How old is too old to live with your parents?

[Golgatha]

Actually, if my boys are still in school, I don't think I'd care that they're still living with me provided they finish their program in a reasonable amount of time. Actually, if they're not married by the end of college and they don't want post college education, I'd be fine if they lived at home for a year or two just to get enough money to comfortably start out their lives.

 

[mrrman]

my wifes son is 26 and was asked to move out as we renovating our house...he had 7 months notice, was a freeloader and didnt want to work or even look...now he sees how life is like...I was on my own during my early teens and never had 1 handout...so far so good

 

[Powermoloch]

I couldn't put an age on it. If my kids were actively trying to better themselves by saving up for a downpayment on a house post college, or living with us while going to college to save on housing costs I respect and would encourage that.

If they are lazy asses still expecting to live for free and doing nothing to improve their situation, it's time to come up with an action plan with a deadline. They miss it, and they are on the curb.

^ this

 

[FelixDeCat]

I couldn't put an age on it. If my kids were actively trying to better themselves by saving up for a downpayment on a house post college, or living with us while going to college to save on housing costs I respect and would encourage that.

If they are lazy asses still expecting to live for free and doing nothing to improve their situation, it's time to come up with an action plan with a deadline. They miss it, and they are on the curb.

They go to the curb....even if they have a golden voice?

 

[TridenT]

I couldn't put an age on it. If my kids were actively trying to better themselves by saving up for a downpayment on a house post college, or living with us while going to college to save on housing costs I respect and would encourage that.

If they are lazy asses still expecting to live for free and doing nothing to improve their situation, it's time to come up with an action plan with a deadline. They miss it, and they are on the curb.

I'm skeptical.

Kicking your kid to the curb isn't necessarily going to really improve anyone's situation. Most parents are not going to do that because, as you may know, they love them. They'll instead try to, oh I don't know, motivate them to get a job/career/education/blowjob and then figure out a way to leave their house to live on their own to live a happy life with lots of wonderfully beautiful grandchildren.

 

[zanejohnson]

meh totally subjective...


i was out at 18, i still have friends that live at home (20-25).. it all depends on what your doing... school, its fine to live at home.. divorce, need a temporary place to go... it's fine...

deadbeat, smoking pot in mama's basement and not working/schooling.. not fine..

 

[Golgatha]

I couldn't put an age on it. If my kids were actively trying to better themselves by saving up for a down payment on a house post college, or living with us while going to college to save on housing costs I respect and would encourage that.

If they are lazy asses still expecting to live for free and doing nothing to improve their situation, it's time to come up with an action plan with a deadline. They miss it, and they are on the curb.

Much more eloquent than what I wrote. My only difference is that I can put an age on it, and that age is 30. I want my kids gone at some point.

 

[datalink7]

I'm 28 now and living with my dad. However, he is the one who moved in with me after he lost his job (economy cutbacks), got divorced, and was diagnosed with diabetes all pretty close to the same time. He's worked manual labor his whole life but now with diabetes it is hard for him to get a job in that line of work so he's had trouble so I had him move in.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

I left at 17, could not be happier living on my own, i have a great friend/roommate living with me and i love the fact that's theirs no rules in my house.

Gtfo before you 20 IMO.

you've really matured and learned responsibility while on your own.

aka. using your rich roomates money to check into drug rehab. lol. :thumbsup: priceless advice pal.

 

[ahenkel]

I think it depends on circumstances. I moved out inititally at 19 and did fine, but thanks to the economy and some poor choices I'm at home now at 31 at the request of my parents. They work and live a couple hours away so aren't often home. So I live here and take care of things, and keep an eye on my grandparents who live on the same property in their house.

 

[vi edit]

I'm skeptical.

Kicking your kid to the curb isn't necessarily going to really improve anyone's situation. Most parents are not going to do that because, as you may know, they love them. They'll instead try to, oh I don't know, motivate them to get a job/career/education/blowjob and then figure out a way to leave their house to live on their own to live a happy life with lots of wonderfully beautiful grandchildren.

