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I can't dance ! :(

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Originally posted by: luvly
"What can I do ?? I want to go out to clubs and shake my a$$ with hot chix, but I get nervous and I feel like I dance like an idiot.

What can I do ??"

Uh-oh! :Q Are you sure the phone sex was real if you can't even shake your a$$? :Q Maybe that's why your ex was holding hands with her new bf and upset you? She figured you couldn't dance your a$$, must lest perform phone sex.

LMAO at Polm. Sorry Polm, but your posts always crack me up . . . they sound like they're from a kid.

Hope you can learn dancing soon. Why not try buying a video and practicing? Or take lessons at the gym or anywhere else that offers dance sessions. 😛
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im glad I could bring some laughter into your day luvly 🙂

im gonna pass on the dance lessons, cuz I don't think they will be geared towards the kind of dancing I want to do. I will just spend the first 30 minutes at the clubs drinking and watching othere dudes dance. I'll let my new GF tell me which guys she thinks are good dancers, and go from there.
 
Don't feel bad about not being able to dance. Persoanlly, it's not a skill I hope to acquire. You feel stupid dancing because it IS stupid.

Seinfeld: I can't believe I'm going dancing. I've never been.
Girlfriend: You've never been? Why not?
Seinfeld: Because it's so stupid.
 
when u dance w/ a chic..kinda move w/ her to the beat...do a "go down" manuever or something...never try to copy others around u..don't look @ them...half of them look pretty dumb...they dance to the beat, but can't dance...don't worry....and i have a chic w/ u ...u already own the floor..there's some dudes there that don't have chics..and u'll look good no matter what..
 
when u dance w/ a chic..kinda move w/ her to the beat...do a "go down" manuever or something...never try to copy others around u..don't look @ them...half of them look pretty dumb...they dance to the beat, but can't dance...don't worry....and i have a chic w/ u ...u already own the floor..there's some dudes there that don't have chics..and u'll look good no matter what..


EDIT: WTF how did this double post happen...phokking..first time happened to me...for the longest time i thoguth people did it on purpose...
 
"im gonna pass on the dance lessons, cuz I don't think they will be geared towards the kind of dancing I want to do. I will just spend the first 30 minutes at the clubs drinking and watching othere dudes dance. I'll let my new GF tell me which guys she thinks are good dancers, and go from there"

Hey Polm, maybe you don't know how to dance because you always pushed the idea aside. You always underestimated yourself or found excuses, perhaps? Trust me, the gym has nice dance sessions. There's the hip-hop dance class too for you to take. Stop finding excuses and give it a try.
 
yea, i know exactly how you feel

i was at a club, completely sober, this guy i know introduced me to this good lookin girl, i felt like an idiot dancing with her. i had no idea how to grind with her, i kept bumping into her, so she stopped dancing and i walked away looking like an idiot 😱 :frown:

so... after that, i went to a club again the next weekend, i learned from that incident, i drank a LOT of alcohol and had a really good time :]

 
Originally posted by: fritolays
yea, i know exactly how you feel

i was at a club, completely sober, this guy i know introduced me to this good lookin girl, i felt like an idiot dancing with her. i had no idea how to grind with her, i kept bumping into her, so she stopped dancing and i walked away looking like an idiot 😱 :frown:

so... after that, i went to a club again the next weekend, i learned from that incident, i drank a LOT of alcohol and had a really good time :]
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and you found yourself to be a better dancer, simply due to the alcohol intake ?
 
i had no idea how to grind with her, i kept bumping into her, so she stopped dancing and i walked away looking like an idiot 😱 :frown
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that is exactly what I am talking about.

How do you time the grinding so as to not bump into her ? do I let her lead the grinding and just moves my hips along with hers ?

she really starts to shake her stuff...I feel like if I keep up with her, I will look like a girl.

It seems like a lot of guys just do some standard thing with their hips, that allows a girl to grind her a$$ off without any conflicts.
 
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: fritolays
yea, i know exactly how you feel

i was at a club, completely sober, this guy i know introduced me to this good lookin girl, i felt like an idiot dancing with her. i had no idea how to grind with her, i kept bumping into her, so she stopped dancing and i walked away looking like an idiot 😱 :frown:

so... after that, i went to a club again the next weekend, i learned from that incident, i drank a LOT of alcohol and had a really good time :]
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and you found yourself to be a better dancer, simply due to the alcohol intake ?
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being 'good' or 'better' is besides the point. it's all about enjoying yourself.
 
