I can't see the point behind getting married nor having kids.

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Xyclone

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

Owned.

Bwahah, I really feel sorry for ppl like you, hey if you score more power to you I guess, but I mean what is this amazing accomplishment that you have been part of ? I can turn on the Discovery channel and see a bunch of monkeys doing the same thing for Christ's Sake !!
What do you want me to say, congrats you have added another trophy to the lodge or something ??

Scoring for the sake of adding another notch on your belt does get old quick, but at least when the time comes youll at least know how to talk to a girl.

I really feel sorry for a few friends that I have that have never REALLY been with a girl or had a real relationship. Theyre at the point now where theyre in their mid 20s and they are still afraid of women, which makes it even more impossible for them to find someone.

All I can say is dont be that guy, when things eventually turn around for you. And they will.

Its one thing to be single and loving it in college and in your 20s, its an ENTIRELY different thing to be 40 years old and the only one not married. What are you going to be, creepy old guy in the bar? Sit in front of the comp all day dejected nerd? Youre not going to have friends to hang out with like that eventually, because theyll all be with their families while youre sitting at home. All of your family will eventually die before you, and youll be completely and utterly alone. You can then be the guy who gets the sympathy invite from a coworker for thanksgiving. Is that what you REALLY want?

I dont think youre gay, and I dont think youre a loser. At least I dont want you, or anybody, to be in the future. It just seems sad to me is all, and its so clearly a natural backlash reaction.

The reason you think kids and relationships are so horrible is because you are only entitled to see the bad. You are going to notice it when the kids are acting up in mcdonalds, or when you see a couple fighting. You DONT see those special moments when no one else is around, and since you havent, youve concluded that they do not exist. But they do, and youre totally missing out, because youre doing it to yourself.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Xyclone

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

Owned.

Bwahah, I really feel sorry for ppl like you, hey if you score more power to you I guess, but I mean what is this amazing accomplishment that you have been part of ? I can turn on the Discovery channel and see a bunch of monkeys doing the same thing for Christ's Sake !!
What do you want me to say, congrats you have added another trophy to the lodge or something ??

Scoring for the sake of adding another notch on your belt does get old quick, but at least when the time comes youll at least know how to talk to a girl.

I really feel sorry for a few friends that I have that have never REALLY been with a girl or had a real relationship. Theyre at the point now where theyre in their mid 20s and they are still afraid of women, which makes it even more impossible for them to find someone.

All I can say is dont be that guy, when things eventually turn around for you. And they will.

Its one thing to be single and loving it in college and in your 20s, its an ENTIRELY different thing to be 40 years old and the only one not married. What are you going to be, creepy old guy in the bar? Sit in front of the comp all day dejected nerd? Youre not going to have friends to hang out with like that eventually, because theyll all be with their families while youre sitting at home. All of your family will eventually die before you, and youll be completely and utterly alone. You can then be the guy who gets the sympathy invite from a coworker for thanksgiving. Is that what you REALLY want?

I dont think youre gay, and I dont think youre a loser. At least I dont want you, or anybody, to be in the future. It just seems sad to me is all, and its so clearly a natural backlash reaction.

The reason you think kids and relationships are so horrible is because you are only entitled to see the bad. You are going to notice it when the kids are acting up in mcdonalds, or when you see a couple fighting. You DONT see those special moments when no one else is around, and since you havent, youve concluded that they do not exist. But they do, and youre totally missing out, because youre doing it to yourself.

OMG !!! That co-worker thanksgiving sympathy invite woke me up a bit dude from my view point that is some pathetic sh!t.
Are you talking about someone that you know or work with?

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Xyclone

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

Owned.

Bwahah, I really feel sorry for ppl like you, hey if you score more power to you I guess, but I mean what is this amazing accomplishment that you have been part of ? I can turn on the Discovery channel and see a bunch of monkeys doing the same thing for Christ's Sake !!
What do you want me to say, congrats you have added another trophy to the lodge or something ??

Scoring for the sake of adding another notch on your belt does get old quick, but at least when the time comes youll at least know how to talk to a girl.

I really feel sorry for a few friends that I have that have never REALLY been with a girl or had a real relationship. Theyre at the point now where theyre in their mid 20s and they are still afraid of women, which makes it even more impossible for them to find someone.

All I can say is dont be that guy, when things eventually turn around for you. And they will.

