Well,... its over. She passed roughly 2 hours ago. I sure know my wife and I will miss her. The world could use more like her.
@brian. No, never got the 1 mil. Never even came close but it became more or less a moot point early on. I sure would have liked to have had that to give to her kids though.
Dammit. Fuck this disease. She was 37 and fuckin shitbag tweakers will live forever. Nothing fair about it.
RIP Tami, you will be remembered...
One small favor I would like to put out there... Tom has reached out to my wife and I to help him with the funeral arrangements. The poor guy is a broken man right now and just needs someone to help put it all together and make it a nice ceremony to celebrate Tami's life... I've never even had to think about doing anything like this before and I have no idea whatsoever how to even begin.
Tami's body is to be cremated and her ashes spread into the Pacific. No one in my family has ever been cremated before so I don't know if there is any specific type ceremony for that or how it's supposed to work. Ultimately it will be up to Tom and Tami's immediate family to determine the place and time but what are some ideas I could pass along?
Just shooting from the hip I imagine there to be a visitation/wake ceremony before she is cremated? I don't know if that's typical or not in this situation. Are these type funerals held indoors like a typical funeral at a church or more like an outdoor gathering where we all bid farewell and her ashes are spread - or maybe that's a more private thing just for Tom and her daughters? I guess there should be an opportunity for people to speak and remember Tami and a reception afterward? How do you go about getting all the right parts in place?
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Tami's body is to be cremated and her ashes spread into the Pacific. No one in my family has ever been cremated before so I don't know if there is any specific type ceremony for that or how it's supposed to work. Ultimately it will be up to Tom and Tami's immediate family to determine the place and time but what are some ideas I could pass along?....
For something like this I say go as cheap as possible. Do a pauper cremation, no reason to do a big service since there isnt any body, no reason to buy a decrotive expensive urn as you want to spread the ashes.
One small favor I would like to put out there... Tom has reached out to my wife and I to help him with the funeral arrangements. The poor guy is a broken man right now and just needs someone to help put it all together and make it a nice ceremony to celebrate Tami's life... I've never even had to think about doing anything like this before and I have no idea whatsoever how to even begin.
Tami's body is to be cremated and her ashes spread into the Pacific. No one in my family has ever been cremated before so I don't know if there is any specific type ceremony for that or how it's supposed to work. Ultimately it will be up to Tom and Tami's immediate family to determine the place and time but what are some ideas I could pass along?
Just shooting from the hip I imagine there to be a visitation/wake ceremony before she is cremated? I don't know if that's typical or not in this situation. Are these type funerals held indoors like a typical funeral at a church or more like an outdoor gathering where we all bid farewell and her ashes are spread - or maybe that's a more private thing just for Tom and her daughters? I guess there should be an opportunity for people to speak and remember Tami and a reception afterward? How do you go about getting all the right parts in place?
That is exactly how my brother in-law dad died after he was diagnose with cancer (he was 1 of the best general surgeon and was the leading/founder of limb reattachment surgeon in Canada, with concentration on hands & nerves, as well as neonatal surgery. And, his daughter is one of the best radiologists in Canada).Best of luck to OP's wife's friend. People face medical challenges in different ways. That is what makes us all human.
Here is an article written from a doctor's perspective on "how doctors die."
http://zocalopublicsquare.org/thepublicsquare/2011/11/30/how-doctors-die/read/nexus/