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How old is too old to live with your parents?

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Heller said:
Your so original. Did i tell you that already?:colbert:

edit, and please show me which post i said i was a drug addict? you were not even a member here when i revealed my habits. Im not ashamed of what i've done, so keep reminding me, JUST HOPE we never cross paths.

I'm done responding to the peanut gallery.
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lol, empty e-threats are always good for a laugh.
 
"Living with" is a misleading term. IMHO, there should be no reason to be too old to "live with" your parents. Saves money for everyone (assuming you help pay bills) and you can help them out as they become older and less able to do things for themselves they were once able to do. Anywhere but in the Western world it is common to find these living arrangements because of those benefits. Unfortunately, we look at taking care of the elderly as a disdainful chore.

There is a problem though if you're "living off" your parents.
 
I moved a few weeks before my first semester of college. But, my parents never really left considering they hooked me up with some money each month for food/rent...oh yeah and they paid my tuition 🙂
 
bas1c said:
Problem is, the minimum wage is under $10 for all states but the cost of living is not the same. It's not only in NYC that the cost of living is high. Oh yeah, $1400/month for NYC...*laugh*. Not even close.
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Ive seen rooms for rent for less on craigslist. You don't need to live alone
 
NetWareHead said:
I don't know what Italians you know, but thanks for lumping us all together in one category. I lived at home until I was 25 and because my parents wanted to help me and give me the biggest head start possible. The way I grew up, family togetherness was important and there was no rush to kick kids out of the house unlike my American born friends who had to scrape funds together to survive at 18 (and never understood our family closeness either). Even so, I paid rent, helped with chores/tasks around the house and definitely carried my weight. I was glad to be close to my family and the help provided was mutual. I enjoyed food made by mom, my laundry done by her as well, insured my car under my dad's name (since all at same address) to save money with his cheaper premium and got to live at home in a nice neighborhood instead of cheap apartments in shady sections of town; pretty much what was affordable to an average 18 year old. I was able to bankroll each paycheck from the start of my career, enough to make a 35% down payment on my first house when I was 24. My dad even gave me a house-warming present; all of the rent and utilities I had paid to my parents since living with them during my adult life, were gifted back to me.

So while I was regarded strangely for living at home, the head start was valuable and I now also own additional rental properties. Some of my friends who moved out at 18 are still renting or just buying their first houses (We are all 30 now). Being a "momma's boy" paid off and my future kid's can also be "momma's boys" too.
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Well said. The people that were kicked out at a tender age are merely bitter that they didnt get a head start like you.

Keep up the tradition. :thumbsup:
 
Marked for a little pick me up in the mornings. Anytime I feel like I'm a loser I'll just read this thread and realize their really are a bunch of losers out there and I'm not one of them.
 
Cerb said:
1. Who's paying for the job search? That's not free. YOU do.
2. Who's paying for shelter while you're not working? That's not free. YOU do.
3. Who's paying for food while you're not working? That's not free. YOU do.
4. Who's paying for transportation? That's not free. YOU do.
5. Where's the mystical money coming from, to send you to college? That's not only not free, but increasing in cost at rates far above all other non-medical expenses. YOU figure it out.
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Your parents are obligated to support you until you reach the age of majority...18. After that, anything they do for you is "above and beyond" their obligation to you.

Does that mean they have to kick you out at 18 or graduation from high school? Of course not...but they can...and often do.

Your parents are NOT obligated to pay for your education past high school. Does that mean they aren't permitted to do so? Of course not...but they don't HAVE to do so if it's not affordable for them.
 
FelixDeKat said:
I think its up to the individual families to decide. In this day in age, not everyone can swing a $2,000 house payment, especially flipping burgers at Mickey Dees.

No, not everyone makes $15 an hour so living with relatives until you find someone to live with or a good cardboard box under the bridge sometimes is the only option.

And furthermore.....

In lots of countries, most relatives NEVER LEAVE HOME! 😱
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Why do they need to have a $2000 house payment?

That's my biggest concern, what happened to just renting a place?

Everyone is like "oh but I can't rent a place as nice as my parents"...

no shit usually.

The thing that always gets me is they all talk about how they are doing it to save money...yet they never have any fucking savings. I know dudes going on 15 years at home and they have the nicest cars, go out every night, but don't even have 401k's.

They end up dating 18-19 year olds in the 30's and have to fuck them in their cars.

