I just celebrated my three year anniversary, and I'm scared.

[Azurik]

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
Lets hope she doesn't read ATOT.. its been three years, I scared, not settling for any woman to hear from her man!

Haha, I'll send her the link to this thread for the hell of it🙂

 

[Azurik]

Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Congrats man...how's life treatin ya nowadays?

Good CrazyDe. Busy as heck in terms of job hunting. I accepted an offer already, but I'm going into a final interview stage for another🙂

 

[DJFuji]

I give you props for the white gf. I don't date asian girls and it's funny because every time i'm out somewhere, i get a very standard reaction from asians. Asian girls give me (and the girl i'm with) dirty looks. Asian guys nod to me as i pass, indicating approval.

She actually looks older than you do, Azurik. Not that that should come as a surprise. I'm 24 and look like i'm 16.

 

[skim milk]

congrats...

I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend

And you are dating a white girl

And you have a successful business

And you have a amex black card

At least my avatar pwns yours *cries*

 

[Chrono]

Come 06' April will be my 3 year anniversary with my g/f! 😀

 

[DJFuji]

AmEx Black? Isn't that only for ridiculously wealthy people? It started out as an internet hoax, right?

 

[nomrah]

Congrats to you Azurik! =)

Slightly off topic, but there seems to be a nice gathering of Asian guys with white GFs/wives. I'm in the same boat, I'm currently dating a white girl, love her to death. What I'm asking is, how'd you guys break it to your parents? Did they even care? My parents are super old-school Chinese so they're gonna hate the fact that I'm dating anyone let alone a white girl. Their view on dating is no girls until you're done with college and have a job, obviously there's no way a healthy male can abide by this. I've never told my parents about any things of this nature before, but I really feel strongly about this girl, I want my family to know about her. Any advice guys?

Oh here's pic as a thanks for reading =)
http://www.freewebs.com/nomrah/Image030.jpg

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: nomrah
Congrats to you Azurik! =)

Slightly off topic, but there seems to be a nice gathering of Asian guys with white GFs/wives. I'm in the same boat, I'm currently dating a white girl, love her to death. What I'm asking is, how'd you guys break it to your parents? Did they even care? My parents are super old-school Chinese so they're gonna hate the fact that I'm dating anyone let alone a white girl. Their view on dating is no girls until you're done with college and have a job, obviously there's no way a healthy male can abide by this. I've never told my parents about any things of this nature before, but I really feel strongly about this girl, I want my family to know about her. Any advice guys?

Oh here's pic as a thanks for reading =)
http://www.freewebs.com/nomrah/Image030.jpg

Explain to them that because of the mainland's one child policy there are more Chinese men then women and you are saving all of the chinese women for your chinese brothers on the mainland.

note: I made that up and have no idea what the gender ratios are, but it sounds slick-doesn't it?

and what does the OP do? e-bay stuff?



my mom used to want me to not date until after college and then immediately marry a Chinese girl, but I never brough my dates home to met the rents (never had relationships last long enough to run into that situation anyway) and now my mom says she doesn't care who I marry as long as I get married. The really funny thing is that I've decided not to date anyone until my job offer comes through in January and my mom harasses me every few weeks to go meet someone. I just tell her "no dating until I get a job" (I just finished my masters in May).

I'm only 25, but she's telling me if I don't get hitched in 3 years shes going to fix me up in an arranged marriage.

 

[jhayx7]

We are going on 3 years and 4 months. They start itching for a ring after three years. Can't blame them though. We plan on getting married next November and I must say I am looking forward to it. If you find a good one, KEEP HER!!! Also, older women for teh win! I am 22 and she is 29 🙂

 

[gtx4u]

y r u scared again?....

 

[Ronin]

Coming up on 4 years, and still no marriage yet (but there is an almost 3 year old son). 🙂

It's a personal choice between us, nothing else. Grats on the 3y mark.

 

[Azurik]

Originally posted by: nomrah
Congrats to you Azurik! =)

Slightly off topic, but there seems to be a nice gathering of Asian guys with white GFs/wives. I'm in the same boat, I'm currently dating a white girl, love her to death. What I'm asking is, how'd you guys break it to your parents? Did they even care? My parents are super old-school Chinese so they're gonna hate the fact that I'm dating anyone let alone a white girl. Their view on dating is no girls until you're done with college and have a job, obviously there's no way a healthy male can abide by this. I've never told my parents about any things of this nature before, but I really feel strongly about this girl, I want my family to know about her. Any advice guys?

Oh here's pic as a thanks for reading =)
http://www.freewebs.com/nomrah/Image030.jpg

I think my parents were just sick of both my brother and I rebelling against it so much they eventually did not care😉

On the serious side; my parents wanted me to marry a Vietnamese too. They always invited my brother and I to parties and social gatherings within the community (my father is a quasi-community leader around here you could say) to meet more Viet girls. We lived in NH and all the Asian girls were in MA so we grew up a bit more "white-washed" than the typical Asian kid.

I do not have a preference to either, as long as there is attraction. I am not going to go overseas for the purpose of meeting a wife and bringing her here - something my mom has toiled with lightly, lol. That idea is wayyy to whack for times like these, especially the major culture differences we grew up in.

One day I just told them that, I am marrying who I love at the time and who I dated for a while and got to know. If they have a problem with that, they do not have to go to my wedding.

I think that did that and I have heard no complaints since. They are actually quite receptive to my girlfriend. My dad gets along with people though and everyone loves him. He is the easy one. My mom is the one who gives people stared for a while before accepting them in, haha.

 

[ColdFusion718]

Scored one for the team, good job! Congrats on the 3 years. You mentioned that you don't want to get married yet and that's understandable. However, when she starts talking about the idea of getting married, you better not be a pussy about it and avoid the topic altogether.

All females have what's called a threshold set whether it be consciously or subconsciously. When they start dating you, they will gauge you on the dating threshold, if you pass that then they continue to date you. After a few years, they will constantly gauge you to the other dreaded threshold--years before you pop the question. If she starts to think that she has reached a point of diminishing returns (gifts, dinner, sex are all given at this point; they want the rock and nothing else really means squat here), she'll begin evasive maneuver to cut her losses.

I hope it works out for you. 😉