How to Up Your Game
It?s Friday night, where are you off to for the weekend?
If you are a man in sausage fest valley, you are about to go out in hopes of scoring yourself a cute honey. But when the numbers are stacked so much in your disfavor, it can be difficult, so what can you do to up your game?
Most men think they can follow a simple recipe: get better clothes, get in better shape, get a nice bling-bling car. And while this isn?t bad advice (as most woman usually would like their men to score the higher the better in these areas), this is really more the icing on the cake than the real bread and butter. Trust me, women know that indulging in excessive amounts of sugah is only going to make you sick without ever filling you up. That?s right, what women want is a man with more nourishment.
So what is it that women want? It?s really quite simple.
1. Confidence. You ever meet a guy who is totally average looking, not even all that funny or cool, even an outright jackass, but he seems to always get the girls? Most likely this man really exudes confidence, a quality so attractive that a woman can overlook a lacking in many other areas in exchange for an excessively high confidence rating. I still don?t know why this is so important to us, but it just is. Not only do we love men who are sure of themselves; more importantly, we respect these men.
2. Stability. This is really key for women. I consider myself a woman who really prides herself on being self-reliant, but I still like to know that I could depend on a guy if I wanted to. This is why some really emotional "good guys" who are always doing nice things for women and putting their hearts on the line continue to get their heart broken. We want a man can deal with his own emotional needs and is completely stable. It?s fine to be able to sympathize with a woman, but we also don?t want to date the kind of guy who we are going to constantly have to emotionally maintain. Showing emotional vulnerability is good later on, but not before we feel emotionally vulnerable about you too.
3. Trustworthiness. Some guys think they are being super slick and sly be delivering a bunch of lines, but really they sound too rehearsed. They men are really grating because they just come off as being slimey and conceited. Instead, women want a trustworthy man, which is what we really mean when we say we want a "nice guy" ? we don?t really want someone who will cry in our arms, just someone who can like us back as much as we like them.
So I hope this dispels some of the mystery of women ? why we seem to like the dangerous assholes instead of the "nice guys." We really do want good and trustworthy guys, but we need them to be really confident and stable too.
Okay, so once you've done all your self-improvement work and are the men you know every woman wants, there are still some keys to flirting etiquette that men should observe. These are easier to answer questions with really straight forward answers.
Tips for Meeting a Woman During a Night Out on the Town
1. Pick a receptive woman to approach: Sometimes women go out to hang out with their girl friends just to talk ? interrupt their deep conversation and be ready to be barked at. Other times, women are staring around the room, looking to meet men just like you.
2. How to approach: Once you?ve picked the right girl, the key is to MAKE EYE CONTACT FIRST - ALWAYS. If she returns the eye contact, she wants to meet you too. Sometimes if she looks away, it?s just because she feels shy, so stay persistent for a little longer. Otherwise, if she clearly sees you and looks away all the time, you?ve probably been prescreened a NO. If you talk to her anyway, odds are she will just take you for every free drink you offer and if you are lucky, without a number at the end of the night. Or if she feels bad enough, she can play you for a longer amount of time when she?s known all along you stood no chance to begin with. Don't leave yourself open to that... no woman is worth that.
3. What to say: If there's strong interest from her end, hopefully she's put some thought into what things to say to you too, so this part should not be too awkward. The most important thing is to be yourself. If you are usually an awkward guy and manage to spit out some witty remarks this time round, that's great?but later on she?s bound to learn what you are really about anyway. This is where chemistry comes into play. It's not about finding the perfect woman, it?s about the finding the perfect woman for you.
4. When to call: Basically, the more into you she is, the more she wants you to call really soon and waiting longer will just make her insecure that you don?t like her that much. However, if she's not into you, the less you call, the less she will feel pressured to decide and the more time you will have to get to know her and for her to see your true colors and warm up to you. This is a standard game of a risk - the more you put yourself out there, the more you have to gain and lose at the same time. At this point, you have to trust your instinct.
