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I need to write a letter to my girlfriends parents... *update in 1st post*

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Originally posted by: Stefan
Originally posted by: pulse8
You sound like a drama queen.

I also vote for not saying anything. It serves no purpose but to make the situation (and possible your trip) worse.
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I can't say I've even been called a drama queen before (I don't see how it applies)... and I think it could make the situation better (no improvement if it doesn't work). I'm not hiding the trip from anyone.
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How can you hide something from people you never speak to?

I say you sound like a drama queen because the only reason I can see sending this letter is to cause more DRAMA between you, your girlfriend and her parents. From the sounds of the situation, it's not going to make anything better to say to her parents that you're going to see her and it's only going to make her life more difficult with her parents.
 
Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: Stefan
Originally posted by: pulse8
You sound like a drama queen.

I also vote for not saying anything. It serves no purpose but to make the situation (and possible your trip) worse.
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I can't say I've even been called a drama queen before (I don't see how it applies)... and I think it could make the situation better (no improvement if it doesn't work). I'm not hiding the trip from anyone.
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How can you hide something from people you never speak to?

I say you sound like a drama queen because the only reason I can see sending this letter is to cause more DRAMA between you, your girlfriend and her parents. From the sounds of the situation, it's not going to make anything better to say to her parents that you're going to see her and it's only going to make her life more difficult with her parents.
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Like I said above:

I want to tell them that I'm going to India to be with their daughter who I love more than anything else and to say that I have not been a negative influence on her life and that I wish the situation between me and her family didn't have to be like this.

(I want to situation to be better and I don't like that it has become what it has)

Originally posted by: deejayshakur
OP whats your age?
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I'm 22
GF is 21
 
Originally posted by: Stefan

I can't say I've even been called a drama queen before (I don't see how it applies)... and I think it could make the situation better (no improvement if it doesn't work). I'm not hiding the trip from anyone.
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sounds like you're fixin' to advertise it instead.

speakin' from the perspective of a parent of a daughter.. I'm going to agree with the folks advising you not to tell 'em at all. It's weird. you don't talk to them anyway. if I got a letter like that i'd react to it as flaunting the fact you're doing something you know I wouldn't like and rubbing my nose in the fact there's nothing I can do about it. it's not gonna accomplish anything other than more hard feelings.

the rest of the speech, how much you love their daughter, and wished the relationship between yourself and the parents was better.. those are good things to say, and perhaps a letter is a good way to say them.. but not in this context.

I'll agree that they'll probably find out you made the trip anyway, but I disagree that you should be the one to tell them. I'd just be more irritated about the whole thing if I found out about it that way.

at least.. I imagine I would..

anno
 
Since they have "banned" you from their house I don't see why a letter
informing them what you are doing is needed.


If you were on good terms I could see the reason but since you aren't
I would think that they couldn't care less what you are doing.
 
Originally posted by: jyates
Since they have "banned" you from their house I don't see why a letter
informing them what you are doing is needed.


If you were on good terms I could see the reason but since you aren't
I would think that they couldn't care less what you are doing.
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Well, they will care when I'm off in India with their girlfriend.

I'll think about what you guys have said and I'll talk to my girlfriend again.
 
i think it's the girl's job to tell her parents....

<--speaking from the perspective of a girl who would get disowned by her parents if she dated outside of her race 😛

i really dont see how the letter will help the situation at all. as for pics..she can show them pics without you in them. it's not like you're gonna be in EVERY single picture!
 
Originally posted by: Stefan
Originally posted by: jyates
Since they have "banned" you from their house I don't see why a letter
informing them what you are doing is needed.


If you were on good terms I could see the reason but since you aren't
I would think that they couldn't care less what you are doing.
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Well, they will care when I'm off in India with their girlfriend.

I'll think about what you guys have said and I'll talk to my girlfriend again.
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Is your girlfriend out of the house or does she still live
with her parents?

Saying this because if she's an adult and out on her own what can they do
about it? They are already upset at her because they think you aren't
good for her.

But if she lives at home and intends on moving back in when her stint in
India is done what happens in India may cause them extra friction and
problems.

 
Oh haha is this whole thing about race? She is Indian and you are white or Eskimo or something, or the other way around or what's the deal?
 
isnt india pretty poor...how much does it cause to have a bad influence bf 'accidently' die out there?

i am thinking pretty cheap....so yeah go ahead and advertise yoru coming...
 
Originally posted by: Stefan
Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: Stefan
Originally posted by: pulse8
You sound like a drama queen.

I also vote for not saying anything. It serves no purpose but to make the situation (and possible your trip) worse.
Click to expand...

I can't say I've even been called a drama queen before (I don't see how it applies)... and I think it could make the situation better (no improvement if it doesn't work). I'm not hiding the trip from anyone.
Click to expand...

How can you hide something from people you never speak to?

I say you sound like a drama queen because the only reason I can see sending this letter is to cause more DRAMA between you, your girlfriend and her parents. From the sounds of the situation, it's not going to make anything better to say to her parents that you're going to see her and it's only going to make her life more difficult with her parents.
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Like I said above:

I want to tell them that I'm going to India to be with their daughter who I love more than anything else and to say that I have not been a negative influence on her life and that I wish the situation between me and her family didn't have to be like this.

(I want to situation to be better and I don't like that it has become what it has)

Originally posted by: deejayshakur
OP whats your age?
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I'm 22
GF is 21
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Telling them that you're going to India to be with their daughter probably translates in their head that you're going to India to bang their daughter.

If they hate you as much as you say they do then there's probably nothing you could write in that letter that would make them change their mind.

You're being quite naive about this situation.
 
Are you sure your girlfriend wants you to go? It seems like you're just shovling sh1t onto her plate so you can get some action
 
You wacky kids....
This whole affair is doomed to failure. Women rarely give up their family for a guy, especially if he does inciteful things that lend themselves to familal retaliation against the couple.
Prepare to break up. Find someone whose parents like you or ingratiate yourself with the G/F's parents.
You're hosed, you just don't know it yet.
 
If she doesn't live at home and her parents are already on her about having you
as a boyfriend I would probably let them find out on their own (if they can) about
you being over there. You are both of adult age and should be able to see who you
want, where you want.
 
why dont you explain to them that your not going to india to bang their daughter...you are just gonna do her like kobe did...cuz thats how she likes it....and thats shes a fox int he sack..provide pictures are visual aids...
 
about 50 people or so ATOTer's have told him not to write a letter that purpose is to tell them "hello i am banging your daughter in india and you can't do jack sh!t about it"

and he wants to write one.

i say let him write one.
 
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