Its one thing to be single and loving it in college and in your 20s, its an ENTIRELY different thing to be 40 years old and the only one not married. What are you going to be, creepy old guy in the bar? Sit in front of the comp all day dejected nerd? Youre not going to have friends to hang out with like that eventually, because theyll all be with their families while youre sitting at home. All of your family will eventually die before you, and youll be completely and utterly alone. You can then be the guy who gets the sympathy invite from a coworker for thanksgiving. Is that what you REALLY want?

I dont think youre gay, and I dont think youre a loser. At least I dont want you, or anybody, to be in the future. It just seems sad to me is all, and its so clearly a natural backlash reaction.

The reason you think kids and relationships are so horrible is because you are only entitled to see the bad. You are going to notice it when the kids are acting up in mcdonalds, or when you see a couple fighting. You DONT see those special moments when no one else is around, and since you havent, youve concluded that they do not exist. But they do, and youre totally missing out, because youre doing it to yourself.

I understand that there is to it more than what I just see, but I don't think I am responsible enough to be a father (not now and not in a long time), I don't think I will find a girl that will be able to handle/enjoy my Bill Gates rantings on the breakfast table every morning, nor be intrested in the stuff that I am intrested in (whihc prettey much bores the rest of humanity). Kids are a major reponsibility, and to be honest, I don't want to have kids and then be pissed at them for the same things that my parents used to be pissed at me for like (Not focusing in what's required to be done, missing out on school , causing fights at school, not so good grades, watching too much TV, plaing too much video games) you know childish stuff, it pisses you off that children do it but it pisses you even more when you remember that you used to do the same things.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Xyclone

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

Owned.

Bwahah, I really feel sorry for ppl like you, hey if you score more power to you I guess, but I mean what is this amazing accomplishment that you have been part of ? I can turn on the Discovery channel and see a bunch of monkeys doing the same thing for Christ's Sake !!
What do you want me to say, congrats you have added another trophy to the lodge or something ??

Scoring for the sake of adding another notch on your belt does get old quick, but at least when the time comes youll at least know how to talk to a girl.

I really feel sorry for a few friends that I have that have never REALLY been with a girl or had a real relationship. Theyre at the point now where theyre in their mid 20s and they are still afraid of women, which makes it even more impossible for them to find someone.

All I can say is dont be that guy, when things eventually turn around for you. And they will.

Its one thing to be single and loving it in college and in your 20s, its an ENTIRELY different thing to be 40 years old and the only one not married. What are you going to be, creepy old guy in the bar? Sit in front of the comp all day dejected nerd? Youre not going to have friends to hang out with like that eventually, because theyll all be with their families while youre sitting at home. All of your family will eventually die before you, and youll be completely and utterly alone. You can then be the guy who gets the sympathy invite from a coworker for thanksgiving. Is that what you REALLY want?

I dont think youre gay, and I dont think youre a loser. At least I dont want you, or anybody, to be in the future. It just seems sad to me is all, and its so clearly a natural backlash reaction.

The reason you think kids and relationships are so horrible is because you are only entitled to see the bad. You are going to notice it when the kids are acting up in mcdonalds, or when you see a couple fighting. You DONT see those special moments when no one else is around, and since you havent, youve concluded that they do not exist. But they do, and youre totally missing out, because youre doing it to yourself.

OMG !!! That co-worker thanksgiving sympathy invite woke me up a bit dude from my view point that is some pathetic sh!t.
Are you talking about someone that you know or work with?

Ya, a bunch of people, and its obviously something that happens to people even if I didnt. The only people I know of that are unmarried at 40 are very very sad people. You have to understand that life at 20 is not life at 45. Im only 25 and I already understand that.

Your friends are going to get married and have kids, whether you do or not. And when that happens, they are not going to have time for you. They are going to be with the families, they are going to spend the weekends going with their families, and instead of you and your friends families all going out and watching your kids play together, you get to sit there and justify to yourself how it all isnt worth it, when they all tell you having kids was the best thing they ever did, no matter how bratty they are.

Sure you can always absorb yourself in your work, but work is a lot more degrading than college. Its NOTHING like it. Hard work isnt always rewarded, youre rarely appreciated, and money can't buy happiness. You dont get new classes every month. Youre not working toward anything for the most part. In general, ever damn day is the exact same thing.