Good luck...
It?s Friday night, where are you off to for the weekend?
If you are a man in sausage fest valley, you are about to go out in hopes of scoring yourself a cute honey. But when the numbers are stacked so much in your disfavor, it can be difficult, so what can you do to up your game?
Most men think they can follow a simple recipe: get better clothes, get in better shape, get a nice bling-bling car. And while this isn?t bad advice (as most woman usually would like their men to score the higher the better in these areas), this is really more the icing on the cake than the real bread and butter. Trust me, women know that indulging in excessive amounts of sugah is only going to make you sick without ever filling you up. That?s right, what women want is a man with more nourishment.
So what is it that women want? It?s really quite simple.
1. Confidence. You ever meet a guy who is totally average looking, not even all that funny or cool, even an outright jackass, but he seems to always get the girls? Most likely this man really exudes confidence, a quality so attractive that a woman can overlook a lacking in many other areas in exchange for an excessively high confidence rating. I still don?t know why this is so important to us, but it just is. Not only do we love men who are sure of themselves; more importantly, we respect these men.
2. Stability. This is really key for women. I consider myself a woman who really prides herself on being self-reliant, but I still like to know that I could depend on a guy if I wanted to. This is why some really emotional "good guys" who are always doing nice things for women and putting their hearts on the line continue to get their heart broken. We want a man can deal with his own emotional needs and is completely stable. It?s fine to be able to sympathize with a woman, but we also don?t want to date the kind of guy who we are going to constantly have to emotionally maintain. Showing emotional vulnerability is good later on, but not before we feel emotionally vulnerable about you too.
3. Trustworthiness. Some guys think they are being super slick and sly be delivering a bunch of lines, but really they sound too rehearsed. They men are really grating because they just come off as being slimey and conceited. Instead, women want a trustworthy man, which is what we really mean when we say we want a "nice guy" ? we don?t really want someone who will cry in our arms, just someone who can like us back as much as we like them.
So I hope this dispels some of the mystery of women ? why we seem to like the dangerous assholes instead of the "nice guys." We really do want good and trustworthy guys, but we need them to be really confident and stable too.
Okay, so once you've done all your self-improvement work and are the men you know every woman wants, there are still some keys to flirting etiquette that men should observe. These are easier to answer questions with really straight forward answers.
Tips for Meeting a Woman During a Night Out on the Town
1. Pick a receptive woman to approach: Sometimes women go out to hang out with their girl friends just to talk ? interrupt their deep conversation and be ready to be barked at. Other times, women are staring around the room, looking to meet men just like you.
2. How to approach: Once you?ve picked the right girl, the key is to MAKE EYE CONTACT FIRST - ALWAYS. If she returns the eye contact, she wants to meet you too. Sometimes if she looks away, it?s just because she feels shy, so stay persistent for a little longer. Otherwise, if she clearly sees you and looks away all the time, you?ve probably been prescreened a NO. If you talk to her anyway, odds are she will just take you for every free drink you offer and if you are lucky, without a number at the end of the night. Or if she feels bad enough, she can play you for a longer amount of time when she?s known all along you stood no chance to begin with. Don't leave yourself open to that... no woman is worth that.
3. What to say: If there's strong interest from her end, hopefully she's put some thought into what things to say to you too, so this part should not be too awkward. The most important thing is to be yourself. If you are usually an awkward guy and manage to spit out some witty remarks this time round, that's great?but later on she?s bound to learn what you are really about anyway. This is where chemistry comes into play. It's not about finding the perfect woman, it?s about the finding the perfect woman for you.
4. When to call: Basically, the more into you she is, the more she wants you to call really soon and waiting longer will just make her insecure that you don?t like her that much. However, if she's not into you, the less you call, the less she will feel pressured to decide and the more time you will have to get to know her and for her to see your true colors and warm up to you. This is a standard game of a risk - the more you put yourself out there, the more you have to gain and lose at the same time. At this point, you have to trust your instinct.
Good luck...
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