I can't dance ! :(

[CrazyDe1]

Oh yeah, make eye contact and NEVER let your eyes wander. I can't tell you how many times i've seen people try to act mysterious and after they're dancin w/ a hot chick they're a little nervous and lookin around the club...chicks notice it and other chicks in the club notice it...

The best way is watch how 2 hot girls dance w/ each other...they usually dance with each other perfectly and it completely intimidates everyone else aroudn them. Everyone will be watching them but no one will dance w/ them. Then they usually go grab someone to dance with and that guy can't dance at all..

 

[kami]

Drink more...and when you think you've had enough, have a couple more.

Then you'll be dancing in no time.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: CrazyDe1
Oh yeah, make eye contact and NEVER let your eyes wander. I can't tell you how many times i've seen people try to act mysterious and after they're dancin w/ a hot chick they're a little nervous and lookin around the club...chicks notice it and other chicks in the club notice it...

The best way is watch how 2 hot girls dance w/ each other...they usually dance with each other perfectly and it completely intimidates everyone else aroudn them. Everyone will be watching them but no one will dance w/ them. Then they usually go grab someone to dance with and that guy can't dance at all..

I have noticed this myself. 2 hot chix making everyone else look like clumsy dorks.

 

[skim milk]

if you're going clubbing this weekend, let us know how it goes!

 

[CrazyDe1]

alright....now moving on to feet. Someone suggested that my feet never leave the ground.

What do you do with your feet ?

They usually don't leave the ground unless I'm not grinding w/ her yet. Some girls they'll pull you over to dance w/ them but they'll kind of dance at you for a minute so I do all my usher crap but it's kind of swiveling feet and picking my feet up n sh1t. When I'm dancing w/ the chick I don't really move my feet very much. The exception is I do this thing where I kind of lean to one side and go up and down and go up on my toes on my right foot repeatedly.

 

[blackdogdeek]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
#1 question: polm, do you have rhythm?

yes...I have studied many instruments, and I play most of them rather well (guitar, bass, violin, banjo)

I have been trained in tap dancing as a child for many years.

I have done theatre that required a good amount of dancing... just not club dancing.

ok, then you just need to learn to move your body parts, primarily your hips, to the beat. side to side is good. i actually prefer reggae for good grinding, nice and slow.

someone suggested taking a hip-hop dance/aerobics class at a gym and i think this is a good idea too. you can learn generic "moves" that you can always pull out if you get stuck. you also get accustomed to moving your body to the beat.

other than that i'd suggest watching a lot of people clubbing either on BET, or MTV(assuming they still have shows like clubMTV), or Soul Train. alternatively, you can hang out at clubs and just watch.

however, the best way to learn i've found is to just get on the dance floor and just start moving to the beat. you don't have to do anything fancy. even just the typical right foot to the side->left foot joins right->left foot to the side->right foot joins left->right foot to the side->repeat is a good foundation for building upon. once you get comfortable moving your body you'll gain the confidence to start moving more.

of course, alcohol is a good way to short-circuit the process and get confident right away

also, are you into martial arts?

edited for teh speelling

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
#1 question: polm, do you have rhythm?

yes...I have studied many instruments, and I play most of them rather well (guitar, bass, violin, banjo)

I have been trained in tap dancing as a child for many years.

I have done theatre that required a good amount of dancing... just not club dancing.

ok, then you just need to learn to move your body parts, primarily your hips, to the beat. side to side is good. i actually prefer reggae for good grinding, nice and slow.

someone suggested taking a hip-hop dance/aerobics class at a gym and i think this is a good idea too. you can learn generic "moves" that you can always pull out if you get stuck. you also get accustomed to moving your body to the beat.

other than that i'd suggest watching a lot of people clubbing either on BET, or MTV(assuming they still have shows like clubMTV), or Soul Train. alternatively, you can hang out at clubs and just watch.

however, the best way to learn i've found is to just get on the dance floor and just start moving to the beat. you don't have to do anything fancy. even just the typical right foot to the side->left foot joins right->left foot to the side->right foot joins left->right foot to the side->repeat is a good foundation for building upon. once you get comfortable moving your body you'll gain the confidence to start moving more.

of course, alcohol is a good way to short-circuit the process and get confident right way

also, are you into martial arts?

guess I will start watching BET tonight. I have only been dating this new girl for a couple weeks, but I am pretty sure she would be happy to practice with me.

nope...I took TaekWonDo (sp?) for about 3 months...but I didn't really get into it.

 

[blackdogdeek]

you might want to inform the girl that you're not a great dancer. i'm sure most women hear that from their bf's but at least this way she won't expect you to be mr. dance fever.

btw, is this a new girl? i thought you were going to israel?

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
you might want to inform the girl that you're not a great dancer. i'm sure most women hear that from their bf's but at least this way she won't expect you to be mr. dance fever.

btw, is this a new girl? i thought you were going to israel?

I told her that I suck at dancing...she just laughed and told me I better do some kind of grinding with her when we get to NYC.

yes this is a new girl...and yes I am going to Israel...we have decided that we will pursue the relationship and hope we are both capable and willing to make a commitment while I am away.

Things are moving pretty fast, but I am enjoying it...so I am just goin with the flow.

 

[edmicman]

lmao at the image of everyone breaking down club dancing into a how-to guide

personally you can't go wrong with the Robot

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: edmicman
lmao at the image of everyone breaking down club dancing into a how-to guide

personally you can't go wrong with the Robot

just think of all the ATOTers we are helping to get out there and 'cut a rug' with hot chix !

 

[CrazyDe1]

Originally posted by: edmicman
lmao at the image of everyone breaking down club dancing into a how-to guide

personally you can't go wrong with the Robot

haha...I prefer the sprinkler myself...

 

[blackdogdeek]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
you might want to inform the girl that you're not a great dancer. i'm sure most women hear that from their bf's but at least this way she won't expect you to be mr. dance fever.

btw, is this a new girl? i thought you were going to israel?

I told her that I suck at dancing...she just laughed and told me I better do some kind of grinding with her when we get to NYC.

yes this is a new girl...and yes I am going to Israel...we have decided that we will pursue the relationship and hope we are both capable and willing to make a commitment while I am away.

Things are moving pretty fast, but I am enjoying it...so I am just goin with the flow.

glad to hear you're having a good time and things are going well.

imo, grinding is pretty much just the lovin' but with clothes on and without touching, and of course, to a nice slow beat. however, if you're really intimate with this girl already, there may be some form of bodily contact while grinding, incidental or otherwise

good luck and let us know how it goes.

 

[CrazyDe1]

The worst is poppin wood on the dance floor...I never know what a chick is thinking...sometimes she'll grind her ass into it further and sometimes she'll grab it...I don't know...that's when I get nervous...

 

[Maleficus]

I can't whistle !

 

[Yax]

Oh god, its pathetic. Men were never built to dance. Just go out there with a beer in your hand and watch her dance. Maybe you'll start shaking too.

What ever you do, you'll look stupid doing it so it doesn't matter.

 

[Geekbabe]

lol,most men look like idiots when they try to dance

 

[wfbberzerker]

do the white tornado.

 

[ndee]

Originally posted by: polm
What can I do ?? I want to go out to clubs and shake my a$$ with hot chix, but I get nervous and I feel like I dance like an idiot.

What can I do ??

haha, thankfully, I know how to move my body grindin' on girls to some nice R&B tunes ROCKS hehe