How to get rid of my GF's stalker?

[KarsinTheHutt]

Sounds more demented than me!

 

[PCAddict]

I agree with the previous responses. Call your local police. I am sure they would be willing to place a call to this kid's parents for you, or call the local police in this kid's town who in turn could call/visit the kid's parents. That should do the trick. It may seem like a small matter that the police wouldn't handle. But, they should. Some family/friends of mine who are police officers handle similar situations all the time. The intimidation factor should be more than enough to encourage a 16 year old punk to knock it off.

 

[ltk007]

Definately get in contact with the kids parents. They can take the computer and other stuff away from him. If you can't get her home phone numbers changed, at least change the beeper and cell phone, that's not hard.


If none of that works, hack the kid himself. There are plenty of tools that you don't even need to know anything about. Give him some of his own medicane.

 

[Napalm381]

You should probably be saving ALL the conversations you have with him, so you have something to show the cops.

 

[oldandquitemad]

Call his local PD now. You need to establish his behavior and your (and more impotantly her) objection to it. This may pay BIG dividends should he persist in his efforts.

 

[BD2003]

I have saved all the conversations, just in case it ever does come to that. I'd love to call his local police department, but I cant because she refuses to tell me his full name and where he's living right now. Believe it or not, shes trying to protect ME, and she honestly thinks hes totally harmless. She's quite the stubborn girl. Anyways. I would very much appreciate some more info on how to hack him just like hes hacking me, email me if you can. Thanks.

 

[kranky]

Wise words from montanafan: << If she's agreeing to talk with him, then it's not stalking, it's a relationship >>

I'm not slamming your gf (or you), but you guys should not respond to him at all. If you showed some cop the transcripts of the conversations, it's only going to undermine your claim that he's a stalker.

 

[PCAddict]

It sounds to me like she's protecting HIM. That would make me kinda suspicious.

 

[ForeverSilky]

BigDee, shouldn't you be going out with someone that's legal? If you have a younger brother just have him kick his ass. Hell I'll do it for a price.

 

[KarsinTheHutt]

ForeverSilky - Funny but not practical I think this stalker kid lives far far away from his target.

More importantly @ss kicking will lead nowhere but jail, and besides, this kid might seek violent retribution if attacked...

 

[BD2003]

Well she IS protecting him. Even though he's a pain in the ass, she doesnt want me to go out and hurt anyone. And she very well knows that thats exactly what I'd do if he was ever in front of me, even if I know its the &quot;wrong&quot; thing to do. Theres nothing between the two, if thats what anyone is thinking. He's referred to as &quot;the biggest mistake she ever made in her life.&quot; and they only went out for a matter of weeks. After hearing a few choice stories about how he was, I can definetly see why. This is a seriously one sided thing. If I ever found out that it wasnt, thats the second I stop caring about what happens between the two of them, and I'm the one that dissapears.

 

[chipbgt]

Not to knock age or anything....and not to knock females but....at 17, any female secretly likes attention, any attention, and thats what this 16 year old is giving her. It doesnt matter that shes not interested in him anymore, its just the fact that he shows a desire to be around her and talk to her that makes her still sympathetic to him. Just be persistant. change IM names, block his names and any aliases, send your conversations to the ISP if he has threatened you or her at any time, and just stop conversing with him period. Your girlfriend is not helping the situation much. Just some friendly advice

Red Dawn, you need to compile a book on how to treat idiots. You da man.

 

[DAM]

here are you two best options:


do what red dawn said, revenge is sweet.


or


dump the *little bitch and see if she will stop toying with both of you, you are 20 and you are playing little mind games with a 16 y/o over a little girl? wtf? man im sure you have better things to do? however if you really &quot;love&quot; this girl, then let her know. dont loose sleep over such petty crap, it appears to be up to the girl to make the move.



dam(decisions)
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*sorry about this, i just hate girls that play games
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[BD2003]

It may sound to everyone thats I'm dealing with two crazy little kids, but its not like that. One of the main reasons I'm going out with her is because she doesnt act her age. I've never once gotten a mind game from her, and with all the other girls before I got them in droves. Shes probably the sweetest girl on the planet, and she just wants to help anybody whenever she can. She thinks she can get through to this guy, but it just isnt working. I'm not into mind games, its just I really need this kid to go away, and right now we've got an agreement that shes not speaking to him anymore, no matter what. I have far better things to do, but this is preventing me from doing those very things. When someone threatens your gf, its not petty crap, and I would appreciate it if you didnt refer to her as &quot;little bitch.&quot;

 

[DAM]

sorry about the little bitch thing, but it just sounded that as good as she might be, there are priorities in life, hell im sure mother teresa had to call it quits on some people, so if she really cares for you, then she needs to stop playing the little kids game, since she does not act her age and all.



dam()

 

[0beron]

BigDee2003

Your girlfriend is not a biotch... but she is making a huge mistake. I had this problem a few times and the only thing that seemed to work was telling these annoying people off. They don't really listen to reason. If you are nice to them, they will keep coming back. Your girlfriend really needs to make up her mind to get rid of the guy and tell him in a manner maybe not so befitting a lady.

