How to deal with roommate that doesn't clean up after himself?

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OBLAMA2009

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im a sloppy person so i just hired a maid to come in a clean every week. you could raise his rent and do that
 

zinfamous

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im a sloppy person so i just hired a maid to come in a clean every week. you could raise his rent and do that

I like this idea. Tell him that increased rent is to take care of his mess, as he has proven incapable/unwilling to do it himself.
 

thegimp03

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Get a cleaning lady. We found a nice lady on Craigslist to come clean our apartment every 2 weeks about 4 years ago and she still comes once a month - mostly because we've calmed down a bit the last few years and clean up after ourselves a bit better. She vacuums, cleans the bathrooms, cleans up the kitchen, and makes the place smell a bit better and it's totally worth it.
 

Kaido

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I have lived with roommates for about 4 years. My advise, don't waste your time, there is nothing you can do... if you make a big deal out of it maybe it will be clean for a few days or a week, after that it will be back to where it was. Only solution is to kick them out, or move your a$$ out or live alone. I stared living by myself as soon as I could afford it...

Yup, hate to say it but this is the best option. You can't change people. You can either be a doormat, make him mad at you and ruin your relationship with him (which blows because you're roommates and see him everyday and that's just awkward, which I say from experience), or he'll change for a few days and then go back to normal. Never heard of any roommates changing their ways permanently, ever.

I hated having roommates :awe:
 

Kaido

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Get a cleaning lady. We found a nice lady on Craigslist to come clean our apartment every 2 weeks about 4 years ago and she still comes once a month - mostly because we've calmed down a bit the last few years and clean up after ourselves a bit better. She vacuums, cleans the bathrooms, cleans up the kitchen, and makes the place smell a bit better and it's totally worth it.

Whoa...genius! :eek: I would have never thought of that, haha. You can get anything on Craigslist! :D
 

Kaido

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You could always just go out to eat for a couple weeks and let the dishes pile up - hang out at the library or mall every day instead of going home, except to sleep. Let him see what his habits do without you being around to clean it up. Then when he says MAN this place is a dump, you can say you haven't been home :D
 

KillerCharlie

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We had a roommate who was like that. We asked him kindly to clean up after himself but he didn't listen.

We basically then locked our own dishes up. When he left one of his dirty dishes out, we would take it and toss it on the floor in his room or his bed.

I'm not sure how well it worked, since he got kicked out of school two weeks later for beating up a student at a meteorology club picnic during a friendly game of frisbee.
 

Farang

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I was that roommate once, then one time my roommate came to me and asked if I could do the dishes more often and I said ok. From then on I did the dishes more often (I was more of a clean before using kind of person, he was more of a clean after using kind of person).

So I'd communicate first, straightforward and polite, and if that fails go to guerrilla measures.
 

thegimp03

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Whoa...genius! :eek: I would have never thought of that, haha. You can get anything on Craigslist! :D

Yeah she only wanted $10 an hour starting...but back when she first came we were in true party mode every Thursday through Saturday night and the apartment would always be a disaster when she showed up so we doubled her rate. If we'd kept her at $10 an hour I couldn't see her coming more than a couple of times and quitting. :p
 

iGas

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I have lived with roommates for about 4 years. My advise, don't waste your time, there is nothing you can do... if you make a big deal out of it maybe it will be clean for a few days or a week, after that it will be back to where it was. Only solution is to kick them out, or move your a$$ out or live alone. I stared living by myself as soon as I could afford it...
I second the motion.
 

Capt Caveman

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Since you've been too much of a puss already, how about just asking him nicely to clean-up after himself? If he says no, tell him you don't plan on being his maid anymore and that you're going to raise his rent to cover the cost of a maid service.
 
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Bill Brasky

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Since you've been too much of a puss already, how about just asking him nicely to clean-up after himself? If he says no, tell you don't plan on being his maid anymore and that you're going to raise his rent to cover the cost of a maid service.

I've changed my mind. This is the best idea, and has inspired me to hire a maid of my own.
 

DefDC

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I was that roommate once, then one time my roommate came to me and asked if I could do the dishes more often and I said ok. From then on I did the dishes more often (I was more of a clean before using kind of person, he was more of a clean after using kind of person).

So I'd communicate first, straightforward and polite, and if that fails go to guerrilla measures.

This. Once I hit college and got a taste of what TRUELY messy people are like, I became a much neater person. I didn't want to ever become THAT guy. (And it's much easier to get a woman in your place if you keep the kitchen and bathroom clean (Bonus tip for bachelors))

Just ask and see what happens. If not, raising the rent for a maid is genius.
 

Perknose

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1. Talk to him about it with no ultimatums.
2. If it doesn't get better, set a schedule and get a tub for the kitchen counter to put his stuff in so it's evident that it's his.
3. If it doesn't get better set the tub of his stuff in his room (not on his bed; you're doing this as a "solution", not to be overtly annoying) whenever it piles up. His problem should be in his space, not common space.

Best, most intelligent and most reasonable answer yet in a post not exactly full of them. :thumbsup:

Since you've been too much of a puss already, how about just asking him nicely to clean-up after himself? If he says no, tell him you don't plan on being his maid anymore and that you're going to raise his rent to cover the cost of a maid service.

Whoa, finally got to this response: Brilliant!
 
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freakflag

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Solution: FAP in his shampoo at every opportunity. Then at least you're getting your moneys worth in pure comedic gold.
 

BigToque

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I was watching TV when he came home and I was too lazy to talk to him. I cleaned the kitchen and put everything away this afternoon. He made himself dinner and made a huge mess. I just disabled his ability to download torrents and I'm feeling better already :p
 

gaidensensei

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May 31, 2003
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Come on, that's weak. Man up or you're telling ATOT you have a pass card.
Tomorrow the big dogs and wolves will be on your butt like bloodhounds on rabbit.
 

JEDI

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I was watching TV when he came home and I was too lazy to talk to him. I cleaned the kitchen and put everything away this afternoon. He made himself dinner and made a huge mess. I just disabled his ability to download torrents and I'm feeling better already :p

thats being passiver agressive and doesnt help

talk to him about it