How to break up with a GF of 3 years?

[Cdubneeddeal]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: DaiShan

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: archcommus
Explain the situation.

Wow that was hard.

How'd I explain to her that she's not wife material?

Surely you already know why she isn't wife material, so tell her.

yes, but won't that put a dent in her self-esteem? what if she does want to have long-term plans with me.

telling her that she isn't it would be the easy way out, but I really wanna protect her feelings - sugar coat it as much as possible

Screw her self-esteem. Seriously. You can't worry about that at a time like this. Just tell her the truth. The more you postpone telling her, the worse it will be. I just broke up with my girlfriend. For a while I postponed telling her how I felt because I wanted to spare her feelings. Well guess what, it was worse than what it would have been months before. Yes it might hurt her but she'll appreciate you telling her straight up how you feel rather than BSing her.

 

[imported_Pablo]

Originally posted by: archcommus
Explain the situation.

Wow that was hard.

 

[Vonkhan]

She's in the one in the red & black dress

 

[Cdubneeddeal]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Cooler]

Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

agreed unless she acts like 15 year old and fights with you all the time.

 

[SSP]

What is 'wife material' in your opinion? just wondering.

 

[bhanson]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: DaiShan

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: archcommus
Explain the situation.

Wow that was hard.

How'd I explain to her that she's not wife material?

Surely you already know why she isn't wife material, so tell her.

yes, but won't that put a dent in her self-esteem? what if she does want to have long-term plans with me.

telling her that she isn't it would be the easy way out, but I really wanna protect her feelings - sugar coat it as much as possible

Feelings are one thing, but don't sacrifice the truth.

Self-esteem is a personal issue. I would rather be told the truth so possibly I could know what I can work on, rather than a candy-coated version that is only meant to delay the inevitable.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: archcommus
Explain the situation.

Wow that was hard.

How'd I explain to her that she's not wife material?

Why not just send her a link to this thread ?

I totally detest the holiday breakup routine but if you feel you just have to do it during Xmas week don't tell her she isn't "wife material" just say it's not working for you.

Alternatively, you could give her a subscription to Match.com as her Xmas gift.

 

[Vonkhan]

Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

Too philosophical, spiritual, book smarts but no common-sense, easily infulenced by what others say, not practical about life, careless about important things (bank account, dogs, bills, etc), pays WAY too much attention to stuff like feng-sheui (or w/e) & karma

U get the idea

 

[Cdubneeddeal]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

Too philosophical, spiritual, book smarts but no common-sense, easily infulenced by what others say, not practical about life, careless about important things (bank account, dogs, bills, etc), pays WAY too much attention to stuff like feng-sheui (or w/e) & karma

U get the idea

And you just noticed all this now? Didn't you realize all of this after a few months? Or did you feel that you could just overlook those things and move on?

 

[Cooler]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

Too philosophical, spiritual, book smarts but no common-sense, easily infulenced by what others say, not practical about life, careless about important things (bank account, dogs, bills, etc), pays WAY too much attention to stuff like feng-sheui (or w/e) & karma

U get the idea

does she have a job?

 

[Vonkhan]

I really love her, but like I said ... it's time for me to start thinking about a family.

I don't want to do it with someone whose yoga class is more important than remembering to put the electric bill in the mail ... or while forgetting to pick up the dogs from the vet because she's so caught up in a phone conversation regarding Aliester Crowley ... I could go on & on

 

This is what I said to my ex "I love you very much. But I do not see us in marriage down the road...there is no us 5 years from now. I know it's gonna hurt like hell now, but I'll trade this small amount of pain for the amount of crap we would go through later on."

 

[Vonkhan]

Originally posted by: Cooler

does she have a job?

yup, a good one - she's an interior designer

 

[otispunkmeyer]

stay with her

 

[SSP]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: archcommus
Explain the situation.

Wow that was hard.

How'd I explain to her that she's not wife material?

Why not just send her a link to this thread ?

I totally detest the holiday breakup routine but if you feel you just have to do it during Xmas week don't tell her she isn't "wife material" just say it's not working for you.

Alternatively, you could give her a subscription to Match.com as her Xmas gift.

lol i completely forgot about that. This is going to completely destroy her holidays.

 

[Yossarian]

sit across from her at a boardroom-style table and say "YOU'RE FIRED" while making an odd cobra like gesture with your right hand.

 

[Chrono]

Wow. Took you this long to figure out stuff you don't like about her? Just go marry your video cards instead.

 

[Eeezee]

Put it in her poop chute, and when she asks what you're doing reply "I'm dumping you."

 

[Vonkhan]

Originally posted by: Chrono
Wow. Took you this long to figure out stuff you don't like about her? Just go marry your video cards instead.

No, I always knew what I don't like about her. All that's fine in a GF, but I wouldn't want my wife to be like that - - - and I started thinking about marriage recently.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

omg i just saw a great commericial for Sirius Radio.

This couple were on their 5th anniversary dinner and the guy bought a cake that had "I want a divorce" on it. Do that!!

 

[Eeezee]

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

Too philosophical, spiritual, book smarts but no common-sense, easily infulenced by what others say, not practical about life, careless about important things (bank account, dogs, bills, etc), pays WAY too much attention to stuff like feng-sheui (or w/e) & karma

U get the idea

Write this list down and tell it to her

 

[daveymark]

email her a link to this thread

 

[otispunkmeyer]

Originally posted by: Eeezee

Originally posted by: Vonkhan

Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal

Originally posted by: Vonkhan
She's in the one in the red & black dress

She's beautiful. Why isn't she wife material if you don't mind me asking?

Too philosophical, spiritual, book smarts but no common-sense, easily infulenced by what others say, not practical about life, careless about important things (bank account, dogs, bills, etc), pays WAY too much attention to stuff like feng-sheui (or w/e) & karma

U get the idea

Write this list down and tell it to her

yeah, dont just drop her like shes hot, (which she is....dayum hot!)

write down the things you dont like....and just talk with her, maybe she can change for you. this would also give her the oppertunity to tell you about the things she doesnt like about you.

your never gonnna like absolutely everything about a girl, theres always some annoyance.

you should work something out......eye for an eye type thing, if she changes some things to suit you, you change some things to suit her.

marriage isnt about being perfect partners....its full of compromises. those who deal with compromise the best...win

 

[Vonkhan]

... maybe I should wait till the holidays are over - for her sake. I really don't wanna drag it out, I feel like ****** thru the holidays but atleast I'll wont ruin hers.