I need to be more careful with what I hit

[OS]

This acquaintance of mine has been harrassing me to visit her again so I finally did last night. Being bored, I had nothing to do so I wanted to see where I could go with this. I basically played right into her pants.

I don't even know her that well, so who knows where she's been. I'm mainly worried about herpes exposure. I used protection but condoms aren't totally effective against herpes. Also most carriers of herpes don't know they're infected and there doesn't have to be visible symptoms to be contagious. And of course casual encounters are higher risk.

I already knew all this, but i obviously wasn't thinking straight at the time. Ugh, so much for going out and getting a life. I think I liked being a geek more. I feel so dirty.

 

[godmare]

Condoms aren't totally effective against anything. They're really not that effective at all; not as much as everyone thinks.
Then there's the obvious risk of 'not knowing her well', and 'playing into her pants'

 

[Darien]

...going to visit a doctor now?

 

[Ulfwald]

Sex without love is like taking drain cleaner. It cleans you out and leaves you feeling empty.

Sex with someone you love and respect is the greatest feeling in the world. Snuggling afterward and having her fall asleep in you arms is rewarding, it shows she trusts you, she feels safe with you.

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.

 

[Cable God]

lol, that's a risk when you're a big bawla

 

[BlueWeasel]

Originally posted by: Ulfwald
Sex without love is like taking drain cleaner. It cleans you out and leaves you feeling empty.

Sex with someone you love and respect is the greatest feeling in the world. Snuggling afterward and having her fall asleep in you arms is rewarding, it shows she trusts you, she feels safe with you.

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.

Well said....

 

[freakflag]

pics?

 

[Moonbeam]

Sex without love is like taking drain cleaner. It cleans you out and leaves you feeling empty.

Sex with someone you love and respect is the greatest feeling in the world. Snuggling afterward and having her fall asleep in you arms is rewarding, it shows she trusts you, she feels safe with you.

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.
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I read that, then I looked at the author's name, then I thought to myself, he (probably he) should be elite. Then I saw elite and thought, Ah good.

 

[PunDogg]

yeah that sucks, actually a friend of mine, is taking an AIDS test, he is a nervous wreck, i am glad that he took it just to be safe, but i am sure it will come back negative cuz he has only slept with 3-4 girls if that. But i guess we wait.

Dogg

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: Ulfwald
Sex without love is like taking drain cleaner. It cleans you out and leaves you feeling empty.

Sex with someone you love and respect is the greatest feeling in the world. Snuggling afterward and having her fall asleep in you arms is rewarding, it shows she trusts you, she feels safe with you.

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.

Very well said!!


: ) Amanda

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: OS
This acquaintance of mine has been harrassing me to visit her again so I finally did last night. Being bored, I had nothing to do so I wanted to see where I could go with this. I basically played right into her pants.

I don't even know her that well, so who knows where she's been. I'm mainly worried about herpes exposure. I used protection but condoms aren't totally effective against herpes. Also most carriers of herpes don't know they're infected and there doesn't have to be visible symptoms to be contagious. And of course casual encounters are higher risk.

I already knew all this, but i obviously wasn't thinking straight at the time. Ugh, so much for going out and getting a life. I think I liked being a geek more. I feel so dirty.

I'd go to the doctor if I were you. Like you said, you don't have to show signs to be contagious. You may develop symptoms 2-20 days after infection though. If you have it you will always have it so I hope that you don't. You really should be more careful. Casual sex makes you feel good at the moment but what does it do for you in the long run other than making you feel empty and dirty?


: ) Amanda

 

[cherrytwist]

I'd go to the doctor if I were you. Like you said, you don't have to show signs to be contagious. You may develop symptoms 2-20 days after infection though. If you have it you will always have it so I hope that you don't. You really should be more careful. Casual sex makes you feel good at the moment but what does it do for you in the long run other than making you feel empty and dirty

Wait a minute...so a guy has a one night stand, used protection and now needs to see a doctor?

I think you people are losing perspective here. In my own experience (before I met my wife of course), I had several one night stands. It's a part of being young and reckless. Kudos to OS for using protection .

Condoms aren't 100% but nothing is. To say he needs to see a doctor after sleeping with someone is ridiculous.

The only reason to see a doctor is if you have symptoms. To feel guilty about having sex with a stranger is natural, because most of us are raised to believe that it is wrong. Personally, if you both are consenting adults more power to you.

 

[theNEOone]

Originally posted by: Ulfwald
Sex without love is like taking drain cleaner. It cleans you out and leaves you feeling empty.

