what she preached and all it wouldn't even be an issue.

So: If your feelings against the baptism thing outweigh the consequences of them being pissed at you, don't go. If the consequences outweigh the strength of your feelings of the baptism thing, go.

Sorry, I should have proofread.... I meant her immediate family will be there. I didn't mean that they would be dissapointed if I am not there.

 

[Aikouka]

Typically they're held in the middle or near the end of a religious service. Whether or not there's food afterward really depends on the church as a whole. I know in the church I used to regularly attend, food was actually fairly common (Baptists love their food ), but I don't recall any ever being after a baptismal service...

Although I may be religious, I have a bad habit of falling asleep during church services >_>. I can't listen to someone tell me the same thing over and over without zonkin' out and spilling some holy drool on the pew.

 

[skrilla]

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: skrilla
I went to a baptism last Sunday for my cousin's kid. It was pretty much just like regular church but in the middle of it they did the baptism. It took like 5-10 minutes. Then we went to my cousin's house afterwards and ate food.

Did you sit through the church part too?

Yeah. You kind of have to. There is no set time when the baptism takes place. They told us it would be after a certain song. Church didn't last over an hour tho...about its usual length.

 

[paulxcook]

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: paulxcook

Learn anything new? What do you mean?

I guess that is my question. I've never been to one, I don't know what to expect. I don't know if it is worth my time.

Given: I don't know the situation nearly as intricately as you do. So take this for what it's worth.

- Your cousin seems to think your attendance is important enough that she thought to invite you.
- You seem somewhat curious about it.
- You apparently aren't putting yourself out too much if you do go, otherwise I would think you'd say "But I have this other thing I want to go do..."

So if all that is true, why not go? Most don't last THAT long.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: paulxcook

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: paulxcook

Learn anything new? What do you mean?

I guess that is my question. I've never been to one, I don't know what to expect. I don't know if it is worth my time.

Given: I don't know the situation nearly as intricately as you do. So take this for what it's worth.

- Your cousin seems to think your attendance is important enough that she thought to invite you.
- You seem somewhat curious about it.
- You apparently aren't putting yourself out too much if you do go, otherwise I would think you'd say "But I have this other thing I want to go do..."

So if all that is true, why not go? Most don't last THAT long.

You're right. And based on the poll results so far I might as well go.

Thanks all.

 

[Vic]

Even if you're not religious, they're an interesting thing to go and watch. Or you could support your cousin if you want, I suppose.

Which church really does matter. Because it's on a Sunday, I'm going assume that it's going to be part of a full church service plus the baptism, and that means it'll probably be more than an hour to endure through. And then that depends too. Catholic, Mormon, and other conservative-type services are extremely boring, while some of the new age evangelical types can actually be kind of fun in a humorous way, with modern music, pulpit pounding, writhing and speaking in tongues, etc.

 

[tfinch2]

Just go and have fun. There will probably be food. It's not like they are going to try and convert you.

 

[DanTMWTMP]

probably will be an experience since it is engrained within our western culture. For cultural sake, and just to be there to meet your family..go.
oh and ya, free lunch.

 

[GasX]

It is a family get together. for that reason alone you should make every effort to attend. Even if you are a self-centered adolescent who prefers getting dropped of at the back door to the mall so noone sees you with your parents.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: Mwilding
It is a family get together. for that reason alone you should make every effort to attend. Even if you are a self-centered adolescent who prefers getting dropped of at the back door to the mall so noone sees you with your parents.

LOL

 

[paulxcook]

Originally posted by: Mwilding
It is a family get together. for that reason alone you should make every effort to attend. Even if you are a self-centered adolescent who prefers getting dropped of at the back door to the mall so noone sees you with your parents.

Did you do this as a child? That's very funny.

 

[Kev]

don't be a tool, just go

 

[Lorax]

go and try to pick up chicks. they'll love your "anti religion bad boy" attitude.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: Lorax
go and try to pick up chicks. they'll love your "anti religion bad boy" attitude.

Except that I am female. ...but who knows, maybe I could use that to my advantage.




Also, ftr, I am not anti-religious. Just non-religious. I really don't care what anyone else chooses to believe or not believe.

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: Lorax
go and try to pick up chicks. they'll love your "anti religion bad boy" attitude.

Except that I am female. ...but who knows, maybe I could use that to my advantage.




Also, ftr, I am not anti-religious. Just non-religious. I really don't care what anyone else chooses to believe or not believe.

Pics?

 

[FoBoT]

they'll probably have snacks or something

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: Lorax
go and try to pick up chicks. they'll love your "anti religion bad boy" attitude.

Except that I am female. ...but who knows, maybe I could use that to my advantage.




Also, ftr, I am not anti-religious. Just non-religious. I really don't care what anyone else chooses to believe or not believe.

Pics?

I promise if I go to the baptism and I pick up chick(s), I'll definately post some pics.