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how much do you give at weddings?

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Originally posted by: spidey07
No, I don't try to cover the cost. They are the ones putting on the party, they are the hosts and I am a guest. They do not nor should they expect to recuperate ANY of the cost of the party, if they do they are rude, classless trash.

If I know them then a small gift they registered for. Giving cash is tacky unless you are direct family.
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yeah fuck that. there's nothing tacky about it. i go to weddings and see a couple-few gifts on the table and the card thing overflowing with cards. and if you try to tell me that everyone i know or everyone at these weddings is tacky, clueless, rude or otherwise shitty then you're just a eurocentric POS. every wedding is different. don't be such a fuckin hater.
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
200 bucks, 150 if we (gotta get out of the habit of saying that) - if *I* don't know them as well. but usually 200
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Wanna come to my reception?

Actually, we are asking people to donate to charity instead of giving gifts. And there will only be 12 people coming.
 
We just out of the US for a wedding. The $1400 tickets plus $500 in accommodations plus dress for wife(was MOA). They received absolutely nothing as a gift. After shilling out that much just to make it there, our presence at the event was gift enough.
 
Originally posted by: loki8481
Originally posted by: spidey07
No, I don't try to cover the cost. They are the ones putting on the party, they are the hosts and I am a guest. They do not nor should they expect to recuperate ANY of the cost of the party, if they do they are rude, classless trash.

If I know them then a small gift they registered for. Giving cash is tacky unless you are direct family.
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I think it's a regional thing.

like, *no one* gives non-cash gifts at NJ weddings except the parents/grand-parents who might give something expensive (ie: for my sister's wedding, her grand parent in-laws bought them a new dining room set)
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I'd never even heard of the "money dance" until I went to a friend's reception.
I thought that was pretty classy, let me tell you.
 
Originally posted by: dullard
Things are all over the board depending on location. You just can't answer that question on a forum like this.

For example, in Nebraska (my home state), it is common for the reception to cost $5/$10 per guest (chicken or sandwhiches). Sure, some couples might splurge and spend $15 (for a great steak dinner) or even $25 (for steak + lots of drinks + lots of appetizers + etc). But rarely do you see that. Typical gifts run $25 if you don't know them well to $50 if you know them well to $100 if you are close family.

Then move to a big city and mulitply all those numbers by 10.
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so if you're in NYC, LA, southern CA, then you multiply $25 x 10 = $250 not knowing them well
$500 if you know them well, and $1000 for close family, dam according to your formula, that is very expensive.
 
Usually $200-300 depending on how well I know them. If we really don't know them well, then something moderate off the registry.

I prefer to give cash because with few exceptions, folks can always use discretionary cash. Might be my cultural upbringing, but in an Italian family, cash is never considered thoughtless or tacky.
 
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: loki8481
Originally posted by: spidey07
No, I don't try to cover the cost. They are the ones putting on the party, they are the hosts and I am a guest. They do not nor should they expect to recuperate ANY of the cost of the party, if they do they are rude, classless trash.

If I know them then a small gift they registered for. Giving cash is tacky unless you are direct family.
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I think it's a regional thing.

like, *no one* gives non-cash gifts at NJ weddings except the parents/grand-parents who might give something expensive (ie: for my sister's wedding, her grand parent in-laws bought them a new dining room set)
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I'd never even heard of the "money dance" until I went to a friend's reception.
I thought that was pretty classy, let me tell you.
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money dance? 😕
 
Originally posted by: loki8481


money dance? 😕
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Imagine stuffing dollars down a strippers panties, then imagine you shilling out dollars to dance with the bride or groom during a reception. I see parallels.
 
Originally posted by: The_Dude8
so if you're in NYC, LA, southern CA, then you multiply $25 x 10 = $250 not knowing them well
$500 if you know them well, and $1000 for close family, dam according to your formula, that is very expensive.
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Give or take a bit.

 
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
We just out of the US for a wedding. The $1400 tickets plus $500 in accommodations plus dress for wife(was MOA). They received absolutely nothing as a gift. After shilling out that much just to make it there, our presence at the event was gift enough.
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You must have a really big cock.
 
I usually buy something that's about $100 on the registry. That's covered the cost of the meal and then some at the weddings I've been to. Granted, these have been friends' weddings I've been attending, not family. Once my cousins start getting married I'll probably give a couple hundred to each depending on how much I like them and whether they're 1st or 2nd cousins. I'll probably give more to my sister when she gets married.
 
Originally posted by: Aharami
Originally posted by: hanoverphist
none. if im already in for a present, thats what they get.
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so you give a boxed gift in lieu of money?
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:laugh: You're looking at it backward. Most people give money in lieu of a gift these days.

The amount the couple spent on the food, facilities, photographer, etc have no bearing on what I give them. My relationship with them is the only factor that is important.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
No, I don't try to cover the cost. They are the ones putting on the party, they are the hosts and I am a guest. They do not nor should they expect to recuperate ANY of the cost of the party, if they do they are rude, classless trash.

If I know them then a small gift they registered for. Giving cash is tacky unless you are direct family.
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my brother and wife went to this wedding reception where they were asked to pay for their meal.... yeh... the groom was a lawyer.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: spidey07
No, I don't try to cover the cost. They are the ones putting on the party, they are the hosts and I am a guest. They do not nor should they expect to recuperate ANY of the cost of the party, if they do they are rude, classless trash.

If I know them then a small gift they registered for. Giving cash is tacky unless you are direct family.
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my brother and wife went to this wedding reception where they were asked to pay for their meal.... yeh... the groom was a lawyer.
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Ok - now THAT's the lowest of lows. I don't I've ever heard of something that tacky.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: spidey07
No, I don't try to cover the cost. They are the ones putting on the party, they are the hosts and I am a guest. They do not nor should they expect to recuperate ANY of the cost of the party, if they do they are rude, classless trash.

If I know them then a small gift they registered for. Giving cash is tacky unless you are direct family.
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my brother and wife went to this wedding reception where they were asked to pay for their meal.... yeh... the groom was a lawyer.
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Ok - now THAT's the lowest of lows. I don't I've ever heard of something that tacky.
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i thought it was rather disgusting myself, and they paid for it then wondered what to do about a gift. : /
 
Originally posted by: mugs
Originally posted by: Aharami
Originally posted by: hanoverphist
none. if im already in for a present, thats what they get.
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so you give a boxed gift in lieu of money?
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:laugh: You're looking at it backward. Most people give money in lieu of a gift these days.

The amount the couple spent on the food, facilities, photographer, etc have no bearing on what I give them. My relationship with them is the only factor that is important.
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Exactly.
 
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