Besides, nothing gives you more perspective, than having your heart your heart ripped out of your chest by the very person that you thought would be the last person to ever do that. And after all of that, after emotional pain that you probably havent experienced anything even close to up until that moment, eventually, you will come to realize that even though you got dogged, even though you had vicious fights and you couldnt stand the b!tch, in the end, it was all worth it, because there were moments when you felt a connection with another person, that no amount of logic, reason, or calculation could ever even come close to explaining.

 

[BD2003]

I understand that there is to it more than what I just see, but I don't think I am responsible enough to be a father (not now and not in a long time), I don't think I will find a girl that will be able to handle/enjoy my Bill Gates rantings on the breakfast table every morning, nor be intrested in the stuff that I am intrested in (whihc prettey much bores the rest of humanity). Kids are a major reponsibility, and to be honest, I don't want to have kids and then be pissed at them for the same things that my parents used to be pissed at me for like (Not focusing in what's required to be done, missing out on school , causing fights at school, not so good grades, watching too much TV, plaing too much video games) you know childish stuff, it pisses you off that children do it but it pisses you even more when you remember that you used to do the same things.

Im not even close to responsible enough to be a father, but if it ever came to that, Id do what needed to be done. Id handle my business, and be a good dad, simple as that, because that would be the right thing to do.

And believe me, you will find that girl, as soon as you realize that a girl will listen to you babble about bill gates or anything else that you want to babble about as long as you are comfortable babbling about it, instead of convincing yourself they dont want to hear it. Hell, I spent a half hour on the phone with my girl today giving her the play by play of my battlefield 2 game, and she doesnt even play games. She couldnt care less to play, but telling her that "the next headshot was for her" makes her melt.

If you dont want to be pissed at your kids for all those things, then dont be. You dont have to follow exactly in your parents footsteps. Itll piss you off when they do stupid tings, but only cause you love them, and want the best for them.

 

[hemiram]

No I spend my time working on projects and studying for exams and finishing up programms, I am a double major in CSE EE and I have about 18 credit hours per semester enough to drive me crazy in addition to work, so girls are my last concern during school. in the summer I am working extra hours and chillin from a long academc year so No time for girls in that scheduele too.[/quote]Well then carry on!!! However, be sure to bump this in 2 years, after you finish school.

[/quote]


As I said in my first post, we are talking about post graduation , during that dinner with my parents, so it's really after my graduation that I will be able to make decesion, But the way I am looking at it, I will be going for my masters degree and by the time I finish and settle down for a Job and start building my life, it will be too late for starting a family, and maybe that will be better otherwise you would have my children coming here to AT and complaining how I whiped there a$$e$ hard with a belt because they used windows once [/quote]

LOL, A friend of mine, who was married twice previously, and for about 30 years always said, "I don't want kids!" Suddenly, at 48, he gets married to a woman who for a long time didn't want kids either. She was 40, and finally decided that she did want kids, and so did he. His goal was to be a dad by 50. He just made it by a couple months.

I myself would rather have the kids than go through the dating crap again. I was only close to getting married once, and her father really hated me, and that was the main cause it didn't work out. I'm still friends with her almost 30 years later, and who knows, she's divoriced now..

But I have to ask the question nobody lese seems to want to ask Linuxator, what are your views on mastubation? And is (No sex before marriage) it a religious thing? You don't seem the type for that...

 

[eflat]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Everytime I am invited over to have dinner at my parents house they keep telling me that once I grauduate(which is less than in 2 years now )they would love to see me married and with kids, and I tell them WHY WOULD I WANT TO DO THAT ? And they give me this look "WTH?", I know it sounds wierd but with all honesty I can't find
this joy people get out of having babies and being stuck with another person for the rest of their lives. Things can turn out to be good and that person might become your soul mate, well that's all good, but what if things go bad, and that person becomes your enemy like most of the relationships I see aroud me. Wow children can bring joy to you, but that's not all of the cases that I have seen

I have explained it to my parents over and over, I have no girl in mind I never did and I hope I never will, I am waiting for graduation and then I'll shift things aaround from pushing my self hard to focusing on making myself happy and get all of what i deprived myself from before(I have 18 credit hours each semester and I have hard job but good paying though ) I might also go for a masters degree too. But really I love being alone knowing that I have myself is just more than entertainment for me (yes I love myself that much but I am not selfish ,I do help alot of ppl out too @ college and my neighberhood...family etc)

What's wrong with my logic ? I just want to live, and be alone and my parents don't understand that, I have lots of friends and I am really a normal guy, but it's just as I was growing up I lived for a long period of time on my own and I loved it and loved being responsible for myself.
I would appreciate input from you married guys out there and fathers too, according to what you have read so far and from your own experience why should I get married ?

it's because you're either smart or ugly, but probably not both

 

[foodfightr]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: sheik124

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

Irrelevant.

