How many ATOT'ers have had to deal with a miscarriage?

[SagaLore]

Yes.

 

[jjones]

My wife's had two miscarriages. No big deal to either of us, it's just something that happens. We also have a beautiful 3 year old daughter that is a big deal to us.

In regards to your situation, I didn't get married until 35 and our daughter was born when I was 40. I get the impression that you're not near that age yet so you still have plenty of time.

 

[Chaotic42]

My aunt had like nine of them. She never had any kids.

 

[Bryophyte]

My genetics prof at university said that only 1 in 6 fertilized eggs leads to the live birth of a child (and that does not take into account abortion or stuff like that). Most of the time, women were never aware that they were pregnant (or almost pregnant) because the fertilized egg either does not adhere to the uterine wall, or is flushed out in the first few weeks because it was not viable. I think he's pretty close in those odds.

I had a very early first trimester miscarriage back when I was around 20. It didn't really hit me that I was pregnant until it was over. I felt a combination of relief (dodged a bullet so to speak) and a little sadness. It's hard to think that I could have a half-Japanese teenage kid right now.

 

[maziwanka]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
My ex and I had a rocky relationship. I had broken up with her at one point, and after not talking to her for about three months, she called me out of the blue to tell me that she was pregnant and that she thought it was mine. So we started talking again, and got back together a few weeks later. Shortly thereafter, she claimed she had a miscarriage.

Yeah, right.

how can someone lie about something like this.....

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: Iron Woode
How many ATOT'ers have had to deal with a miscarriage?
Topic Summary: very sad thing

Yes it is very sad. Sorry for your loss. Had same thing happen with my first wife with first attempt at pregnancy after we were married after College. She went nuts after it happened and divorced me. Don't know if she ever had any children. I never have , I'm getting into mid 40's

 

[Lola]

i am so sorry to hear that.
its hard to go through, and if this is how you feel, imagine how hard it is for her.
But, that is natures way of making sure that things are all ok.
nevertheless, its so sad.

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: Iron Woode
I was thinking about things from long ago and remembered when my GF was pregnant. At the time we didn't know she was pregnant and we were having relationship issues. We broke up and she later discovered she was pregnant. By that time she was already 1 month pregnant. We talked on and off for a month but she never mentioned it. After several months apart, we starting spending time together again and that is when she told me about it.

We had tried for nearly a year before to have a child. This is when things were going great for us. So it was quite a shock to find out she was pregnant but had a miscarriage after 2 months. I started having issues about the miscarriage and got very depressed. We were in no position at that time to be having kids. We started have issues again and one of the causes was the miscarriage. I think we both needed counseling, but neither of us went for it.

I have always wanted to be a father and believe I would make a good parent. Now I feel left out because the women I have gone out with since don't want kids and some don't want marriage either.

LOL. I am not getting any younger, either. Now I find myself wanting to settle down with a good woman and have a family.

Anyone else have to deal with miscarriages? My Aunt had 5 before my cousin was born.

Lucky for the child IMO. Why on earth would you try to have a child with someone you probably won't be with in a year or so? So the child can grow up in a split home? Way to go... :|

Next time you decide you want to be a father I suggest you find a good woman you can spend the rest of you life with and marry her first. It's much better for the child that way.

Hmmm.....

You failed to understand that before the miscarriage happened and before we had issues we were doing very well. We were engaged and we were looking at buying a home. So a pregnancy was not a big deal at the time.

I was living on my own and she was living with her parents.

Our ages were 25 (me) and 20 (her). She was in University while I was out of school and working full time.

Believe me she was/is a very good woman and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Her parents wanted us to get married.

Now that's all gone. She has her life and I have mine. Atleast her parents still like me, too bad I can't say the same about her.

BTW I am 38 years old now. I don't look 38 though.

 

[GasX]

Yes, my wife had one yesterday...

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: Mwilding
Yes, my wife had one yesterday...

i am so sorry. thats horrible

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Lola

Originally posted by: Mwilding
Yes, my wife had one yesterday...

i am so sorry. thats horrible

Thank you. Hey, at least I got a shitload of miles for charging the D&C... :frown: