I just got dumped..

[FordLorider]

I hear that nihil!

 

[DielsAlder]

Most extreme religious individuals have got problems.

 

[gohan]

***CONFIRMED***
Shes not allowed to feel anything for me because i'm a Non Christian. Talk about your outside influences.

*Sigh* Four months wasted.

Think i'll take a break from dating, go back to school and finish up my CS degree.

 

[lawaris]

Originally posted by: gohan
***CONFIRMED***
Shes not allowed to feel anything for me because i'm a Non Christian. Talk about your outside influences.

*Sigh* Four months wasted.

Think i'll take a break from dating, go back to school and finish up my CS degree.

nnnooo........ just get a new girl .... it's easier

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: HotChic

Christianity does not forbid relationships, nor does it forbid friendship, even with those who are not Christian. Sexual attraction and the desire for friendship (both of which were evident in this relationship), are a basic part of human nature, and this woman is acting as if something is telling her to deny that part of her human nature.

Don't get me wrong; if someone wants to explore Christianity and what it means to be a Christian, then by all means go for it. What I am trying to say is that this is not what appears to be the case here. What I do see is an impressionable woman being told (by a powerful outside influence) that her attraction to and friendship with this guy is wrong, and therefore must be terminated. I also get the impression that it's not what she really wants, but she's willing to go along with it for whatever reason.

Okay then, we've found common ground. That's a long way from what you initially said, that they were telling her how to feel. Here you acknowledge that Christianity isn't telling her how to feel ("Christianity does not forbid relationships) but that she's interpreting their lifestyle to dictate that. The bottom line is, we don't know why she's doing this, whether because she's misinterpreting the Christian lifestyle, feels like she'll be able to better learn and apply more without a nonChristian dating relationship, or simply feels that she's walking a different path than he is. But it's late and I'm going to sleep now. G'night, thanks for the discussion.

I don't think she's doing the "interpreting" here; I think she's letting someone in this group that she's recently joined do it for her. While I don't know why, I have this feeling it's not because she genuinely wants to "explore Christianity". I believe (again, just belief) that it's a classic cult/follower situation (even if the "Christian group" isn't a full-blown cult).

Well, some Christians do believe that it is wrong to have relationships that are more than just friendship (ie a dating relationship) with non-Christians. This belief is based on 2nd Corinthians, Chpt 6, verses 14-15.

14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? (From NIV version... other versions are similar)

Now, the matter is how do you interpret the word "yoked"? Does that include parents and family? Children? BFs and GFs? Husbands and wives? Friends? I feel that common sense and the Bible both can help answer these questions. Instead of going over why I believe what I do, suffice it to say that I think it is a bad idea for a Christian to go into a dating relationship with a non-Christian.

Ryan

 

[lawaris]

then don't do it .......


why tell others not to do it ?


I would be dating a christian girl in a week and I will keep her away from guys like you .... you have evil intentions

 

[Lithium381]

After reading only the first few posts.......let it go man, that's all i've got to say, no experience, but from your story it sounds logical to me as an outsider, not a participant....if it were me i'd probalby think differently, good luck!

 

[EXman]

Get some balls brother!

I wonder how many people are laughing at you for posting this. AT OT forums is not reality. it is a bunch of bullsh!tters period.

you have to do what is right for you, and she needs to go back to her cult.