No no I think it is, why you dodging that question, hmm?

I don't believe in pre-marital sex, next.

I don't believe in pre-marital sex and I don't believe in marriage? Wow dude, just see a shrink. Seriously, research the term "cognitive distortion."

 

[Dragoon42]

I didn't read this entire thread, but I did read the first page. I think the OP might be gay. Has anyone else suggested this? Like seriously

Low sex drive with women
Doesn't believe in pre-marital sex (right... cop out #1 for denying your gayness)
Doesn't believe in marriage (that's your inner gayman telling you that you can't get married yet)
Doesn't believe in having children (that's your inner gay man telling you that when you have sex with another man, you can't have kids)

 

[bleeb]

I think people just want to have sex on a regular basis.

 

[Finns14]

I jsut don't get when he said something along the lines of "your kids get out of highschool and you never see them again"

1. tell your parents that and see how they react do you think you should have never been born
2. As a college student I see my family often enough atleast once or twice a month and if you have a tight family you will continue to see them often

 

[biostud]

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
I didn't read this entire thread, but I did read the first page. I think the OP might be gay. Has anyone else suggested this? Like seriously

Low sex drive with women
Doesn't believe in pre-marital sex (right... cop out #1 for denying your gayness)
Doesn't believe in marriage (that's your inner gayman telling you that you can't get married yet)
Doesn't believe in having children (that's your inner gay man telling you that when you have sex with another man, you can't have kids)

There are lots of gays that belive in pre-marital sex, belive in marriage and would like to have kids.

Sounds more like emotional emptiness/numbness.

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: JLGatsby

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
I never said no, but how can I put this, whenver the thought comes to mind I can think of half a dozen things that would be more entertaining for me.

No offense, but are you just insecure or fearful to be around girls?

Obviously!! The OP needs to stop making excuses trying to rationalize said fear, and seek help asap.

What fear ??
seek help ?? I am living a perfectly nice life I don't see what you could help with ?

When I said seek help, I wasn't talking about from me, or from anyone else you might meet on the internet, I meant professional help.

You claim not to be gay, but you have no intention of even trying to have physical contact with a woman. You claim that you don't believe in pre marital sex, and in the same breath say you see no reason to get married. Now I've known quite a few people who also say they aren't believers of pre marital sex, however all of them fought the temptation, and some even gave into it.

Have you I wonder? You've been in college for at least 2 years, right? During that time, how many dates have you gone on? How many times have you made out with a woman?

Since I started college I had about three dates they went ok, but no results.

What do you mean there were no results? Of course there were!!! What happened?? Were there any second dates?

There was a second date with one and one date with the other.
The time that I went with the first girl twice she totally liked me but I wasn't that much into her though she was very attractive, but I really gave it a thought after the 2nd date that she isn't the one for me so I let her slip.
And after the 2nd girl realized that there were no plans for a bang bang after the first date, she went were she can find the bang bang of here dreams so there you have it.
And I don't really have much time to date, those were just attempts so that I can find out more about girls that got my attention(for a short period at least) that's all.

Well if you don't have time because of your classes, then I understand completely, and I commend you. However, if you are spending your time elsewhere, I simply must know on what?

No I spend my time working on projects and studying for exams and finishing up programms, I am a double major in CSE EE and I have about 18 credit hours per semester enough to drive me crazy in addition to work, so girls are my last concern during school. in the summer I am working extra hours and chillin from a long academc year so No time for girls in that scheduele too.

Well then carry on!!! However, be sure to bump this in 2 years, after you finish school.