Sex with someone you love and respect is the greatest feeling in the world. Snuggling afterward and having her fall asleep in you arms is rewarding, it shows she trusts you, she feels safe with you.

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.

am i the only person that thought this sounded gay as all hell?


anyway good luck w/ ur problem OS. hope the condom did its job

 

[illusion88]

Originally posted by: cherrytwist

I'd go to the doctor if I were you. Like you said, you don't have to show signs to be contagious. You may develop symptoms 2-20 days after infection though. If you have it you will always have it so I hope that you don't. You really should be more careful. Casual sex makes you feel good at the moment but what does it do for you in the long run other than making you feel empty and dirty

Wait a minute...so a guy has a one night stand, used protection and now needs to see a doctor?

I think you people are losing perspective here. In my own experience (before I met my wife of course), I had several one night stands. It's a part of being young and reckless. Kudos to OS for using protection .

Condoms aren't 100% but nothing is. To say he needs to see a doctor after sleeping with someone is ridiculous.

The only reason to see a doctor is if you have symptoms. To feel guilty about having sex with a stranger is natural, because most of us are raised to believe that it is wrong. Personally, if you both are consenting adults more power to you.

You can never be to safe when your talking about your tallywhacker. Whats the harm in seeing a doctor and getting tested? I am sure there is a free clinc somewhere in his town that he can go to. He is worried that he may have come in contact with something that the condom doesnt cover. After all, herpes can be in the pubic hair regin.

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: cherrytwist

I'd go to the doctor if I were you. Like you said, you don't have to show signs to be contagious. You may develop symptoms 2-20 days after infection though. If you have it you will always have it so I hope that you don't. You really should be more careful. Casual sex makes you feel good at the moment but what does it do for you in the long run other than making you feel empty and dirty

Wait a minute...so a guy has a one night stand, used protection and now needs to see a doctor?

I think you people are losing perspective here. In my own experience (before I met my wife of course), I had several one night stands. It's a part of being young and reckless. Kudos to OS for using protection .

Condoms aren't 100% but nothing is. To say he needs to see a doctor after sleeping with someone is ridiculous.

The only reason to see a doctor is if you have symptoms. To feel guilty about having sex with a stranger is natural, because most of us are raised to believe that it is wrong. Personally, if you both are consenting adults more power to you.

Why is that ridiculous? I'd say the same for anyone that slept with someone that they new little about. It's a precaution. He was the one that said he was worried about getting Herpes. I didn't bring that up, he did. Maybe you should read more of the thread before you run in here and jump on me for telling him that.


: ) Amanda

 

[Mustangrrl]

Originally posted by: PunDogg
yeah that sucks, actually a friend of mine, is taking an AIDS test, he is a nervous wreck, i am glad that he took it just to be safe, but i am sure it will come back negative cuz he has only slept with 3-4 girls if that. But i guess we wait.

Dogg

AIDS/HIV infection is not dependent on how many people you have sex with, or how many times you've had sex. It's possible to become infected from one sex act! I hope your friend is ok, and I hope the place he gets tested gives him some better information regarding safe sex and the disease itself.

 

[toant103]

Originally posted by: cablegod
lol, that's a risk when you're a big bawla

 

[cherrytwist]

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I'd go to the doctor if I were you. Like you said, you don't have to show signs to be contagious. You may develop symptoms 2-20 days after infection though. If you have it you will always have it so I hope that you don't. You really should be more careful. Casual sex makes you feel good at the moment but what does it do for you in the long run other than making you feel empty and dirty
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Wait a minute...so a guy has a one night stand, used protection and now needs to see a doctor?

I think you people are losing perspective here. In my own experience (before I met my wife of course), I had several one night stands. It's a part of being young and reckless. Kudos to OS for using protection .

Condoms aren't 100% but nothing is. To say he needs to see a doctor after sleeping with someone is ridiculous.

The only reason to see a doctor is if you have symptoms. To feel guilty about having sex with a stranger is natural, because most of us are raised to believe that it is wrong. Personally, if you both are consenting adults more power to you.
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Why is that ridiculous? I'd say the same for anyone that slept with someone that they new little about. It's a precaution. He was the one that said he was worried about getting Herpes. I didn't bring that up, he did. Maybe you should read more of the thread before you run in here and jump on me for telling him that.


: ) Amanda

Because I disagree with you means that I didn't read the thread? Actually, I read it throughly.

I got the impression from his post that he was having "post coitus" regret. Meaning, he probably felt guilty about having sex with a stranger and was scared of catching something after the facct. I also got the impression that this isn't typical behavior for him and he was looking for reassurance. I merely popped in to express my opinion that what he did is a pretty normal, common thing (at least outside of this forum) and he shouldn't worry unless he displayed symptoms.