You missed the part about the action plan. Figure out what they want to do, help them get there and set a deadline to get it done. It's not like you wake up one day and go "ok, enough with this shit, you're out!". Althought that arguably could be even more effective.

But the point remains, freeloaders do it because they can. The only way to correct that behavior is to stop enabling.

Parents should love their children. But that doesn't mean they have to like them.

 

[TridenT]

you've really matured and learned responsibility while on your own.

aka. using your rich roomates money to check into drug rehab. lol. :thumbsup: priceless advice pal.

I think we figured out that was a lie. Shit, everything he says is a lie...

 

[CVSiN]

lol, what? The bolded is fail.

I really doubt anyone has curfews and shit if they're 18 and in college but still living at home.

then they have really lenient parents.

I sure as hell wouldn't want my offspring coming in wasted at all hours of the night in school or not..
and I sure as hell wouldn't want them bringing anyone home either.. that's just messed up.. you want to stay out late and party and have sex do it at your own place. don't like the rules.. GTFO..

that's how my parents raised me even when I "stayed" with them for a week while my place was made ready after I got out of the Navy at age 28 I still had to follow household rules and curfews in my dad's home.. That's just common courtesy..

Coming in late disturbs the family and it's just plain tasteless to have girls or people over..

 

[nageov3t]

my legal residence was still at my parent's home during that time.

that's how I see it.

even though I was living in PA for 8 months/year, I had a NJ driver's license, I was registered to vote in NJ, 80% of my possessions were in my parents' house, etc.

I didn't consider myself to be "moved out" until I no longer had a bedroom in my parents' house.

 

[Harrod]

I graduated and lived at my parents house while attending community college, and for one year while commuting to college an hour away until realizing the money I saved in rent was being eaten up by fuel and car repairs. I offered to pay rent while living there, but they said no. That was pretty much the only help I got going through college from my parents.

I've always felt fortunate to have parents like them and never felt that I was obligated to be given anything after I was old enough to work. It still amazes me when I meet people who would drive their parents in debt to go to a private college to have the college experience.

 

[CVSiN]

that's how I see it.

even though I was living in PA for 8 months/year, I had a NJ driver's license, I was registered to vote in NJ, 80% of my possessions were in my parents' house, etc.

I didn't consider myself to be "moved out" until I no longer had a bedroom in my parents' house.

that's pretty much moved out by any definition of the word... 8 months away at any given time..

 

[BurnItDwn]

Depends on the situation.

If you mean somebody lives with their parents, and is essentially an adult child, who has no responsibillities.... then 18 or 19.

But, lots of people have parents who are having problems, and they can really use the help... merging households = 1 mortgage or rent payment with more people to contribute, it also means people who maybe can't drive any more because they are too old are more likely to get a ride somewhere. Also, means your elder mom won't be living alone, it means she'll have somebody around to keep an eye on her or look after her needs.

Thus, if a 20 year old is living at home, and helping their folks with bills, etc, or if a 30 year old moved back in to keep an eye on mom or dad, then that's perfectly ok.

Family should stick together, especially when times get rough.

 

[TridenT]

then they have really lenient parents.

I sure as hell wouldn't want my offspring coming in wasted at all hours of the night in school or not..
and I sure as hell wouldn't want them bringing anyone home either.. that's just messed up.. you want to stay out late and party and have sex do it at your own place. don't like the rules.. GTFO..

that's how my parents raised me even when I "stayed" with them for a week while my place was made ready after I got out of the Navy at age 28 I still had to follow household rules and curfews in my dad's home.. That's just common courtesy..

Coming in late disturbs the family and it's just plain tasteless to have girls or people over..

Rofl. I lived with my parents and came home about 4 times a week past midnight while I was still in school. They were completely fine with it because I happen to be quiet. Not like I ever would bring someone back home, but if I did then my parents wouldn't mind as long as I was reasonably quiet.

Heck, unless I came home really late (past 2:00) then my dad was still awake watching TV or something most of the time.

So, I think your parents are just anal and like to have power dynamics even though that really helps no one. It just causes conflict.