As I said in my first post, we are talking about post graduation , during that dinner with my parents, so it's really after my graduation that I will be able to make decesion, But the way I am looking at it, I will be going for my masters degree and by the time I finish and settle down for a Job and start building my life, it will be too late for starting a family, and maybe that will be better otherwise you would have my children coming here to AT and complaining how I whiped there a$$e$ hard with a belt because they used windows once

Yeah, but your views may change once school is done. Perhaps not your views on having kids, (I never wanted them either, and nothing has changed that.) but your views on companionship most certainly will. You just haven't met anyone you cared enough about to give it a shot. Once you enter the workforce, you will have plenty of time on your hands. I highly doubt you are going to want to spend it alone.

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: sheik124

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

Irrelevant.

No no I think it is, why you dodging that question, hmm?

I don't believe in pre-marital sex, mostly because nobody has ever offered. next.

Fixed.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

WTF is a eunuch ?

http://www.answers.com/eunuch

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
I understand that there is to it more than what I just see, but I don't think I am responsible enough to be a father (not now and not in a long time), I don't think I will find a girl that will be able to handle/enjoy my Bill Gates rantings on the breakfast table every morning, nor be intrested in the stuff that I am intrested in (whihc prettey much bores the rest of humanity). Kids are a major reponsibility, and to be honest, I don't want to have kids and then be pissed at them for the same things that my parents used to be pissed at me for like (Not focusing in what's required to be done, missing out on school , causing fights at school, not so good grades, watching too much TV, plaing too much video games) you know childish stuff, it pisses you off that children do it but it pisses you even more when you remember that you used to do the same things.

Better to rant about Bill Gates to a wife who doesn't care than to no one at all.

 

[EXman]

Originally posted by: illusion88

Originally posted by: Jehovah
You've never had sex, have you?

But the sex stops after a few years!!!

OH SOOO TRUE!

 

[imported_Tango]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Everytime I am invited over to have dinner at my parents house they keep telling me that once I grauduate(which is less than in 2 years now )they would love to see me married and with kids, and I tell them WHY WOULD I WANT TO DO THAT ? And they give me this look "WTH?", I know it sounds wierd but with all honesty I can't find
this joy people get out of having babies and being stuck with another person for the rest of their lives. Things can turn out to be good and that person might become your soul mate, well that's all good, but what if things go bad, and that person becomes your enemy like most of the relationships I see aroud me. Wow children can bring joy to you, but that's not all of the cases that I have seen

I have explained it to my parents over and over, I have no girl in mind I never did and I hope I never will, I am waiting for graduation and then I'll shift things aaround from pushing my self hard to focusing on making myself happy and get all of what i deprived myself from before(I have 18 credit hours each semester and I have hard job but good paying though ) I might also go for a masters degree too. But really I love being alone knowing that I have myself is just more than entertainment for me (yes I love myself that much but I am not selfish ,I do help alot of ppl out too @ college and my neighberhood...family etc)

What's wrong with my logic ? I just want to live, and be alone and my parents don't understand that, I have lots of friends and I am really a normal guy, but it's just as I was growing up I lived for a long period of time on my own and I loved it and loved being responsible for myself.
I would appreciate input from you married guys out there and fathers too, according to what you have read so far and from your own experience why should I get married ?

I wouldn't normally post in this kind of thread, but this is just too big... my advice:

Have some phycological consulting. Seriously. I know you think you don't need it, but just do yourself a favor and at least try. There's nothing bad in doing it, and it could (very probably) change your life, change it a lot, and change it for good. A lot of good actually..

If you don't want to marry or have kids is perfectly fine. I don't plan to marry either.
But the lack of interest for relationships is worrying. You are not really living your life, and we all only have one. Get out of this ivory tower. You are young, get in control of your life, and do it now. You will regret these years one day.

 

[rh71]

I don't think it's a necessity to have a life companion nor [especially] offspring of your own. Some people who are very task-oriented like to keep to themselves and will go about everything that way because it means less aggravation, less consideration, less worry.

But I don't think someone who's still in his early 20s is capable of making such a decision once and for all. Someone who's not yet accomplished is likely to have a lot of changes when the ball gets rolling. I'd give it some time and if I were you, I'd at least TRY to find someone who's into you. How many of those relationships have you had and why did they fail ? If you're the one who keeps pushing them away even though they're right for you, then maybe you are a loner... but I really question how much you've tried up to this point.

 

[meltdown75]

I can't see the point behind getting married nor having kids.

then don't get married and have kids.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

I can't see the point behind getting married nor having kids.

then don't get married and have kids.

