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I just broke up with my girlfriend. I feel terrible.

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BigToque

Lifer
We've been dating for 5 months (exactly 5 in 2 more days). As a side note, this is the first and only girlfriend I've had and I'm 19. For the past month or so, although we've had our good days, I kept questioning wether or not I wanted to stay with her. We always had these small arguements that always seemed to go further than they should. I don't know if it was because we spent too much time together or what I just don't know.

Anyway, today while at her house (at about 3 pm), she decided to lay down and said she wanted to be there for like a half hour. I didn't want to sit there so I said I'd see her later. At about 8:30 tonight I decided to call her house and decided I was going to break up with her.

It was the hardest conversation I ever had. She started crying and told me how much she loved me and how even through all our arguements, her love kept growing for me. I love her very much too, but all these little arguements seemed like so much to me. I said we needed some time apart. Everything she said about how she loved me and all the stress that she;s had in the last has had her expecting that I would dump her and time after time I didn't. She said she trusted me so much and she is scared she can't imagine finding another great guy like me. She said I broke her heart.

I figured I was going to feel bad, so I went out driving with my friends. I didn't know how bad it would actually be. I feel terrible. There's this pit inside me and I just can't stand to know that she's at home crying and so hurt inside and I can't do anything because I'm the person who broke her heart. There;s part of me that tells me I did something very stupid because she is such a great girl. She would never cheat, she was funny and she was very beautiful. There's a very quiet, but still there, voice that says I did the right thing.

I'm so very sad right now...

Also, just so you guys know, I made the username "Touque" to post another message a few days ago. This was the thread

 
lots of break ups tonight and this weekend....full moon or something?


that sucks Stefan...hope it all works out ok.
 
So you went ahead and did it... Well, good for you. The pain will pass. It just takes time. Before you know it, you'll feel like a million bucks again.

Take care of yourself, and don't let this side-track your life.

Ryan
 
well, if u felt u did not want to stay with her, then u did the right thing. it's probably worse to force urself to stay in a relationship, knowing u're gonna break it off. better now than later. thats what i think at least.
 
If you feel terrible it's probably because you feel you migyht have made a mistake. I bet you will have second thoughts in a day or so.
 


<< pics?

Don't bitch, I did it exactly one week ago today, and I posted pics. >>




search baby search....
 


<< If you feel terrible it's probably because you feel you migyht have made a mistake. I bet you will have second thoughts in a day or so. >>



I do feel I might have made a mistake and am already second guessing myself. Do I just ignore myself when I think I made a mistake?
 
I don't know.. i read your other thread, and i think you pulled a dick move. She's the kind of girl that could use someone like you and you dicked her over for stupid things like her breast size? You could've at least waited till she got on her feet. I dunno, it just seems like you really did break her heart just because you can't take a couple arguements.
 
Ya know, I'd have to agree with yobarman. Unless you're leaving out details you didn't wanna tell us, then you seem like one of those other creeps you talk about. Of course, I also see the other way (although not as much) and say that if you're not happy, then it's not the best idea to stay in a relationship. But, I still think you seem like one of those creeps that you mentioned in your other thread.
 
Didn't you also post that you both were your first sexual partner?

I think it was you...

Anyway, the reasons you gave for breaking up seem pretty minor...

Did you just decide out of nowhere that's what you wanted to do?

Viper GTS
 


<< I do feel I might have made a mistake and am already second guessing myself. Do I just ignore myself when I think I made a mistake? >>

Do you ignore a pain in your hand? Of course not. Then why would you ignore that pain in your heart?
 


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<< I do feel I might have made a mistake and am already second guessing myself. Do I just ignore myself when I think I made a mistake? >>

Do you ignore a pain in your hand? Of course not. Then why would you ignore that pain in your heart? >>

Because the "heart" is irrational.
 


