Hypothetical situation: Would you date somebody with kids?

[bizmark]

Originally posted by: luvly
I'm not a guy, but if the reverse were the case: Hell no! Am I crazy? If you had the luxury of making babies without thinking much, I shouldn't be tied to you.

However, surprisingly, so many people I meet in real life are compromising and settling with men or women with kids from previous relationships. Is it just a desperation thing or what?

For me, the only exceptions I'll ever make to this rule is if the parent of the kids died and they were in good terms and relationship when that happened. But anyone who's got kids with someone who's alive shouldn't ever approach me. I can make my own babies.

LOL I didn't expect such an emphatic response from you luvly. "I can make my own babies"! Ha! 😀

I agree though 😀

and yes it is a desperation thing IMO. Hope it never comes to that for me. It's not that I don't like kids, but... it'd be so weird raising another man's kids. Esp. since it means that the person you're dating was reckless in that very important matter... but then again, love is love and it usually doesn't follow the typical lines of reason or social boundaries.... ah, who knows. I'll try and avoid it if at all possible, and I guess that's all I can say.

 

[Johnlee]

You're 20 years old. Girl looks good. She has a kid or two

hehe, I love that. "has a kid or two".😀

 

[Storm]

I would have to say probably not. It would have to be an extreme condition
like the one luvly mentioned. As much as I like to believe people can learn
from their mistakes and mature this is one situation where Im extremely wary.
In this case, the mistake could be having kids, the husband, the marriage, or
a combination of any of the above. This is a rough question 😕