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I just got dumped..

gohan

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(Please forgive me if none of this is understandable. This just happened a few minutes ago and i'm pissed and hurt.) :| :(

I met this woman 4 months ago...i got her number, we talked on few weeks on the phone and decided to go out. I expected nothing to happen at all, but she was all over me. Thats never a bad thing, or so i thought.

No phone call the next day.

Two days later we spoke on the phone and decided to go out again. Well..same thing happened. I never initiated contact but there we were. Next day..no phone call. I said "WTF"

I never knew why until she asked for my AIM screen name. She told me what we're doing wasnt right because shes a christian and its wrong for her to do that. I said fine, we'll work this out. By the way, she never, ever told me how she felt on the phone or when we're hanging out. I always found out how she really felt over AIM. What was i suppose to believe? Some words over the computer or someone's actions on the phone and in person.


So we ended physical contact and became pretty cool friends up until now. Hours after some big christian conference she logs on and tells me we cant even friends now. She refuses to call and tell me its over. My only response was "It doesnt matter how i tell you"

The sad thing is that i use to be a christian, but lost faith a few years back. (its a long story)

I've only had one drink in three years but i think i need to call up a buddy and get wasted tonight.

She'll probably talk to me again in a few days and take everything back. Should i just let her go?
 

aphex

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Just let her go, she sounds like a nutcase to me....

Sorry bro :(
 

Harvey

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This woman has bigger issues about her own identity to resolve than her faith. Give her enough space to figure them out. If she's that hung up, give it up, and find someone who doesn't contrive guilt trips or lame excuses to hide from her own life.

Good luck. :)
 

Renob

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You need to Bang her silly! the crazy ones can be so much fun in the sack.:D
 

gohan

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Thanks guys?I really appreciated your input. Never thought I?d be starting one of these threads, but I had to get everything out.
 

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Hours after some big christian conference she logs on and tells me we cant even friends now
Either she really buys whatever she heard at the conference, or she is using it as an excuse not to see you. My guess is that it's the later rather than the former. From what I've observed, once a girl has settled on a guy, she won't let go, religion or not, arsehole or not, etc.

Although sometimes, I privately wonder if I never had a chance with some of the girls I liked, simply because I was not religious.
 

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Arrange a face to face meeting and when you see her......hit her in the forehead with the palm of your hand while shouting Demon be gone!!! leave this woman and trouble her no more!!!! be healed my child!!! Seriously, she is having huge feelings of guilt and feels like your relationship will end with her eternal damnation..or she is using a lame excuse to dump you ;)
 

gohan

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Originally posted by: trulfe
Sounds like shes using you for your body.


Well i really dont mind that. We had a great time just hanging and doing whatever. I just had a problem with her telling me what went on the night before shouldnt have happened because its "just not right". Hate getting a guilt trip placed on me for something she wanted to do.
 

AreaCode707

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Originally posted by: InverseOfNeo
*red lights flash* nutcase alert *red lights flash*

This coming from the guy I have to constantly remind not to flirt with me over AIM?
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She sounds like she's definitely not what you're looking for in a woman, so I'd suggest looking elsewhere, unless you're enjoying the games.
 

Kadarin

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I agree with everyone here. It appears that she's got an inner conflict with what she wants (to go out with you) versus what she's been told is "right" (Christian dogma of "no sex before marriage" blah blah blah taken to the extreme). She may have other people in her life directly or indirectly influencing her relationship with you.

It does hurt, but unless you can remove her from that influence, you're better off without her.

Of course, I could be completely wrong, and she could just be nuts..
 

ohtwell

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Sorry to hear about that :(

Any person who only tells you how they truly feel over AIM isn't worth your time.






: ) Amanda
 

gohan

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Originally posted by: apoppin
It appears you have no future with this woman.

Time to move on.


Its really hard for me to get over a woman, but i'll definetly try to get over her.
 

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Its really hard for me to get over a woman, but i'll definetly try to get over her.
Really it's your only option....she obviously isn't going to let you get on her anymore :p Just trying to cheer you up brudda :)
 

IBuyUFO

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Sounds like she has been brainwashed. :( Usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches.
 

DAPUNISHER

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Originally posted by: IBuyUFO
Sounds like she has been brainwashed. :( Usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches.
Judging from you screen name you know a bit about that huh? ;)
 

AreaCode707

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Originally posted by: IBuyUFO
Sounds like she has been brainwashed. :( Usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches.

Excuse me! Who are you to say that this "usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches"? How many extreme Christian churches have you observed? How do you define extreme Christian church? There are cults out there, but to classify extreme Christians as a cult is way over the line. If a group acts cult-like, they're not following Christian doctrine, Christianity is *specifically* not supposed to be like that. Keep your quack judgments to yourself until you know what you're talking about. :disgust:
 

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Originally posted by: IBuyUFO
Sounds like she has been brainwashed. :( Usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches.

She quoted the bible alot..picking out certain passages, saying thats how she felt and what we're doing together is wrong.
 

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: gohan
Originally posted by: IBuyUFO
Sounds like she has been brainwashed. :( Usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches.

She quoted the bible alot..picking out certain passages, saying thats how she felt and what we're doing together is wrong.

The problem is that that's not how she really feels. It's how she's been told to feel. That conflict is what got you into this situation in the first place.

Religion is stupid. (just my opinion, others are welcome to disagree)
 

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Originally posted by: gohan
Originally posted by: IBuyUFO
Sounds like she has been brainwashed. :( Usually happens with these cult-like extreme christian churches.

She quoted the bible alot..picking out certain passages, saying thats how she felt and what we're doing together is wrong.
Taken in that light she sounds like a good girl. Have you considered she may just want to make an honest man of you (engagement perhaps) ?