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<< I do feel I might have made a mistake and am already second guessing myself. Do I just ignore myself when I think I made a mistake? >>

Do you ignore a pain in your hand? Of course not. Then why would you ignore that pain in your heart? >>

Because the "heart" is irrational. >>



sometimes your heart is the purest and most true part of a person !!!

What is wrong with some of you, I read responses here sometimes that are so cold they makje me want to cry and you are all mostly very young people, much too young to be so cynical and bitter.. 🙁




<- off to have a good cry on behalf of those of you who seem incapable of it 🙁
 


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<< I do feel I might have made a mistake and am already second guessing myself. Do I just ignore myself when I think I made a mistake? >>

Do you ignore a pain in your hand? Of course not. Then why would you ignore that pain in your heart? >>

Because the "heart" is irrational. >>



sometimes your heart is the purest and most true part of a person !!!

What is wrong with some of you, I read responses here sometimes that are so cold they makje me want to cry and you are all mostly very young people, much too young to be so cynical and bitter.. 🙁

<- off to have a good cry on behalf of those of you who seem incapable of it 🙁 >>




don't cry, baffled... *tugs at sleeve* 🙂

i'm personally jaded because of talk radio 😛 after about 8 years of listening to people talking about their problems in relationships... dunno. i don't have a high opinion of many people's instincts.
 


<< sometimes your heart is the purest and most true part of a person !!! >>

What does that have to do with anything? It doesn't make your heart rational. In fact, it's the unbiased and uncompromising nature of the heart that makes it irrational and beautiful at the same time.
 


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<< I do feel I might have made a mistake and am already second guessing myself. Do I just ignore myself when I think I made a mistake? >>

Do you ignore a pain in your hand? Of course not. Then why would you ignore that pain in your heart? >>

Because the "heart" is irrational. >>



sometimes your heart is the purest and most true part of a person !!!

What is wrong with some of you, I read responses here sometimes that are so cold they makje me want to cry and you are all mostly very young people, much too young to be so cynical and bitter.. 🙁




<- off to have a good cry on behalf of those of you who seem incapable of it 🙁 >>



Yes, it is a shame. But that is the way of many of us young people these days. Apathetic, cynical and bitter.

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"I don't care anymore" - Genisis
 


<< Yes, it is a shame. But that is the way of many of us young people these days. Apathetic, cynical and bitter. >>


i blame the media....
 
Hurts now, but you're doing this out of a desire to be honest and not selfish in your relationship. It'd be easy to stay in it as a convenience, but you know that wouldn't be doing the best thing for either you or her. You're to be commended for your values and priorities here. It's okay that it hurts, for both you and her. If it didn't hurt, it'd be evidence that neither of you cared much. But you cared enough to do what's best for you each. You don't need to feel guilty or bad because of the choice you made because you made it with the best intent for both of you.
 


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<< Yes, it is a shame. But that is the way of many of us young people these days. Apathetic, cynical and bitter. >>


i blame the media.... >>



Hows that? I can see this point being made. But what about myself, who never watches TV (my parents banned the TV from the household except for movies from when I was 5-15, and I never got into watching it after I could). And I am very apathetic, cynical, and somewhat bitter (As my apathy grows, my bitterness has been decraseing. I don't even care to be bitter anymore).
 


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<< Yes, it is a shame. But that is the way of many of us young people these days. Apathetic, cynical and bitter. >>


i blame the media.... >>



Hows that? I can see this point being made. But what about myself, who never watches TV (my parents banned the TV from the household except for movies from when I was 5-15, and I never got into watching it after I could). And I am very apathetic, cynical, and somewhat bitter. >>


i just figured everything else is blamed on the media, why not this. more sarcasm than anything. i'm apathetic, cynical and bitter too. i have no idea where it comes from
 


<< i just figured everything else is blamed on the media, why not this. more sarcasm than anything. i'm apathetic, cynical and bitter too. i have no idea where it comes from >>



Ahh yes. I would be extremely grateful is someone were to come up with the answer to that. Or, even better, the cure.
 
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