i'm still in high school, and the term coolness basically means "great personality". u dont need to be smart, good-lookin, or wutever. all you need is the one thing everyone admires when making friends, which is personality. it could use some tweakin for everyone, but people like people who are different and respectful. sounds kinda typical, but it is really true. i know a kid who is a special ed student at school, and he is liked by everyone cuz he's fun, funny, always happy, really nice, and has hormones the size of the football field. i live in cali, and everything physically noticable is just an assumption of who the person is really on hte outside. it just takes time for people to know someone and then "coolness" breaks out. basically, as long as people like you and ur not shy, you can talk to anyone wihthout bein afraid and then that makes u more independent, and thats sumting not everyone learns in high school. btw, i'm not a geek or a nerd and i get girls, so believe me. 🙂