Will gee why didn't I think of that before, thanx for pointing it out meltdown75 Brilliant :thumbsup:

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: meltdown75

I can't see the point behind getting married nor having kids.

then don't get married and have kids.

Will gee why didn't I think of that before, thanx for pointing it out meltdown75 Brilliant :thumbsup:

no ****** sherlock, only took eleventy billion responses eh? :thumbsup:

 

[Aquila76]

I'm 100% onboard with the OP here.

I knew from Day 1 of dating that I did not want to have kids. There's just too much drama in the world to introduce more meat for the grinder. If the kid doesn't get kidnapped from or murdered at school, there's a good chance he'll be attacked by a sex offender, harassed by other students to the point of breaking, etc. IMO, There's just too much hate and violence in this world for me to want to subject someone else to that.

My marriage has made me regret getting married. I was single for 23 years and very happy and content, but thought I needed more. I had known my wife for years (just under a decade, actually) before we got married and after 2 years of dating was certain that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. However, since that ring hit her finger she's pulled a 180 on me. I'm not one to care too much about physical changes, because those can go both ways - just give it time to heal. But mental changes are far more permanent. That is where she has changed the most, and it was due to her actions. She chose to hide from me the fact that she attempted suicide three times before we were married. I found that out after I came home from work one day and found her unconscious with empty bottles of pills and liquor. A week later when she recovered, she was a totally different person. The combo of pills and alcohol destroyed parts of her memory and affects her ability to remember. She is far more emotionally uncontrolled, undisciplined; she's prone to emotional outbursts over the pettiest of things. She has improved, somewhat; but it's always nagging at the back of my head that she'll do this again and either succeed or make herself worse. She has made enough progress now that I don't want to go through the messiness a divorce would bring. Honestly though, if I could go back 6 years, my marriage is the only thing I've done that I would change.

Cliffs:
1. I agree with no kids infinite%
2. My marriage is strong evidence to not get married as you can never know what the other person is capable of.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Everytime I am invited over to have dinner at my parents house they keep telling me that once I grauduate(which is less than in 2 years now )they would love to see me married and with kids, and I tell them WHY WOULD I WANT TO DO THAT ? And they give me this look "WTH?", I know it sounds wierd but with all honesty I can't find
this joy people get out of having babies and being stuck with another person for the rest of their lives. Things can turn out to be good and that person might become your soul mate, well that's all good, but what if things go bad, and that person becomes your enemy like most of the relationships I see aroud me. Wow children can bring joy to you, but that's not all of the cases that I have seen

I have explained it to my parents over and over, I have no girl in mind I never did and I hope I never will, I am waiting for graduation and then I'll shift things aaround from pushing my self hard to focusing on making myself happy and get all of what i deprived myself from before(I have 18 credit hours each semester and I have hard job but good paying though ) I might also go for a masters degree too. But really I love being alone knowing that I have myself is just more than entertainment for me (yes I love myself that much but I am not selfish ,I do help alot of ppl out too @ college and my neighberhood...family etc)

What's wrong with my logic ? I just want to live, and be alone and my parents don't understand that, I have lots of friends and I am really a normal guy, but it's just as I was growing up I lived for a long period of time on my own and I loved it and loved being responsible for myself.
I would appreciate input from you married guys out there and fathers too, according to what you have read so far and from your own experience why should I get married ?

I am in the same boat right now. My parents and my friends keep pressuring me, but I won't have it. If it happens, it happens. Being single right now is so much less complicated and gives you so much freeedom. I don't want to be tied down yet.

 

[sao123]

eventually all your friends will be married and stop hanging out with you. at that point you will want a wife and kids so as to not be so alnoe yourself.

 

[Queasy]

Been married 4 1/2 years and have two kids. I'm not going to say everything is perfect because nothing in life ever is. But, I definitely have a different perspective on life nowadays and I love my wife and kids. Right now I'm working the regular job and bringing home the bacon while my wife stays at home with the kids and is trying to get a cake and dessert making business going. It's been a strain financially especially since we want to send our son to a private school starting next year but you make the best of what you have.

Prior to getting married and having kids I was able to be recklessly irresponsible. That's probably the hardest adjustment for people to make (myself included). You have other people you have to take care of and a whole new set of responsibilities that prevent you from being as selfish as you're used to and would like to be..