It's retarded.

To answer the question, there is no maximum age; however, it should be short-term and with a goal.

Lose your job, by all means move back home and regroup.

Get thrown out/divorced, move back home until the dust settles.

If you are doing this more than a year or two, you haven't grown up yet.
 
FelixDeKat said:
Well said. The people that were kicked out at a tender age are merely bitter that they didnt get a head start like you.

Keep up the tradition. :thumbsup:
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Nonsense. I left at 17 by choice, supported myself through school, still graduated early, and bought my first home at 22. Am I supposed to be bitter because I could have been even more successful if I had mooched off of mommy and daddy?

A financial "head start" comes at the expense of delaying entry to adulthood and forever forfeiting the chance to be a self-made man. Whether that's a worthwhile trade-off is for each individual to decide, but for me it wasn't even a choice. Dignity and self-respect before money, every time.
 
Venix said:
Nonsense. I left at 17 by choice, supported myself through school, still graduated early, and bought my first home at 22. Am I supposed to be bitter because I could have been even more successful if I had mooched off of mommy and daddy?

A financial "head start" comes at the expense of delaying entry to adulthood and forever forfeiting the chance to be a self-made man. Whether that's a worthwhile trade-off is for each individual to decide, but for me it wasn't even a choice. Dignity and self-respect before money, every time.
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Its nonsense to characterize anyone living at home as "mooching", latecomers to adulthood, sacrificing self-respect etc... While I lived at home, I carried my own weight, paid bills and even helped care for elderly grandparents and my sister. I was always grateful that my parents allowed me this opportunity to save money and advance further than my peers. Hearing how slowly friends of mine saved money vs myself bankrolling paychecks for a future house purchase should have had me kissing my father's feet for what he did for me. Where my family comes from, this is common-place and in no way reflects poorly on a man's or even a family's status, dignity or self-respect. To have kids and let them loose at a young age, with no help (especially when parents are capable of helping), is disgraceful. And, families who raise lazy kids that take advantage of parent's love and help with no plan to grow up; they are both disgraced. I believe there is nothing wrong with families helping their kids, as long as the kids understand the good deal they are receiving and accordingly act and reciprocate back to the parents (which IMO is a sign of maturity and proof of adulthood status on the part of the children). There is absolutely no room for bums or moochers in this situation. Those are the ones getting the boot at 18.

While your accomplishments are admirable, especially for the age you achieved them, yes you probably could have been more successful if you had more backing from your parents. I don't know your situation, but that's my guess.
 
This is a *very* broad question to answer but I will say that I start to get uneasy when someone is over 30 and doesn't have a really good reason for being at home. Recently divorced? Lost a job and moved back in for a year to recoup? Something of that nature? Fine. Been there since birth? Yeeeeeesh.

However I have acquaintances who live in separate structures on the property, come and go as they please, still pay rent, etc. I would say that's no big deal.
 
BoomerD said:
Your parents are obligated to support you until you reach the age of majority...18. After that, anything they do for you is "above and beyond" their obligation to you.

Does that mean they have to kick you out at 18 or graduation from high school? Of course not...but they can...and often do.

Your parents are NOT obligated to pay for your education past high school. Does that mean they aren't permitted to do so? Of course not...but they don't HAVE to do so if it's not affordable for them.
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So, you don't have an answer, and want to distract with a red herring (legal obligations).
 
If you're over 22 years old it's time to get out of mom's house. End of story. You've had enough time to graduate high school and college or plenty of time to start working a full time job. I've been out of my parents since 19 years old. I'll be 30 in 2 months. I don't see any possible way I'd end up back at my parents house. Even if I got a divorce I still have enough cash to get my own place. No excuse for being at your parents house IMO. If you're so broke at 30 years old you can't spend a grand to get your own place you're doing it wrong and you have no one to blame but yourself. I'd personally rather be homeless than move back to my parents house. Sorry I'm a grown ass man and going back to daddies house cause I couldn't save a $1000 in the bank is a fucking joke.
 
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I think you need to move out after the age of 20 or you will be like the homeless guy who call his 98 yo mother "mommy"
 
I moved out at 21, so based upon the examples in the posts so far, if anyone stays longer than my personal benchmark, they're failures, and if they left sooner than said benchmark, they're bleeding hearts who's parents bordered upon abusing them.
 
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