 

[FelixDeCat]

then they have really lenient parents.

I sure as hell wouldn't want my offspring coming in wasted at all hours of the night in school or not..
and I sure as hell wouldn't want them bringing anyone home either.. that's just messed up.. you want to stay out late and party and have sex do it at your own place. don't like the rules.. GTFO..

that's how my parents raised me even when I "stayed" with them for a week while my place was made ready after I got out of the Navy at age 28 I still had to follow household rules and curfews in my dad's home.. That's just common courtesy..

Coming in late disturbs the family and it's just plain tasteless to have girls or people over..

Mod callout? D:



Agree completely. Its soooo tacky to have sexual relations at 2am when your 35 with your SO at your parents house.

 

[vi edit]

Rofl. I lived with my parents and came home about 4 times a week past midnight while I was still in school. They were completely fine with it because I happen to be quiet. Not like I ever would bring someone back home, but if I did then my parents wouldn't mind as long as I was reasonably quiet. Heck, unless I came home really late (past 2:00) then my dad was still awake watching TV or something most of the time. So, I think your parents are just anal and like to have power dynamics even though that really helps no one. It just causes conflict.

That's how my parents were during the one summer I came back from college and on holiday breaks. Hell, they didn't even care that I was drinking underage so long as somebody else sober was driving. I just had to be quiet when I got back. Worked for us.

 

[Heller]

you've really matured and learned responsibility while on your own.

aka. using your rich roomates money to check into drug rehab. lol. :thumbsup: priceless advice pal.

shut the fuck up hater.

 

[Zargon]

then they have really lenient parents.

I sure as hell wouldn't want my offspring coming in wasted at all hours of the night in school or not..
and I sure as hell wouldn't want them bringing anyone home either.. that's just messed up.. you want to stay out late and party and have sex do it at your own place. don't like the rules.. GTFO..

that's how my parents raised me even when I "stayed" with them for a week while my place was made ready after I got out of the Navy at age 28 I still had to follow household rules and curfews in my dad's home.. That's just common courtesy..

Coming in late disturbs the family and it's just plain tasteless to have girls or people over..

your dads rough.

mine didnt care what I did as long as I didnt wake em up

and I never did. I didnt even come home sometimes and they never said a word about it.

but I was going to school 45 minutes away, and working a 20 hr/week job locally.

I moved back in again right before I got married as I didnt want to rent 2 places, and my parents didnt like cohabitation before marragie so I lived with them instead.

my dad is pretty strict and overbearing at times, but once I was working and getting good grades he didnt give a crap.

cliffs: moved out into college at 17: moved home at 19-21, moved out for a few years, came back at 25 for a few months before I got hitched and moved in with my wife

 

[PieIsAwesome]

Rofl. I lived with my parents and came home about 4 times a week past midnight while I was still in school. They were completely fine with it because I happen to be quiet. Not like I ever would bring someone back home, but if I did then my parents wouldn't mind as long as I was reasonably quiet.

Heck, unless I came home really late (past 2:00) then my dad was still awake watching TV or something most of the time.

So, I think your parents are just anal and like to have power dynamics even though that really helps no one. It just causes conflict.

Yeah.
My parents would work nights at the hospital all the time too, so they were always leaving late at night. When my step-bro was temporarily living with them for a few months he would come back from or leave to work in the middle of the night. They didn't mind if I left as long as I let them know beforehand, they just don't want me "disappearing" because it gets them worried.

As far as when is too old to still be living with parents- Do whatever is most pragmatic. Don't move out just for the sake of moving out and don't stay because you are lazy.

 

[nageov3t]

that's pretty much moved out by any definition of the word... 8 months away at any given time..

it doesn't really have any of the responsibilities of being on your own, though.

I didn't have to pay rent or utilities, go grocery shopping every day, balance a real budget, etc.

 

[Heller]

you've really matured and learned responsibility while on your own.

aka. using your rich roomates money to check into drug rehab. lol. :thumbsup: priceless advice pal.

Sound like someones upset that they STILL live at home with mommy and daddy.