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: fritolays
yea, i know exactly how you feel

i was at a club, completely sober, this guy i know introduced me to this good lookin girl, i felt like an idiot dancing with her. i had no idea how to grind with her, i kept bumping into her, so she stopped dancing and i walked away looking like an idiot 😱 :frown:

so... after that, i went to a club again the next weekend, i learned from that incident, i drank a LOT of alcohol and had a really good time :]
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and you found yourself to be a better dancer, simply due to the alcohol intake ?
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no, alcohol allowed me to loosen up and just dance to the beat... plus i become a LOT more outgoing when im under the influence so i met a bunch of girls

i wasnt dancing most of the time.... i danced a little, met some chicks, chatted with them on the couch even though i was drunk, she was begging to dance with me, she kept trying to drag me out by my hand... but i refused

it was fun since i didnt feel out of place... i just didnt care about how i looked
i dunno, overall it was just a good experience
 
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: luvly
"What can I do ?? I want to go out to clubs and shake my a$$ with hot chix, but I get nervous and I feel like I dance like an idiot.

What can I do ??"

Uh-oh! :Q Are you sure the phone sex was real if you can't even shake your a$$? :Q Maybe that's why your ex was holding hands with her new bf and upset you? She figured you couldn't dance your a$$, must lest perform phone sex.

LMAO at Polm. Sorry Polm, but your posts always crack me up . . . they sound like they're from a kid.

Hope you can learn dancing soon. Why not try buying a video and practicing? Or take lessons at the gym or anywhere else that offers dance sessions. 😛
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im glad I could bring some laughter into your day luvly 🙂

im gonna pass on the dance lessons, cuz I don't think they will be geared towards the kind of dancing I want to do. I will just spend the first 30 minutes at the clubs drinking and watching othere dudes dance. I'll let my new GF tell me which guys she thinks are good dancers, and go from there.
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heh, my problem isn't really not knowing how to dance alone or even with a chick. My problem is I'm scared sh1tless w/ the approach part. I don't want to just walk up and grab some chicks ass. I'm actually an alright dancer. I found that if you watch people that are dancing on the dance floor it doesn't really work because most of them can't dance either and you're never going to remember it without actually gettin up and doing it.

Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
 
Originally posted by: polm
i don't want to dance by myself though...I want to be all pimp at grinding and moving with a lady ... if I just get drunk and start moving, I may hurt her.
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now THIS is sig material! 🙂
 
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
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I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
 
Originally posted by: polm
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
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I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
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Watch BET...
I do this thing where I put my right arm on her lower back and kind of go back and forth...the key is you have to move your hips too. I usually start off this way because it seems like all the dudes that just go up and grab a chicks ass are all weird. If a chick can dance she'll probably shake her ass to the beat so you shake it the other way on the same beat. Don't bother with the chicks that just jump around although it can be fun...it looks completely retarded. The last thing is some chicks like to keep goin lower...I'm not too down with that but how I do it is I stick 1 leg between hers so I can feel what shes doin and react...oh yeah and I always lead my hips with my upper body...

I guess I had it lucky because we had a strip pole installed in our family room in college and we had a bunch of parties with lots of dancing...
 
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
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I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
Click to expand...

Watch BET...
I do this thing where I put my right arm on her lower back and kind of go back and forth...the key is you have to move your hips too. I usually start off this way because it seems like all the dudes that just go up and grab a chicks ass are all weird. If a chick can dance she'll probably shake her ass to the beat so you shake it the other way on the same beat. Don't bother with the chicks that just jump around although it can be fun...it looks completely retarded. The last thing is some chicks like to keep goin lower...I'm not too down with that but how I do it is I stick 1 leg between hers so I can feel what shes doin and react...oh yeah and I always lead my hips with my upper body...

I guess I had it lucky because we had a strip pole installed in our family room in college and we had a bunch of parties with lots of dancing...
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alright...Im pickin' up what your puttin' down.

But back to the hips....when you say back and forth, do you mean strictly forward and backwards ? what about side-to-side ? or moving in circles ?
 
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
Click to expand...

I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
Click to expand...

Watch BET...
I do this thing where I put my right arm on her lower back and kind of go back and forth...the key is you have to move your hips too. I usually start off this way because it seems like all the dudes that just go up and grab a chicks ass are all weird. If a chick can dance she'll probably shake her ass to the beat so you shake it the other way on the same beat. Don't bother with the chicks that just jump around although it can be fun...it looks completely retarded. The last thing is some chicks like to keep goin lower...I'm not too down with that but how I do it is I stick 1 leg between hers so I can feel what shes doin and react...oh yeah and I always lead my hips with my upper body...

I guess I had it lucky because we had a strip pole installed in our family room in college and we had a bunch of parties with lots of dancing...
Click to expand...


alright...Im pickin' up what your puttin' down.

But back to the hips....when you say back and forth, do you mean strictly forward and backwards ? what about side-to-side ? or moving in circles ?
Click to expand...

A little side to side mixed in with forward and bakcwards depending on what the chicks doing. It's like a circular thrust that I usually do. It's like half circles and you emphasize it on the beat. It's kind of hard to explain...
 
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
Click to expand...

I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
Click to expand...