If she doesn't, it may mean she likes the attention, then you may need to find another GF. I mean, she should care about the way you feel about this matter enough to permanently get rid of this guy.

Good luck

 

[BiB]

Optimistically its a tribute to how nice your gf is that she still talks to this guy a lot - and at the same time doesn't like him calling (I hope).

Regarding him http://www.securityarms.com/gallery.htm has some nice &quot;tools for the job&quot;.

 

[I'm Typing]

Face the facts dude...you are 20, and you are playing teenager/high school games. Tell the GF to shove off, and get an adult relationship with someone who is of legal age. Frankly, what the kid is doing is illegal at the Federal level (harassing her using the phone, over state lines is a Federal offence); a call to your local FBI will confirm that--and a call from the FBI to his parent's house holds a LOT more weight than a couple of local cops.

Your GF (emphasis on GIRL) also seems screwed up--you say she acts more mature than her age, and then give us examples that prove just the opposite. Don't let the little head rule over the big head. Tell her that she has some growing up to do, and when she has grown up to check you out again. But it is time to move on...

 

[ForeverSilky]

BigDee, just give me his address, a plane ticket, a few bucks, and I'll handle it for you.

 

[PistachioByAzul]

A couple points that I noticed weren't brought up.

1) You're 20, she's 17. Something tells me bringing the police into the situation might not be such a good idea

2) You say he always &quot;guesses&quot; her passwords, and that he's a &quot;wannabe hacker&quot;. I would be willing to bet he put a backdoor trojan on her system. Have her run this program (The Cleaner) http://www.moosoft.com and tell her no matter WHAT not to accept any files from him. I think just getting rid of whatever means he's using to get her passwords alone should deter him from stalking any further. If he starts making phone calls, you can have his number blocked.

 

[RSI]

Block his phone number if he calls ever again.

For ICQ, put him on ignore and invisible lists.

Don't change PASSWORDS for email, change USERNAMES (and passwords, but username more importantly). Then he wont be able to guess the password, because he won't even know the username!

 

[SuperGroove]

Enginens9,

Absolutely right. When I think of College guys hitting on high school girls, I immediately think, &quot;cradle robber&quot;, or &quot;he's in it, to get some&quot;. Sigh...alls I can say to the guy who's girlfriend is getting stalking. Stop using the internet, change phone numbers...or just plain block his ass. Sigh...

Paul

 

[BD2003]

I dont know why everyone puts so much into the fact that I'm 20, and shes 17. I've been 20 for a month, and shes turning 18 in a month, so theres barely more than 2 years between us. Would it be any different between a college freshman and a junior? Sometimes I dont know why shes so nice and forgiving, but she really would do the same for anyone, including all of you guys. She just wants everyone to be happy and all that good stuff you know? I know how it seems like shes playing kids games to all of you, but I think it should be pretty obvious that I know her a bit better than most of you. I'm not taking offense to any of it, I know for a fact that I'd be saying the exact same thing to anyone else given the provided information. Look at it this way, theres a very good reason why shes got a guy stalking her, cause shes just special. It would be obviously better to change the email usernames, but he also robs her friends of their passwords, and its quite easy to figure out any new email addresses that way. I never made it totally clear to her before last night that I dont want her talking to him no matter what, but now that I've said it, shes agreeing with me that thats the only thing to do. Anyways, what do you do to go about the process of blocking a phone #? I would have no problem whatsoever with marching down to the police station or giving the fbi a call, but she isnt too keen to the idea. Like I said, she still considers him totally harmless, even though I think its obvious that he's not. Anyways, the kid is going to be in US until the end of the summer, after that he's going back to singapore, so if he keeps it up from there, then who the hell do I call?

 

[atom]

In the big scheme, 2 years is not that big of a difference, but when you and your girlfriend are that young you have to realize you are going to be criticized. I don't think it's right, but thats the way it is.

If he is moving out of the country, at least the actual calling should slow down unless he's some rich SOB. As for the e-mails/messaging, I'm not sure there is anything you can do except ignore him, get better security for your passwords. If worse comes to worse, I think Red Dawn has the best idea, turn the tables against him.

 

[PistachioByAzul]

Hey, I wasn't knocking you for being 20 and having a 17yr old girlfriend, I was just pointing out that certain aspects of your relationship might be illegal.

I'm puzzled why you seem to accept the fact that this guy can steal passwords. Whomever's passwords he is stealing must either be pretty obvious, in which case you should make them completely random, or else he's using a trojan to get the password info off your system. Since this seems to be the only way he is harassing you, I don't think the situation even merited coming here and posting about it. It's pretty easy to deal with password theft...