How would you react? (A thought provoking thread involving possible real situations)

minendo · Apr 30, 2003

Disclaimer: This thread deals with issues that several of you disapprove of. Just answer the questions truthfully and don't try spreading your beliefs here.

Now that the disclaimer is out of the way how would you react to the following situations:

[*]How would you handle it if a long time friend informed you they were homosexual?

[*]What if it was a family member?

For you homophobes, really consider what you would do. Especially if it was a family member.

Feldenak · Apr 30, 2003

Male friend/relative:

Me: "Don't point that thing at me." And that would be the end of it.

Female friend/relative (when I was still single):

Me: "Want to go see if we can pick up some girls?"

her209 · Apr 30, 2003

What's wrong with having a gay friend?

What's wrong with having a gay relative?

minendo · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: her209
What's wrong with having a gay friend?

What's wrong with having a gay relative?

This is what I was getting at. It seems as though for many people sexual preference plays a key role in deciding who they should be friends with. A prime example would be:

Male friend/relative:

Me: "Don't point that thing at me." And that would be the end of it.

Female friend/relative (when I was still single):

Me: "Want to go see if we can pick up some girls?"

AvesPKS · Apr 30, 2003

I have three friends whom I had known through high school, and have known for at least five years. I found out that one was gay, one was a lesbian, and one was bisexual. I will admit that I am not the most open-minded person in the world, but finding out after knowing these people for so long, it really doesn't make too much difference. They are still the same people I knew before I discovered their sexual preferences.

Fausto · Apr 30, 2003

I'd be happy that they were comfortable enough with their own identity to discuss it with me and wish them well. It's just not a big deal.

tweakmm · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: Fausto1
I'd be happy that they were comfortable enough with their own identity to discuss it with me and wish them well. It's just not a big deal.

Feldenak · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: her209
What's wrong with having a gay friend?

What's wrong with having a gay relative?

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This is what I was getting at. It seems as though for many people sexual preference plays a key role in deciding who they should be friends with. A prime example would be:

Male friend/relative:

Me: "Don't point that thing at me." And that would be the end of it.

Female friend/relative (when I was still single):

Me: "Want to go see if we can pick up some girls?"

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I don't understand your response to mine. I don't think I belittled anyone with those responses and if it was a friend or relative of mine, those responses would more appropriate than you could possibly hope understand.

hollowman · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: her209
What's wrong with having a gay friend?

What's wrong with having a gay relative?

minendo · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: Feldenak
I don't understand your response to mine. I don't think I belittled anyone with those responses and if it was a friend or relative of mine, those responses would more appropriate than you could possibly hope understand.

I took: "and that would be the end of it" as a dead friendship. I apologize for the misunderstanding if in fact I misread your post.

TwinkleToes77 · Apr 30, 2003

I'd have no problem with either of those.

Feldenak · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Feldenak
I don't understand your response to mine. I don't think I belittled anyone with those responses and if it was a friend or relative of mine, those responses would more appropriate than you could possibly hope understand.

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I took: "and that would be the end of it" as a dead friendship. I apologize for the misunderstanding if in fact I misread your post.

Ahh...ok. I guess I should have been more clear. I simply meant that would be the end of the discussion/problem/crisis/etc...

yoda291 · Apr 30, 2003

If I were friends before finding out, I wouldn't give a flying fsck. If not, I'd have to get to know them. In my experience, many homosexuals are blatantly open about it and that's fine. It's when they become annoyingly outspoken about it that irks me. I wouldn't want to hear about the women you nail, why would I care about the men you sleep with?

Family member, I'd honestly be a little wary, but overall, prolly wouldn't care.

rh71 · Apr 30, 2003

I don't care if they're gay. Actually this did happen to me, now that I think of it... I guess I REALLY don't mind it happening if I let that slip my mind for a second there. I knew him for 3 years before he let the news out... and when he did, I didn't have any different feelings toward him. Heh, maybe I shouldn't have walked around in our quad without a shirt so often, but that doesn't mean anything.

If it were a family member, I'd be a little more reactive to it... but what can I possibly do? I guess, again, I don't care... just an eye-opener for a few days...

Yo Ma Ma · Apr 30, 2003

[*]How would you handle it if a long time friend informed you they were homosexual?

I would be fine with it, at least something interesting would be happening for a change.

[*]What if it was a family member?

Same as above, maybe better, unless it was mom or dad, that would take some getting used to.

agnitrate · Apr 30, 2003

It might disrupt my little bubble of reality for a minute and kinda bring me back down to Earth, but I don't think it would change how I act around them. The only reason I could see it being akward is if they totally changed their personality after this revelation because they had been 'hiding' their true personality before and now I conflict with their new behavior.

Aside from that, I think it would only be akward if they expect you to respond with anything more than 'Ok' or 'Whatever' or something and you just don't know what to say.

-silver

Isla · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: minendo
Disclaimer: This thread deals with issues that several of you disapprove of. Just answer the questions truthfully and don't try spreading your beliefs here.

Now that the disclaimer is out of the way how would you react to the following situations:

[*]How would you handle it if a long time friend informed you they were homosexual?

[*]What if it was a family member?

For you homophobes, really consider what you would do. Especially if it was a family member.

I'd say,

"I knew it all along. What made you take so long to tell me??? You know I love you just the way you are!"

minendo · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: Isla
I'd say,

"I knew it all along. What made you take so long to tell me??? You know I love you just the way you are!"

What if you did not know and it came as a shock?

Geekbabe · Apr 30, 2003

I would just give them a really big,nice hug..sometimes people don't need words

Lithium381 · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: AvesPKS
I have three friends whom I had known through high school, and have known for at least five years. I found out that one was gay, one was a lesbian, and one was bisexual. I will admit that I am not the most open-minded person in the world, but finding out after knowing these people for so long, it really doesn't make too much difference. They are still the same people I knew before I discovered their sexual preferences.

yeah, i used to be a bit close minded, now i'm a bit more open, and surly, one friend i have, one is bi one is lesbian.....makes no difference to me!

Isla · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Isla
I'd say,

"I knew it all along. What made you take so long to tell me??? You know I love you just the way you are!"

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What if you did not know and it came as a shock?

It would be hard to hide something like that from me. I've got pretty good instincts when it comes to that. I've had a lot of gay friends over my lifetime. Plue, I've trained to pay attention to body language, facial expressions, etc. I spend a LOT of time watching people and taking notes. I wouldn't look for what people assume are gay traits... I'd look for incongruencies (is that a word? LOL, it's late, time for bed!).

Now, I did have a cousin who I THOUGHT was gay but was just a little feminine, LOL! I was pretty surprised when he got married and started having kids. But he and his wife are really a very androgynous couple. Very cool people.

GeekDrew · Apr 30, 2003

Friend - thank god! now i'm not the only one around here...

Actually, I don't think that I would treat them any different at all... might be more open to talking with them about some issues (assuming they were), but not much else would change.

Family - hrmmmm... i don't think that i would care in the least bit. i have a cousin that's a lesbian (albeit she does live in Texas while i'm in Ohio)... but i don't think my opinion would change in the least.

Drew

GeekDrew · May 1, 2003

0roo0roo · May 1, 2003

i had an inkling, sometimes u can just tell. frankly i didn't care and told him such. it doesn't affect me. its been a while now and its all cool.

they might go through a period where they explore gay culture etc. its part of coming out, it calms down after a while.

HappyPuppy · May 1, 2003

I didn't read any of the replies.

My response would is, who gives a shyt. It's their business and their life. End of story.

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