I received an invitation to a Baptism for my cousin

[Cookie]

My cousin invited me to her baptism. She is 30 years old. She claims she is religious, but she doesn't act like it. I've never been to a baptism. I don't go to church. I am not religious. I don't think she would care whether I go or not.

What happens at a baptism? Is it boring? Do I have to sit through a church ceremony first? It is on a Sunday. Or is it more like a wedding that just happens to occur in a church? Should I bother? Would it be a worthwhile experience to go see it just once, or just a waste of my time?

 

[Jeeebus]

why would we care if you go or not?

 

[amdhunter]

Does it really matter if you are religious or not? Just go and have fun.

 

[leftyman]

Is there going to be food and beer?

 

[DeadByDawn]

What do you think she'd look like in a wet t-shirt?

 

[Lola]

She is basically "washed" with the holy spirit. It is fairly simple.
If you were invited, go, there is usually a luncheon afterwards, plus, i am sure she would be happy if you came.

 

[meltdown75]

religious or not, of course you should go. you're asking the wrong crowd btw.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
What do you think she'd look like in a wet t-shirt?

She's very thin, but no breasts. How about you come with me, and if it's boring we can sneak out and find some food and beer.

 

[f4phantom2500]

I voted no, I mean the fact that she's just now getting baptized shows that she's only recently discovered the religion, and the fact that she doesn't act religious shows that she isn't a good follower of it anyway (like most religious people, sadly). And if you aren't religious and she doesn't really care if you go or not then why go? It's not like it's a *real* baptism, I mean it's "real" but not real, judging from what I know. You probably shouldn't go, even if you don't have anything better to do, because if you do it will show you're supporting her newfound religion, which is crap because she doesn't even support it with her actions. Don't support something fake.

 

[Krazy4Real]

I'm sure your cousin would appreciate it if you went. It'll only take 30 minutes to an hour.

 

[skrilla]

I went to a baptism last Sunday for my cousin's kid. It was pretty much just like regular church but in the middle of it they did the baptism. It took like 5-10 minutes. Then we went to my cousin's house afterwards and ate food.

 

[paulxcook]

Do you like your cousin? Would it make her happy if you were there? More important, would she be upset if you didn't go? If so, put aside your religious non-convictions and just go.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: f4phantom2500
I voted no, I mean the fact that she's just now getting baptized shows that she's only recently discovered the religion, and the fact that she doesn't act religious shows that she isn't a good follower of it anyway (like most religious people, sadly). And if you aren't religious and she doesn't really care if you go or not then why go? It's not like it's a *real* baptism, I mean it's "real" but not real, judging from what I know. You probably shouldn't go, even if you don't have anything better to do, because if you do it will show you're supporting her newfound religion, which is crap because she doesn't even support it with her actions. Don't support something fake.

I have considered all of this, I think this is mostly the cause of my hesitancy. I wouldn't have a problem going if she truly believed and acted like it.

 

[clamum]

Eh, having a few drinks beforehand may spice things up a bit.

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: skrilla
I went to a baptism last Sunday for my cousin's kid. It was pretty much just like regular church but in the middle of it they did the baptism. It took like 5-10 minutes. Then we went to my cousin's house afterwards and ate food.

Did you sit through the church part too?

 

[Cookie]

Originally posted by: paulxcook
Do you like your cousin? Would it make her happy if you were there? More important, would she be upset if you didn't go? If so, put aside your religious non-convictions and just go.

I usually like her. We disagree a lot and she is extremely sensitive and moody. I don't think she would be upset if I wasn't there, most of her immediate family will be. I just wonder if I will learn anything new by going.

 

[paulxcook]

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: paulxcook
Do you like your cousin? Would it make her happy if you were there? More important, would she be upset if you didn't go? If so, put aside your religious non-convictions and just go.

I usually like her. We disagree a lot and she is extremely sensitive and moody. I don't think she would be upset if I wasn't there, most of her immediate family will be. I just wonder if I will learn anything new by going.

Learn anything new? What do you mean?

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Cookie
My cousin invited me to her baptism. She is 30 years old. She claims she is religious, but she doesn't act like it. I've never been to a baptism. I don't go to church. I am not religious. I don't think she would care whether I go or not.

What happens at a baptism? Is it boring? Do I have to sit through a church ceremony first? It is on a Sunday. Or is it more like a wedding that just happens to occur in a church? Should I bother? Would it be a worthwhile experience to go see it just once, or just a waste of my time?

if it were my cousin i would go whether i was a religious person or not.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: skrilla
I went to a baptism last Sunday for my cousin's kid. It was pretty much just like regular church but in the middle of it they did the baptism. It took like 5-10 minutes.

Yep, that's about it.

 

[ATLien247]

Which religion?

 

[nakedfrog]

Well... do you want to go?

 

[cKGunslinger]

What a stupid question, IMO.

If you like and respect your cousin, go to support her. If you are (or she is) a douchebag, then don't. WTF do you think you own personal religious preferences should make a hill of beans in this decision?

If your cousin was starring in a Broadway musical and invited you to see her debut performance, would you make your decision based on what play she was performing? You are doing it for her sake, not your own.

 

[Injury]

Originally posted by: paulxcook

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: paulxcook
Do you like your cousin? Would it make her happy if you were there? More important, would she be upset if you didn't go? If so, put aside your religious non-convictions and just go.

I usually like her. We disagree a lot and she is extremely sensitive and moody. I don't think she would be upset if I wasn't there, most of her immediate family will be. I just wonder if I will learn anything new by going.

Learn anything new? What do you mean?

Well... despite the fact that some people on here openly bash religion, they don't don't a damn thing but the basics.

You might learn a little bit about religion. It doesn't require being religious to gain knowledge in an area.

 

[f4phantom2500]

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: paulxcook
Do you like your cousin? Would it make her happy if you were there? More important, would she be upset if you didn't go? If so, put aside your religious non-convictions and just go.

I usually like her. We disagree a lot and she is extremely sensitive and moody. I don't think she would be upset if I wasn't there, most of her immediate family will be. I just wonder if I will learn anything new by going.

Well, let me add on to what I previously said. While I still agree with what I said, if you not going will really affect your relations with that side of the family then it's probably better to just go, even if it's just to not piss them off. I mean you have to choose your battles, and even though it would be going against what you believe if they will get really pissed about it then you may want to go for that reason. If you really want to you could argue your point to them about how she doesn't seem to live the lifestyle, but I doubt that'll go over to well, so you have to decide if not going is worth it. But I do agree with you, if she did practiced what she preached and all it wouldn't even be an issue.

So: If your feelings against the baptism thing outweigh the consequences of them being pissed at you, don't go. If the consequences outweigh the strength of your feelings of the baptism thing, go.

 

[Kadarin]

It will probably be a waste of time, but if you do like your cousin and want to support her, then do it anyway.