Watch BET...
I do this thing where I put my right arm on her lower back and kind of go back and forth...the key is you have to move your hips too. I usually start off this way because it seems like all the dudes that just go up and grab a chicks ass are all weird. If a chick can dance she'll probably shake her ass to the beat so you shake it the other way on the same beat. Don't bother with the chicks that just jump around although it can be fun...it looks completely retarded. The last thing is some chicks like to keep goin lower...I'm not too down with that but how I do it is I stick 1 leg between hers so I can feel what shes doin and react...oh yeah and I always lead my hips with my upper body...

I guess I had it lucky because we had a strip pole installed in our family room in college and we had a bunch of parties with lots of dancing...
Click to expand...


alright...Im pickin' up what your puttin' down.

But back to the hips....when you say back and forth, do you mean strictly forward and backwards ? what about side-to-side ? or moving in circles ?
Click to expand...

A little side to side mixed in with forward and bakcwards depending on what the chicks doing. It's like a circular thrust that I usually do. It's like half circles and you emphasize it on the beat. It's kind of hard to explain...
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no you are doing a good job.

Now...what do you do with your free arm ? Do you always keep at least the one arm on her ?
 
I'm 22...
Oh yeah, my other rule is always dance next to someone that's worse than you🙂 That way you look good regardless...
 
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
Click to expand...

I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
Click to expand...

Watch BET...
I do this thing where I put my right arm on her lower back and kind of go back and forth...the key is you have to move your hips too. I usually start off this way because it seems like all the dudes that just go up and grab a chicks ass are all weird. If a chick can dance she'll probably shake her ass to the beat so you shake it the other way on the same beat. Don't bother with the chicks that just jump around although it can be fun...it looks completely retarded. The last thing is some chicks like to keep goin lower...I'm not too down with that but how I do it is I stick 1 leg between hers so I can feel what shes doin and react...oh yeah and I always lead my hips with my upper body...

I guess I had it lucky because we had a strip pole installed in our family room in college and we had a bunch of parties with lots of dancing...
Click to expand...


alright...Im pickin' up what your puttin' down.

But back to the hips....when you say back and forth, do you mean strictly forward and backwards ? what about side-to-side ? or moving in circles ?
Click to expand...

A little side to side mixed in with forward and bakcwards depending on what the chicks doing. It's like a circular thrust that I usually do. It's like half circles and you emphasize it on the beat. It's kind of hard to explain...
Click to expand...


no you are doing a good job.

Now...what do you do with your free arm ? Do you always keep at least the one arm on her ?
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Either stick it straight out if you're going down or I keep it straight down with my hand outward kind of on my hip. When that gets old I put it on the back of my head like I'm doing a situp...it's always my left arm that's free. Sometimes I put it on the chick's hip...mix it up...the same thing gets pretty old...
 
Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
#1 question: polm, do you have rhythm?
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yes...I have studied many instruments, and I play most of them rather well (guitar, bass, violin, banjo)

I have been trained in tap dancing as a child for many years.

I have done theatre that required a good amount of dancing... just not club dancing.
 
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Originally posted by: polm
Just make sure you keep with the beat. The way I did it was watching usher videos to learn how to dance by myself and some chick usually comes up to me and I can move w/ a chick pretty alright.
Click to expand...

I would never dance by myself. I just wouldnt.

So I really just want to move 'alright' with a chick. Any pointers ? Just want to be able to make her comfortable enough when she is grinding and stuff.

I don't want to look like a great dancer, just want to compliment her moves.
Click to expand...

Watch BET...
I do this thing where I put my right arm on her lower back and kind of go back and forth...the key is you have to move your hips too. I usually start off this way because it seems like all the dudes that just go up and grab a chicks ass are all weird. If a chick can dance she'll probably shake her ass to the beat so you shake it the other way on the same beat. Don't bother with the chicks that just jump around although it can be fun...it looks completely retarded. The last thing is some chicks like to keep goin lower...I'm not too down with that but how I do it is I stick 1 leg between hers so I can feel what shes doin and react...oh yeah and I always lead my hips with my upper body...

I guess I had it lucky because we had a strip pole installed in our family room in college and we had a bunch of parties with lots of dancing...
Click to expand...


alright...Im pickin' up what your puttin' down.

But back to the hips....when you say back and forth, do you mean strictly forward and backwards ? what about side-to-side ? or moving in circles ?
Click to expand...

A little side to side mixed in with forward and bakcwards depending on what the chicks doing. It's like a circular thrust that I usually do. It's like half circles and you emphasize it on the beat. It's kind of hard to explain...
Click to expand...


no you are doing a good job.

Now...what do you do with your free arm ? Do you always keep at least the one arm on her ?
Click to expand...

Either stick it straight out if you're going down or I keep it straight down with my hand outward kind of on my hip. When that gets old I put it on the back of my head like I'm doing a situp...it's always my left arm that's free. Sometimes I put it on the chick's hip...mix it up...the same thing gets pretty old...
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alright....now moving on to feet. Someone suggested that my feet never leave the ground.

What do you do with your feet ?
 
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