To suggest he go to a doctor (or a clinic) after having safe sex (albiet with a stranger) in my mind is unnecessary, unless of course he is displaying symptoms. Should he go to a doctor (or clinic) if it would ease his concerns? Absolutely.

 

[iwearnosox]

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.

Sounds like someone has a probation officer...

 

[XTheVirusX]

Next time think with your other head (the one with the brain)

 

[Actaeon]

Thats hormones for ya. You make really stupid decisions when on the verge of getting laid.

Best advice, Get yourself checked by a doctor.

 

[Ulfwald]

I have had more one night stands than I care to remember. and most I don't even remember their names. Before I gained a lot of weight, I would nail any lady I could. Never used protection, and really did not care. I was hurting after my first true love cheated on me.

Just imagine walking in to your apartment, and seeing the girl you lost your virginty with, planned to marry, and have a life with, bent over in bed, grabbing the headboard and your best friend, who was going to be the Best Man, riding her from behind like a cowboy busting a wild bronco. I d@mn near shot them both I was so angry. Instead, I ejected the clip from my gun, emptied the chamber, and walked out. She cheapened sex for me. I began to regard women as mere toys to be played with. They were all cheap whores and tramps to me. Many I would bed down on the first night out, then maybe a few more dates, few more bedroom romps, then dump city. I kept telling myself that they did not care, they only wanted one thing like me. Thing is, each time I came home after a date, I felt worse, they "revenge" was not working. So I went without dating and sex for 2 years until I could get my head on straight, and my heart healed.

That is when I realized that sex is neither right nor wrong, but thereis a right and a wrong time for it. And there are right and wrong feelings about it. Sex is supposed to an actof love and passion between 2 people who love and care for each other with all they have,their minds, their hearts, their bodies and souls. When you commit the act of sex, you are ment to join your heart, and your bodies as one, share each other. That is why it is called "Making love".


Edit

You need to go get checked out, I am lucky I did not wind up with something I could never get rid of, or worse.

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: cherrytwist
Because I disagree with you means that I didn't read the thread? Actually, I read it throughly.

I got the impression from his post that he was having "post coitus" regret. Meaning, he probably felt guilty about having sex with a stranger and was scared of catching something after the facct. I also got the impression that this isn't typical behavior for him and he was looking for reassurance. I merely popped in to express my opinion that what he did is a pretty normal, common thing (at least outside of this forum) and he shouldn't worry unless he displayed symptoms.

Look, he said that he was worried about herpes exposure. All I did was suggest that he go see a doctor just in case. If it will make him feel better then he should go. It might take a while for him to develop symptoms if he was exposed to that and any other STD and he'll be worried about it the whole time. If he is worried about it then he should see a doctor. I don't understand why this is a hard concept for you to grasp. If he doesn't feel like it's necessary to go then he shouldn't go. From what I read though this is a concern to him and he should make sure now that everything is fine. It's just a suggestion.

To suggest he go to a doctor (or a clinic) after having safe sex (albiet with a stranger) in my mind is unnecessary, unless of course he is displaying symptoms. Should he go to a doctor (or clinic) if it would ease his concerns? Absolutely.

That is what I've been saying all along and you have been arguing with me. I only suggested it because he was worried.


: ) Amanda

 

[brigden]

You people are a overly paranoid. Really.

There is nothing wrong with having casual sex. Sure, it might put you at a greater risk of contracting something, but it's nothing to feel depressed about. It's not a bad thing, OK?

I have had many annonymous partners, and only once used a condom - my first time. I've been tested twice after being with two women that were suspect. I'm playing a dangerous game, I know, but that's my business. I don't recommend people do the same, especially in this day and age. With that being said, there is nothing wrong with casual sex.

Yes, sex is a beautiful union between two people that love each other, but it's also something that two strangers can enjoy. You go out, you meet a girl, you shag, you leave, that's it.

North Americans have a totally skewered perspective of sex.

You got laid, get over it.

 

[Moonbeam]

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Originally posted by: Ulfwald
Sex without love is like taking drain cleaner. It cleans you out and leaves you feeling empty.

Sex with someone you love and respect is the greatest feeling in the world. Snuggling afterward and having her fall asleep in you arms is rewarding, it shows she trusts you, she feels safe with you.

Good feelings are hard to come by these days, especially with someone else. When you find something good, hold on to it, but not too tight, as you may smother it.
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am i the only person that thought this sounded gay as all hell?

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Of course not. Anything profoundly intelligent is bound to stump the chumps.